The Antidote to Anger | Mike Goldman | TEDxGainesville

[jonwillis]

I'm usually a very calm and (i think) thoughtful person, but occasionally I react aggressively to a situation. Those reactions have, afterwards, always really bothered me. I thought of doing an anger management course or similar, but that didn't feel quite right. So today, I did a search on youtube, where I stumbled upon this video. Mike - your simple phrase 'assume positive intent' - made everything so clear. Thank you so much!

[BradenBardelmeier]

i truly struggle so much with anger and it’s odd because i hate that i am that way. i feel awful for expressing my anger. i feel so impatient and i don’t know why. i just want to be normal

[SkroooBz]

I've been going through overthinking problem my whole life and i didnt really understand it. i was thinking that it was the right thing to do until my life has became horrible, personal, family, friends, job everything. Then i started my theropy and i starting understanding and stopping the overthinking episodes and things started to get better but the only thing was my anger which i couldnt handle very well. Thank you Mike for your words "assume positive intent' this part made it very easy.

[Fernandez]

"giving the benefit of the doubt" my dad has told me this for years and it's still hard to apply in all situations. it comes down to empathy.

[leannburch]

I loved the concrete data about how much information our brains can actually process and the idea of pronoia. Great job, Mike!

[neilpinkman]

Great talk. Don't make Assumptions and always Do Your Best, 2 of the Four Agreements. Powerful material. Thank you!

[LouBortoneVideo]

So great, Mike! "Assume positive intent." Such a powerful message...

[insinia]

It's awesome how we can rewrite our behaviour with conscious repetition. At the beginning it seems unachievable but it all changes with the time, consistency and willingness.
Great talk, Mike!

[HarrietStein]

"It's all about the story in our own minds!" Great talk Mike!

[alisavinasco]

I feel very fortunate to have heard this message from Mike firsthand. It had such an impact on me then, years ago, and it has stayed with me ever since. Incredible message, Mike! So happy the rest of the world can hear it now as well.

[giftyparry]

Thank you for this simplified teaching, I pray this helps me with my anger management.

[anneireneryan]

Mike Goldman - I absolutely LOVE your TEDx talk. Not only did you tell an incredible story, you interwove supporting data and I felt like you packed the 15 minutes with love, kindness, and a strategy that anyone can use to NOT assume the worst in person.

This is my favorite quote of yours: "The 126 bits we see is a decision we can make."

And here are my favorite concepts that you mentioned:
• Law of Positive Intent: Everyone is trying to do the best they can with the resources they have
• Pronoia: Assumes the positive intent of the universe; even the obstacles are there for you (I had never head of this before!)

Incredibly well done, Mike. Standing ovation and at least two encores 😀

[mondaypositivitea]

Great Talk. I did a lot of shadow work to understand the shadow of anger and ask it what was the reason behind and I understood it was because of not having my needs met, boundaries respected, and this one realization helped me calm my 'anger' down.

[erikklein]

Mike, this is friggin' beautiful on so many levels.

[amberalert]

Thank you for opening up my mind and describing how my brain processes anger. Never realized I was always assuming negative intent when it came to people/situations. What I’m taking from this is to just stop assuming negative and just live life assuming everything is positive and is not going against you but is with you!

[peripheralthinking]

THIS...
THIS is an IDEA WORTH SHARING.
Mike Goldman, thank you for sharing this powerful—positive message. Life-changing!

[susansandler]

An elegantly constructed, powerful talk. And oh the wisdom. Beautiful, Mike!

[davidgraham]

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:7

[khartsings]

Wow! What a powerful message!
I so appreciate you sharing such a vulnerable story in such an empowering way. Application of this “idea worth sharing” truly has the potential of healing on a planetary scale.

[suebevanbaggott]

You gave an extremely powerful talk about how shifting our mindsets to "assume positive intent" can be life-changing and world-changing. Outstanding job, Mike! Fantastic delivery of an important message for all of us. Well worth sharing.