5 AWFUL Phrases That Lower Your Social Standing

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Welcome to another Charisma on Command video where we talk about phrases that kill your charisma. In the past, I've spoken a lot about phrases that you're gonna want to add to your vocabulary in order to become more charismatic and persuasive. But the truth is far more common are phrases that you currently have in your vocabulary that are killing your charisma, that are making you far less persuasive, and that are getting people to fight with you.

So in last video, I discussed some of the things you definitely want to say in order to persuade people, but far more common are the things you definitely DON’T want to say. So in this video I want to share 5 things I hear all the time that make people much less likable and less likely to be able to persuade anyone.

0:25 Charisma tip one is to tweak, "No problem"
1:33 Charisma tip number two is to not say, "You messed up"
3:19 Charisma tip three is the Preemptive disqualification
4:36 Don't say, "You always/never" followed with a negative comment
6:15 Being specific can also help with charisma and show confidence

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[TCBabcock]

"Let's imagine you have a friend.." I'm going to have to stop you there.

[rektonhell]

Cant kill your charisma if you dont have one

[DraculaSWBF]

Instead of saying, "This story isn't entirely truthful", say, "Ya'll ain't gonna believe this."

[Charles-]

This channel is just a guide on how to politely manipulate people and I’m here for it

[rossburrow]

I noticed a year ago not to say "You already told me that" when a friend tells me a story that I've already heard, instead "I remember you telling me this" sounds more genuine.

[greynotgray]

"No problem" to me could mean, "it wasn't a problem for me - to go out of my way for you. Of course I'd do it, we're good friends. No problem." That's what I hear.

[mhlib]

pretty sure the reason why people say "no problem" is because most people can feel like asking for a favor, even a simple one, is a huge burden on the person helping them and so, to reassure them that it's not we say "no problem". honestly if my good friend said "happy to help" I'd give them a really odd look because it just sounds weird.

[lilacDaisy]

Me: When you ..., I feel ...
My mum: Oh, psh! You're too sensitive.

[billclinton]

"I did not have sexual relations with that woman"

[jeffalong]

"So that your natural charisma can shine."
Bold of you to assume i have one.

[zachkunz]

A video on email etiquette would be incredibly helpful. I've probably lost plenty of positions just to poor emailing wording

[CaylieandTim]

You’re so right about saying “you always/never” being a very bad idea!!

[IK-einu]

1. Glad to help
2. There may be a mistake. Let’s figure it out?
3. Frame positively
4. When you I feel
5. I’d love to help you by

[chickendrawsdogs]

"The best way to get someone to do something is to make them think it's their idea." - Alan, The Amazing World of Gumball

[candycane]

This channel is so awesome and I love it! It all kind of boils down to "treat other people how you would like to be treated, be kind, and lift others up in action and speech." these tips are sooo needed in a world that seems to stress stepping on other people/guarding yourself to get ahead. Couldn't appreciate the positivity of this channel more!

[jonwick]

"No problem"Charlie, we'll try not to "screw up" these tips and "I don't know if everyone agrees but", "you always" make great videos so "thank you in advance"😂

[DavidErickRamos]

Good advice man. Super guilty of the "No problem" one and will start working to change it!

[aaronlewis]

Most of your vids boil down to being a positive person. Thanks for helping me be happier!

Stoicism + charisma on command = better me

[davidkopec]

I play music professionally. #3 kills me for years. So many people want to get up and start the song with this qualifier. “Hey I just learned this, so go easy on me…blah blah blah”. It’s the absolute worst thing you can do. You instantly invite scrutiny where there was none, and even if you perform well, people will think you are a hack, anyway.

[taylorbrown]

1) Don't reply "no problem" when a friend thanks you, you should say "happy to help"

2) Don't say "you screwed up"/"you messed up" to a waiter, you should tell him "I think there is a mistake, could you help me to figure it out?"

3) Don't say "This is not great/interresting but..", just say "This is a topic/song that might interrested you"

4) In a fight, don't use "you never/always (blabla)", you should say "when you (blabla), I feel (blabla)"

5) In emails, when you ask something don't say "I'd love to ask you about (blabla)", you should should turn it as a gift
Ex: don't write "I'd love to be in your video" but "I'd love to help you"

Great video!😄