What we need is role models to teach the next generation how to step up when we’re not in the room

[NurjahanBoulden]

Full Caption: While we’re on the topic of “saving” women, I am so grateful for the men who have intervened when I’ve needed help, because I’ve been in situations where it’s literally saved my life. AND I think it’s important to note that my girl and NB friends have intervened far more than anyone else—whether it’s when we’re out at night, walking home, or at the office, they have never hesitated to step in when I don’t feel safe. We’ve always protected each other. What we need more than anything is role models who’ll teach the next generation of boys how to step up when we’re not in the room…when we’re not there to protect or defend ourselves.

[Cercy-vmhm]

My hubby literally just went in to his chief the day before yesterday to help report a pre-da-tor along with some of his victims. He's been placed on administrative leave pending investigation.

My hubby used to be a LtCol in the Army and he used to be the one who these things were reported to and had to take action. He did. It enrages him to no end when especially leaders sit by and do nothing, thereby enabling this behavior. He, of course, also hates when others stand by and do nothing.
I am very blessed with an incredible man and husband on my side.

Edit: and He's teaching our boys by example. Hopefully they follow his lead...I know they'll never be pre-da-tors, but I hope they'll stand up for women when they see the need like my hubby does.

[earringfan]

Wow, that speech is so eloquently accurate! You pointed out exactly the root of the problem.

[jend]

What's so mind-boggling for me, is that I would excuse unwanted behavior with a shrug, and a smile; not wanting to be rude. Until a friend called me out on that, he said "if you don't call it out, you're making it so that another, will to have to suffer." That graced me the perspective I needed. ❤

[conniesierras]

We KNOW how hard it is because we women have been forced to do it since forever. I told my supervisor many times to NOT do what he was doing. I repeatedly tried. Other women spoke up as well. There were ~30 ppl at work, only 4 women. 2 other women went to his boss. I finally went to his boss to say fire me as I'd rather live in my car than put up with this crap anymore. Supv was MOVED. I didn't lose my job, but neither did he.

We are TIRED. If men stepped up, it would be very helpful.

[cramp]

Exactly exactly exactly. It's hard, and *THEY do not understand how hard it is, but *THEY tell us to do it all without thinking twice, then tell us we're wrong

[PaigeBartholomew]

Raw. Honest. Vulnerable stories from men.

Thank you!

[indriadrayton]

I had a man step in when I was assaulted. I so appreciate him.

[Sarcasticgardner]

Every word of yours is absolutely correct

[EmL-kggn]

Yes protecting others isn’t about fulfilling a superhero fantasy. It’s constant and exhausting work that requires so much accountability from other people if you want to get it even close to right…

I can’t speak for other women but I’m not even sick of being the only one who speaks up (or physically intervenes). I’m sick of people trying to shut me up because they’re scared of having conversations about stuff that I’ve had to actually experience since before my memories begin! I’m not scared. I’ve been dealing with creepy men since forever. If others don’t want to that is truly okay and understandable, but please step aside and let us deal with them!!!

[juliatarrel]

Changing the world, one conversation at a time.

[RollerGirlGang]

Standing with you 💜. My ex husband hasnt taught our son how to treat people well, I have. We talk about how the right thing isnt the easy thing (mostly) and short term pain is worth long term peace.

[lesliehunsinger]

You are such a beautiful soul. Thank you ❤

[person]

Exactly! People need to get past going things for reward and get to doing things for others. I love this video!

[tinaanderson]

The thing about predators is the shock. People don’t know what to say, especially if they have never had that experience before.
I attended a workshop by Feather Berkower called “Keeping Kids Safe” she taught us how predators operate. Without that training g I would not know what to say to my kids or to my clients parents.
You are very articulate and passionate here on social media, remember that not everyone can summarize a situation and assertively call out a predator and then follow through with action steps, at the risk of losing their job.
Teaching rather than preaching is action oriented my sister. Be the change.
POV. Survivor of general SA.

[ATontheDL]

Your videos give me courage and joy, strength and resolve. Thank you ❤

[LiviofdaScarf]

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for this video. I never got word one on this type of thing from my father. I only got a little bit from my mother. My parents taught me to protect others, and a bit of self defense, but that is pretty much it. I am almost 20. I don't even know who will have my back if I had to, God forbid, go through this difficult but worthwhile experience. I don't know IF anyone will have my back. But I know my worth. I know that no one has to have my back in order for me to do what I know is right. I've been through so much alone, emotionally speaking and sometimes physically speaking, so I know I got my back, and as fucked up as it is, that's all I need, and it's not just what I am used to, it's what I want. But I don't want that for anyone else, because it is SO. FUCKING. HARD.
So, again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. ❤

[BrainError]

I'm sharing this everywhere 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[hslobodnik]

❤ the hard conversations will change the world, one mind at a time

[mimsydreams]

We teach kids to stand up against bullies at school, but we never keep that momentum going for other types of bullying in life. As we get older, we're told to be quiet and don't cause trouble. Adult bullying is often excused or ignored. And when it's beyond bullying and becomes predatory, everyone looks away even more. We need to keep standing up.