Don’t be afraid to let people go

[that_llu]

I experienced something like that. It’s just, they suddenly don’t like you anymore. Hate you even. And you hold on to them because you want it to be like before…

[starlingeyed]

Absolute facts. I had to cut someone out of my life who always made me feel like I was the nasty one. It was only when I finally talked to friends who also experienced it that I realized it was not the case—that I was snapping and angry because they kept prodding and pushing boundaries. It was really hard to cut them out because it meant losing people and it meant this person says terrible things about me to my community. But ultimately, I feel so much better. These little wounds are so much easier to deal with than how painful it was to be friends with them.

[Evie_vi]

As someone who was in a toxic friend group for 8 years, leaving them was the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m so much happier now

[Kssz.Ebby]

You’ve helped me and so many others get through very difficult times, thank you so much Nirami ❤️

[Kalislan]

The worst pain is being around people who dont like you. Being alone is far more tolerable than feeling lonely.

[Pinkypenny]

I used to Experience something like this at some point they just stopped being themselves whenever i tried to say something they interrupted me and if I confronted them they would say its not that big of a deal they told me that i cant draw and to pick a different Hobby because i suck at drawing they Told me I wasn’t enough and i was a loser and Dumb but I Started watching Content Creators like you and felt more Confident in myself Thank you so Much Nirami You Saved me❤

[Chamomile.Tea]

I went through that for 11 years.
Had slander, asked if they were the cause, they kept denying it and saying if they ever found out who was slandering me, they’d have a beef with them.
Turns out yeah, they *were* the cause of the slander and kept lying that they weren’t.
When I called them out, they denied it again. I sent proof to their family since the proof came from dozens of people…
This bully finally goes:
“Y’know, it’s pretty destructive of you to ruin our friendship like this - so what if I slandered and made some rumors about you? You should’ve left it be.”

…Best decision was to not hate, or like them.
It was simply to become indifferent and wish them the best life.
Just… living it far, far, far away from mine.
Definitely good to leave those type of folks, it only causes chaos otherwise.

[cheesesconeswithbutter]

I had to do this recently, having someone who says its the best option makes me feel better about that decision. ♥️

[VRUFEVR]

“The reason you got attached to them is because you got used to it”
That hit hard

[shadysubject]

I had to cut off someone after 11 years of friendship. We became friends in 2nd grade and she was my only friend up until we started high school.

Freshman year she started becoming someone different, getting mad at me when I talked to other people, making fun of me, getting upset when my new friends wouldn't laugh at me with her. I stayed with her out of a sense of obligation. She'd been my only friend for 7 years, and I thought eventually she would realize that she was hurting me and then she'd be nice again.

First year of college (we went to different ones) she sent me a long message on Discord about how she thought I was "playing up" my depression to get people to pity me. I finally realized that she didn't care about me; that she didn't even believe most of the things I'd told her in confidence. If people are treating you badly, you don't owe them your submission. They're doing it because they know you won't fight back, and the only way to stop it is to leave them. If they don't care about you enough to stop, then you shouldn't be repaying them in your self worth. You shouldn't be giving them anything at all.

[KasperYourlocal-rgte]

I’ve been through this. But it is better to be alone than be with people who hate you or treat you bad. I love you ♥️

[spodsder]

I went through this all the way back in 6th grade, I had some awful friends, but when I let them go, I couldn't have been more relieved. I had other friends that loved and cared for me. You don't need those awful people! Because so many others love you! So many others will support and care for you! Look out for you too! Care for yourself too, and trust that you'll find that person to be there for you!

[WHOTFSTOLEMYWIG]

When I was in kindergarten there was this group of girls and we were all friends but they always left me out and I went to go tell the recess aid and she said quote on quote “find someone else to play with, if there’s no space inside a room, go to another one” never really thought about that till now.

[Varrbariouss]

It happened to me, only problem i was naive for years until i moves schools and i realized…jokes aren’t supposed to feel bad or bring you down…the shock i got when i was being the center of a joke but i was actually being complimented, i almost cried right then and there- and when i got home i did, because i finally realized that the truth. There are better people out there, so never stay with friends that don’t respect you. If you tell them and they keep doing it, even more you should leave because then if they cant respect a simple boundary, how can you trust them with anything else? With your personal belongings, with your secrets, etc

[AngelaAvendano-tttj]

when i was in 3rd-4th grade i had a toxic friend, She was much older than me, around 5th to 6th grade, she was petty and a mean girl. She bullied me and acted like we were best friends even though we were not and i noticed that she treated everyone else in our friend group differently. When we played outside, i would always be a villain or not accepted by whatever we were playing. One day i decided that i have had enough and started to rant to her about all the problems she had cause. We argued for a long time. Days later she found the mountain of text and started showing it to all of us. Right when we were having a good time listening to music. Everyone laughed while I ran away Then she did it AGAIN. I went home crying.Thats when i dropped her ass off and left the friend group. Never talked to her again but i have seen her on my bus since we are in the same neighborhood. This was years ago, but i still feel uneasy around her.

This is a shortened story of it too

[CircusLover]

I had this 'friend' I had in 4th grade, I call him Oreo. Whenever he got in a fight with our friend group he would fight us physically. Then he would say 'sorry'. Then when we got in a fight again he would say he didn't mean it when he said 'sorry' I was the only girl in our friend group and they were all boys. One day he confessed to me that he had a crush on me, but I was too scared to tell him I didn't like him, so I lied and said I did too.He has been rejected a lot in the past since he had a bad personality and he wasn't attractive. Then the next day he thought we were dating. I told him we weren't then he was sad. I confessed that I didn't have a crush on him and I lied, crushes can ruin your relationship. I regret lying to him. The next day he said he didn't have a crush on me anymore. When boys get rejected they deny their love for that person.

[Fancypantsvr]

As a famous cloud said in battle for bfdi “i love collecting “friends””

[Octo_of_the_QIA]

Thank you for the advice, nirami. I needed this.

[frogball]

this is so true. I stayed with someone for 8 years and I've felt better in the 3 months since I've left than I have in any of those 8 years.

[Super_Gamer]

This video is what I needed right now. Thank you, Nirami!