5 Signs It’s Breadcrumbing, NOT LOVE

Is it love, or is it breadcrumbing? Are you feeling like you're constantly being led on, only to be left hanging time and time again? You might be experiencing breadcrumbing – a toxic behavior often employed by narcissists to keep their partners hooked for their own narcissistic supply.

From breadcrumbing from an ex to classic narcissistic breadcrumbing examples, we break down the telltale signs of this manipulation tactic. Don't fall for the illusion of love when you're actually being manipulated. Tune in to learn how to recognize the red flags and reclaim your power in relationships. Knowledge is empowerment!

#manipulation #narcissist

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Sarimopi (IG: sarimopi)
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Have you ever heard of this term Breadcrumbing before?

[boxminded]

-Uncertain situationship
-inconsistent communication
-Lack of future planning
-No personal investment
-Hot and cold behavior
-Temporary change

[YodasTemple]

If someone tries to play any mental games, that should be a dealbreaker. People with healthy self-esteem refuse to play games and trust themselves to find someone who will be straightforward with them.

[fernandalbauer]

After my divorce, I unfortunately experienced breadcrumbing. Spent 5 months. I got really tired and “ghosted” the guy. Now I’m with a person that not only gives me the loaf, but brings also the supper. Never been so happy.

[Sxkhilethegr]

It doesn't matter how attractive they look, breadcrumbing is bad for one's mental health. LEAVE, now that's self respect.

[AC-nigt]

This is why I'm scared and horrified of dating. People aren't what I'm looking for in a long term haul after marriage.

[texastea]

Once you get a feeling that someone is giving you these type of vibes stop all communication.

[MistyMoonie]

If i ever was in a relationship, the 5 most important things I'd give my partner are
- Personal space and time
- Support
- Take accountability in the relationship
- Solve the relationship
- Be genuine to them

I dont want my partner to end up being manipulative

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 intro
0:42 An Uncertain situationship
1:13 inconsistent communication
1:41 Lack of future planning
2:18 No personal investment
3:07 Hot and cold behavior
3:31 Temporary change
4:29 outro

[danielpam]

This literally spelt out my last "relationship". Absolute torture full of uncertainty and anxiety. I wish I didn't make so many excuses for her, and just accepted the fact that if she actually wanted to, she would. Always thought maybe I was the problem, and I was simply not understanding her enough, but the reality was, I was Bread crumed as a source of attention and validation without any real desire to keep me. It's hard to process and I'm still processing it.

[ezzjn]

This is exactly what I experienced in a recent relationship - such a painful and demoralising experience 😤😓
Remember, while your value is not defined by the way others choose to treat you, you set the example. Do not tolerate poor treatment. You deserve better! 💛

[yaboyjosh]

Breadcrumbing is essentially just playing mind games

[KristenRJarrett]

nice video. I wake up hoping it was just a bad dream. but reality always hits he's gone. no matter how much I tell myself to move forward, my heart refuses to let go. I just want to turn back time and hold onto him a little tighter.

[drw]

So what we've known for decades as "mixed feelings" is now a formal term. Got it!!

[TheMagicman]

I have not only seen this with situations of love, but in friendships as well.

[seanryan]

I wasted my 20s on women who breadcrumbed me (this was in the 90s, long before there was a name for this behavior, although if I'm keeping it 💯 I can't say for sure that knowing it would have done me any good).
It was in my 30s, when I finally got into recovery and actually did work on myself that things changed, including my approach to dating. I set boundaries, which ultimately led me to the wonderful woman I married.
We celebrate our 20th anniversary next month.

[brain_respect_and_freedom]

Having experienced breadcrumbing firsthand, I've come to realize that it's not our fault. We all deserve open communication and mutual respect in our relationships. Here are three tips on how to deal with breadcrumbing:

1. Trust Your Instincts: If you feel like someone is breadcrumbing you, trust your gut. Don't ignore red flags or dismiss your feelings.

2. Set Boundaries: Clearly communicate your expectations and boundaries early on. If someone isn't willing to meet them, it's a sign that they may not be serious about the relationship.

3. Focus on Self-Worth: Remember your worth and value. Don't let someone else's inconsistent behavior define your self-esteem.

[danikabrison]

I simultaneously hate and love when these videos explain what's been happening to me...feels bad bro 😔

[KL-zglu]

It's interesting when someone has done this before, wants you back, then does it again. Cut ties at this point.

[amelittaberretta]

40 years of uncertainty, filled with fear.