I connect with people through shared experiences… I’m not trying to one up you😭 #shorts #adhd

[findlestick]

I noticed that even without interrupting, neurotypicals take the sharing of a relatable story as making it about us. But for us it’s a way of trying to make them feel less alone in their pain.

[bettycrash]

I have a friend thats adhd too, neither of us knew we were til the last couple of years. But our conversations are wild. She'll ask about me, then ill answer, she'll have a story that relates, then i have a story that relates to her story. This goes in for a while and the first story is long forgotten and now we have created a new dance on roller skates.

[heartvannilatornado]

The active listening and wanting to relate REALLY gets me.

[Lou-uo]

SO TRUE and then the conversation moves on before you get the chance 😭

[susanegley]

I have to remind myself that they don't want us to relate to them. They just want to talk.

[emilyoverby]

In support groups it is called crosstalk, like taking from the last person’s story and relating with your own story. Many support groups prohibit this, but ours doesn’t. We feel it validates each others experiences by letting them know that they aren’t alone in how they feel and what they’ve experienced.

[pixywings]

I can't even tell you how many conversations I have had to just walk away from because I'll have like five things I want to say relating to stuff, but the other people just keep talking. I can't interrupt because it's rude. Then by the time there is a lull in the conversation, and I can speak, I've forgotten the five different things i've wanted to say and they are no longer relevant.

[dragonfishxx]

Re-write the rules! It Is empathy and I will die on this hill!!

I think the key is to make sure they have the chance to fully share their feelings and perspective. Asking them questions about their experiences before and while telling your own story, things that relate it back to them, seems to really help soothe them.

Things like, I feel you, when x happened to me I experienced y, did you feel that way/ go through that too?

Seems to make people feel like you talking about your experience is still relating to them and involves their feelings. It keeps it still centered on them. Which is short-circuts the feeling that we've made it about us.

(Old ND, hoping to pass down the tricks I figured out before I had any idea why I was different)

[naofg]

Most of my close friends are neurodivergent and we're all just constantly telling stories to relate to each other and I love it! I don't get not doing it

[kirapascal]

I just love how honest and open you are in showing real experiences people are having. It's refreshing, and you're hilarious 😂

[ChristyCC]

Always on a tangent ❤And the conversation makes a turn and we both get distracted

[Bethj]

So beyond true I’ve known people where I tell them that when I’m trying to tell a relatable story with their story I’m only trying to be empathetic and not make it abt me they NEVER BELIEVE ME the second I start telling it even if I still remember it when their done talking they always say some form of “way to make it all about you” and I hate it but I have friends now who understand and do their best not to get mad if I unintentionally interrupt them bc they know if I don’t say it I will forget

[ahhmayzingKurea]

I didn't even realize how much I did this until I saw a video about this from you before. Now I realize it every time as it leaves my mouth but can't stop it. 😅

[rose_knight]

when i tell you i FEEL this in my soul and i am resisting the urge to talk about all the times i've had to resist this LOL (tho rn it's mainly bc i just can't be bothered haha)

[savageunitato]

OMG feels this shii to my core. I just don’t want you to feel alone 😭

[JH-beuw]

This is seriously one of the hardest things of my It's a daily struggle....

[silentshadows]

I'd say it VERY much depends on the conversation, there is a time a place where its okay to add to the conversation, but sometimes what people need is to just be listened to with no interrupting. It just depends on the person, and what the conversation is about.

[luade]

I was happier before they told me to stop interrupting. And now in a group of people no one is gonna let me talk

[karagrant]

Additionally, I'm more likely to interrupt for fear of forgetting the story/experience/idea.

[ScheelesGreen]

I am often told I am either making things up or I’m trying to one-up people because I want all the attention for myself. I’m just like no I relate. I want to let you know that I relate and how it is that I can relate.