I SHOULD Suck With Girls... Here's Why I Don't

I'm not a big fan of playing the victim, so you will almost never hear me complain, but realistically, I wasn't "SUPPOSED" to be good with girls. Here are the key details that allowed me to succeed "against the odds".

📑Outline
00:00 - Intro
00:32 - A harsh truth…
03:05 - One major thing
05:05 - This changed my life
08:45 - This mindset makes the difference.
12:00 - Positive feedback loop

[shmovin]

Todd is truly proof that obsession beats raw talent every time

[DracThaMac]

Imagine you had backed out of the situation in that museum. Maybe this channel wouldn't exist. Interesting how these split second decisions change our lives.

[cobrakaiisback]

lots of approaches over many years having very high social intelligence and being well groomed and earning a decent living can overcome the other things. The reality is no one on earth has a 100 percent close rate not even Chad. Todd had to do all this on his own and I salute him for it.

[yoyojuana]

What Todd did:-
Stopped being shy and caring about results, trained his "machine learning model" with more and more and more girls, tested them again and again, and kept getting better results while learning something new.

[mishaknyazev]

I took action when I was 16 and it resulted in 6 years of fighting with PTSD😂 I literaly got panic attacks when I was at the parties or was thinking about aproaching or writing anything to the girls I actually had a chance with. At the age of 23 I finally defeated PTSD, got my job together, polished my body(gained like 30 kg of mucle, I was 65 kg when my hight was 190 cm), and then I ran into this chanel, learned everything that I could imlement in my game(which is hard when you have inborn stutter) and I got really good results for zero expirience virgin who lives in a litle atomic town in the midle of great russian nowhere with a very limeted amount of girls. So If you got really unlucky growing up, you still got a chance, but it would take a great amount of work. Even now I have to work really hard keep my body in shape and ability to speak without making my listener ears to bleed, keep positive mindset, and also gain experience to get a well paid job in a major city.

[curiousconsultant]

I noticed true results only start when you kill your EGO. In this story you told how your parents raised you to be result driven and through chess and soccer you had the mindset of practice makes perfect, it means you accepted early on that not knowing something is the beginning and not the end.
All my friends who suck with girls have the same problem (I myself had it as a 22 year old virgin just over 3 years ago) they all want to convince themselves that if they wanted to they'd have girls but they just don't have the time for it.
I chose at one point to say I wanna get girls not just daydream about getting them and once I managed to shed the ego I discovered just how natural I was at flirting and chatting up strangers and escalating. And I am by no mean at the peak of my skills but I have seen so much progression in the past 3 years it was as you put it "mind blowing".
A good chunk of the credit goes to you and other pickup oriented youtube channels as you helped guide my hand so to speak and save me from a lot of pitfalls with girls.
I do hope this video reaches the next 22 year old virgin before he gives up completely and resigns to hating women as so many young men seem to do these days

[bakionigeri]

No BS Todd's situation is the same as master yoda.

"Judge Me by my size do you? My Ally is the force of game, and a powerful Ally it is"

[dandangalodangalus]

One thing that really helped me was therapy and understanding my value. As a physically fit man who makes over $200K a year, I have WAY more to offer women than they have to offer me. Once I truly believed that it was a game changer.

[NM-hqio]

This guys attraction comfort & commitment model has 10xd my online dating results - thanks Tods

[markjones]

Great message, mindset is fundamental, learning is a process. Be positive, take action, have courage and hopefully a little luck. Thank you

[dotheyfloat]

I went to a boys school in the late 90's, absolute no girls around. When I was 15, me and a couple of friends went around town and handed out flyers to random groups of girls inviting them to a party we were having. Just me and 5 other guys. We expected maybe a couple of girls to show up, but like 30 girls ended up showing up and I pulled 10 girls that night. All it took was being seen pulling 1 girl and then I had them coming up to me for the pull with no words exchanged. I have yet to top that night numbers wise, it definitely setup life expectations going forward though.

[tmstani]

Thank you for sharing your story and insights Todd. I can see this rings true. I've had pretty much the opposite experience in college. I only had like 1 girlfriend and never got invited to parties. I went out a lot and went to some due to being drunk but was never able to pick up girls and felt hopeless. I'm naturally a pretty negative person with low self esteem. I have to really battle my learned helplessness and growth mindset. Due to this negative mentality I have failed and struggled a lot in life. I am now in a really dark place and feel extremely fake when trying to be fun or happy. I always feel the rejection as a confirmation of my bias that I suck. I don't know how to get out of this because it feels so true to me. Whenever I try to grow I persist further but it's like internally something is resisting. Like I'm just going through the motions and I can't actually get lasting success. Your story shows it's possible. Maybe you could do some more videos on inner game and how to develop a positive mindset even when you feel like it isn't true or you're worthless. I don't know maybe my mentality is genetic because I've really struggled with it most my life and I'm 37 now.

[CeceliPS]

I dont "game" anymore, but I wish I knew that (among a few other things) back in the Mystery days. And not only then. That "perform, perform, perform" mentality went on for a lot of years until it reached this new level of just being a f'ing human and understand learning, healing traumas and start living your true life.

[brookvalley]

Best video ever made. This is going to be so helpful to everyone doing everything.

[Cryptomaniac]

Nice story todd..it gives us courage to continue

[squash]

thanks so much uncle Todd ! I really needed to hear this message today. I appreciate you making this video

[gevans]

10:06. I can see how this can develop. It's the thrill of the hunt. If it weren't for rejection and the risk of embarrassment, the victories wouldn't feel meaningful.

[BS_Profile]

That is some extreme luck. In all my time going to school I never encountered anyone that was THAT friendly. Let alone an attractive woman that was friendly enough to invite me to her place. They would hardly ever even acknowledge me. Either that was an awesome school or mine was one of the worst.

[Chuck_Nrris]

I have realized in my own life as well that working harder and/or smarter beats talent every day. In a way, being a little behind can be a blessing in disguise. Apply it to business, game, the gym, anything. If you put in the hours you will get good.

[petervass]

All these years I've been listening to Todd and this is the first time I see him talking about his parents