Uncertainty Turns Women On and Spikes Attraction | Benefit of No Contact

According to a study published in the journal Psychological Science titled “He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not… Uncertainty Can Increase Romantic Attraction,” anxiety has been shown to increase a woman’s attraction for a man.

These days, it’s often more beneficial for a man to bring a sense of anxiety and uncertainty into a relationship with a women as opposed to bringing a sense of security and certainty.

Women, of course, don’t enjoy being thrust into a state of anxiety. But results are what count here, and research shows that women feel heightened levels of attraction for men when they feel anxious. Again, it’s not our concern whether this is unethical or immoral, it’s simply a matter of knowing what women respond to and what actions get results.

Women don’t respond to safety and security with happiness, loyalty, and affection. In reality, when a woman feels safe and secure she’s more likely to pull away, create unnecessary drama, get bored, and lose interest.

To grab a woman’s attention, you must first give the impression that a relationship is the last thing on your mind. If a woman has to fight to be in a relationship with you, she’ll find you even more irresistible and charming.

Numerous psychological studies show that objects and people are perceived to be more desirable and attractive when in limited supply. This is the same reason why people covet diamonds—a mineral perceived to have limited availability.

If diamonds were in abundance, people would no longer spend thousands of dollars to acquire them. The same concept applies to relationships. If you actively seek love from women and try to make a woman feel safe and secure, you send the signal that your love has little value because it’s easily acquired. You instill neither anxiety nor scarcity, and as a result, your value as a romantic prospect is greatly diminished.

If you want to maintain attraction with a woman, right from the moment you first meet her all the way through to a long-term relationship, then I highly recommend you get a copy of my book Atomic Attraction.

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Chris Canwell

[Dajen_Tk]

This guy is like a female scientist or wizard. He knows everything

[harizraze]

A girl I've been ignoring for 2 days after she said she just wanted to be friends, just texted me right now. Lol. You're awesome man!

[kasramohammadi]

Whenever I see such advices I realize that men are truly more sensitive than women, because we expect a secure and calm relationship while they are like this

[max__pain]

It's just like a cat, give them too much attention and they get bored. Even as a man i can get tired of a girlfriend smothering me, constantly messaging me and seeing if i still like her. It's not only a female issue.

[HAPPYPANDA]

This is what I'm trying to do the girl I am dealing with now. I've given her so much certainty this year that I'm sure she feels that she "has me" and can go away for weeks at a time and come back at any time she likes and I'll take her back so to speak. So I'm trying my best to ignore her, give her uncertainty and make her wonder where she stands with me.

[ierickgonzalez]

Men are purpose driven not relationship focused which is why men actually have all the power in relationship.

Women hold key to sex — men hold the key to relationship.

[m.i.]

You're reference to scientific research always reassures me on your knowledge. Also you calm and steady tone relieves anxiety.

One of the very top coaches!

[YoungScato]

This book “Atomic Atraction” is the best book on how to deal with women. I bought it it’s hands down the best book ever on female nature. CONGRATS ON 70K subs Chris

[ryuhayabusa]

Lol. you better believe this. I tried it out myself. when I started talking to my ex gf again, things were okay but she wasn't excited to be intimate or affectionate towards me. As soon as she figured out that I had 2-3 other women that were interested in me, she became crazy, she was all over me touching me wanting intimacy and constantly trying to please me. She also told me that she didn't sleep the night because she was worried that I would choose someone else over her, this is all due to the uncertainty of how I felt about her. So you better believe that IT does work.

[hookwill]

Woman: "Why aren't you talking to me?"
Alpha: "Prove to me why I should"

[davidalen]

The best advice out there...thank you Sir

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So on 30 March me and my girlfriend we have anniversary, and when we started the relationship i was to focused, i wanted everyday to go out, and many many other things, that i just showed her that i was so focused, and everything i needed do to by myself, showing her love, being romantic, etc etc, but she wasn’t so romantic, but since 2 months, im not showing her so much attention, i‘m not to focused in the relationship, and you know what that, now she is so focused at me, she says me things that i never heard before, she is 100% in love with me, she says me that we should go out everyday, we should spent more time together and that feels great, i gave her so much attention and she was like bored from this, but not no moore the attention that she haded from me, and now she totally different, that feels great.

[titoiii]

keeping a woman in a state of uncertainty might be immoral from a certain point of view but what about women behaviors are they ethical ?

[neshifuturo]

many times when woman is atracted to you she looks scared and thats weird

[kedr]

I have just bought your book to handle jealousy! Hope it will help!

[michaelpassmore]

It’s just annoying how if you like a girl and you want her to like you, you have to act like you are less interested in her than you actually are.

[perpetualjon]

Ok I'm going to say it... This concept has been said time and time again. While I understand it, and have seen it in action in my own life... It flat out just makes me sad. It makes me sad that you have to pretend to not care about a woman so that she is conditioned to desire you. How in the hell do you maintain that for a marriage?? The female psychology is truly depressing to learn about. It shows me time and time again exactly why women consistently pick men that don't give 2 shits about them when there is another man just waiting to pour out so much love on her it would never run out. There are so many men in this world that are capable of loving a woman in incredibly remarkable ways that will die alone because they don't know how to feign disinterest. What a pathetic condition to be bound by... At least I have met and dated women that do not conform to this mindset in the past. It gives me hope that there are still exceptions to the rule.

[agbordaniels]

Very short n concise videos, straight to the point.

[NoName-zbgm]

This is happening to me. I asked her out and she declined. So I pulled away and now it seems she might want me even more. Whether she comes back to me is another story and only time will tell.

[alessbritish]

Please Chris, could you explain me how to express my love without feeding her ego? Or how to find a balance between distance and closeness? It's difficult to me, I don't know how much complimenting, kissing or just flirting do around her while trying not to seem "too accessible" but neither "not accesible at all".