The #1 Standard You Should Have for Yourself

Are you giving yourself as much love as you give others? If you‘re not, what is holding you back? Let me know in the comments! 👇 / / Thank you @aliabdaal for having me!

[mariaelisanaimegiovanardim]

This guy is becoming a wonderful philosopher

[MissNandita]

We are so focused on making sure other people are happy that we forget about making ourselves happy. We forget to include ourselves in the equation. That leads to abuse by other people. Thank you, Matthew. Wish i knew this years ago. Wouldn't be sitting with stress induced cancer today.

[prafulghale]

'I have to include myself in the calculation'
Well said matthew, often times people forget themselves cause they are so much invested in the other person.

[smolfrenchbean]

We accept the love we think we deserve

[purvamandlik]

Thank you for saying this out loud. I hope young people are listening.
My parents would call me selfish if i didn't sacrifice my comfort for others. It has shaped me very strongly.

[Dragonmoon]

Agreed . . . However, there are people who utilize their "love" for people or need to be in a relationship so they have someone "special" to focus their attention on. As a means to avoid their own problems and issues.
In which case, they have no bare minimum standards.

[fsr]

Thank you Matthew for reminding us.
For caring for others as much as
you do. 🌻🌷⭐️

[trueloveforever]

This is a fact and as much as I know this, I appreciate the reminder.

[jklmnoqr]

Dear Matthew,
Thank you for reminding us about this vital point. Have a great day.💐🌷🌺💐🌷

[nikkyshamz]

Yes. Thanks for all you do, Matthew. I've learned a lot on your channel. My self-esteem is in a better place these days ❤❤🎉

[marialucchese]

😊Absolutely great advice. It blows my mind how perfect this is.

[amygerstle]

Such a good video but after awhile I stop giving love and give up altogether when it becomes one sided or disappearance altogether without talking about it. So after awhile I become a hermit ❤

[JDfaith]

Yes amen 🙏🏻 and that’s what has been so challenging is having that love you give to others’ reciprocated. I’ve always gave gave gave because I genuinely cared but it’s not returned. It makes me really sad 😔. Maybe that’s an expectation that just isn’t reality.

[WandaIraola-bs]

Thank you for reminding me that I deserve attention as well

[djicebreaker]

Agreed 👍 I deserve as much love as I give out, ℹ sometimes care to much, it’s time step back and love myself more, but I still have time for others and still love them for who they are, even though i have busy schedule

[karishmabagla]

Damn 🤯, the way you put it Matt! Very philosophical and very sweet! 🥲

[CarrieLovesLife.]

Thank you.
While I know this on my bones, it still hits differently when it comes from someone else.
I am recently divorced after a disappointing 4 year marriage, where my partner ‘showed up’ consistently before our marriage, and then seemed to think marriage didn’t require sustained effort.

(PS… why do men (& women) do this? Maybe a subject for a video. I don’t feel like I was ‘love bombed’ or that he was a narcissist, I just didn’t feel valued anymore after the ink was dry on the marriage certificate. You think you are making a sound decision based on their behavior prior to marriage, and then they just become someone else. 😢)

[IfYouSeekAmy.]

Bro looks exhausted in every video lately. It's time for a rest & recharge vacation 😴 We can wait for your content until you're at 100% again.

[danipandaxo]

Just told myself this in my car after getting stood up tonight and I sent some lengthy voice messages and basically said f off.

[eeomwyu]

Equal standards! Equal treatment! Otherwise it's hypocrisy, double standards.
Treat others not better and not worse than yourself. And treat yourself not better and not worse than others.
Apply equal standards to all!!!
But it's easier said than done. Most of us treat others better (or worse) than ourselves, unfortunately....