'How can I properly discuss things with my [NT] wife in the heat-of-the-moment?'

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[christanice]

Wow, I just learned a lot.... And I'm the NT wife!!! My amygdala gets overwhelmed and I can't function correctly in the heat of the moment also! Thank you so much Mark, you are helping my ASD husband and I so much with your videos.

[TourWithMe-hbpq]

It's even worse when one of the persons in the relationship has ADHD. ASD and ADHD combonation partners both have to work a lot on communication skills.

[addchoices]

Problem with actually getting back after declared break. Still can't discuss w/o defensive blaming, denying. Extremely frustrating

[karinbrownbarrios]

I was wondering is it acceptable for my ASD husband to scream (at a level that puts the fear of God in me) at me for an hour? I'm not allowed to get up or if I raise my voice even a little bit he loses it. He uses his condition as an excuse and he doesn't think it's abusive or that there's anything wrong with what he's doing. Would do this at 4:00 in the morning and then when he was done just go to bed and I'd be up crying all night. I know that I have done things that were wrong but I can't take it anymore. He does it to the kids too, & they are terrified of him.

[jc]

Unfortunately, my aspie has a hard time reading and writing! LD in addition to ADHD and Aspie.