Identifying Mental Load Part 1 #mentalload #fairplay #domesticlabor

[sarahcratsenburg]

So I just binged this entire Playlist on mentalload so I could understand how to help my husband. I just came out of lifelong major depressive disorder with the help of medication. My husband has been taking care of me for more than 20 years and I am finally able to help. I didn't realize how much mentalload I was putting on him. Something so simple as asking him what the date is when he's focused on something else - I just didn't get how much that hinders him. So thanks for the vids!

[jbuckley]

Omg so that’s what a man sounds like!!!! Thank you for your very eye opening videos!

[wutdafeezy]

Omg. THANK YOU. Someone that fcking gets it!

[mr.cleanmachine]

Bruh it’s a simple question milk or water it really doesn’t need to be all that

[sarabogren]

When I saw this I thought you might also have a laugh at it.


Watching this clip, however, makes me think of an other important thing:
BOTH OF YOU needs to share responsibility to make it work. The men need to take on more of the responsibility, but the women need to let them, as well! Including the possiblity of sometimes making mistakes.

Wether you'd bring milk or water, they were both good options! Do you really have to ask the other parents opinion ("permission"...?) for that? Would you expect her to ask you? Or think she ought to have ask you?

And do you really need to tell her you know it's normally water? Even if you have gotten water plenty of times? And would it really be that annoying if you'd run by with a "Milk, right?" (as long as don't even THINK it's her responsibility/job to give you a answer, and that you could not do it if you don't get one. "Whatever!", "Not now!" or "Busy!" should be good enough answers.)

I get that you are mostly educating the men, but, in this case, it's not fair, nor helpful, of her to complain about you bringing milk instead of water. "Thanks!", "Good thinking!" or no reaction what so ever, would be her way of actually SHARING the responsibility (and the control and power).

Aren't you A TEAM?

♥️♥️♥️
/Sara, single woman without children 😂