ALL THE THINGS YOU DO to protect yourself in a narcissistic relationship

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[NarcSurvivor]

Set boundaries. Validate yourself. Don’t expect closure. Don’t expect them to change. That is how you take your power back from a narcissist.

[qvnwdqf]

If you get entangled with a narcissist, you get trapped in hell on earth. Thank you dr Ramani ❤

[demigaines]

My Self Protection Against A Narcissit
1/ Setting Boundaries
2/ Pratice Self Care
3/ Communicate Clearly
4/Knowing It's Not Your fault.
5/Distancing Yourself From The Narcissist
6/ Never Sharing Anything Exciting With Them Good News.
7/Ignoring
8/Seeking Support
9/Don't Engage Emotionally With Them.
10/ Stop Taking There Bait.

[csfiskus]

The world needs more therapists like you.

[MargaritaRotkiewicz]

I'm glad you made this video, it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife, $75k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤️

[lydiaanderson]

The documentation saved my sanity. I slowly stopped documenting after a while and simply began to journal. It took years to leave but I’m free and healing now.

[The-Illuminator-ml]

Last time I documented my narc’s behavior, it felt like I made a scrapbook of my misery. Quite the road down nostalgia lane.

[OGRocker]

Thank you Doc.... Been coping with a covert as a wife for years by the grace of God, not easy... too old to leave now .... To the younger crowd; get out while you can, it does not ever get better, I have 44yrs in Never changes or gets better, just gets worse with age

[Thunder-lightning]

Be strong be yourself don’t be a doormat, and tomorrow will be one day closer

[coffeegirl]

It is reliving the abuse. I avoided it. You just do want it to go away and stop. Not easy to do is an understatement.

[moniquejackson]

Brilliant. Another title might be When Protecting Yourself Feels Overwhelming. We're having to heal and deal with the logistics in a very compromised state. We have to regularly remind ourselves to be kind to ourselves when we can.

[MT-txbu]

I feel like I'm a good person with a broken compass. It's realizing that I had to fix that compass before I could engage in healthy relationships. Dr Ramani truly has been such a part of that compass for me. The last thing I want for myself is to become bitter and untrustworthy. I've let go of some old ideas about my family's philosophy. I embrace being left to examine my life and to enjoy the simple pleasures. Gosh, I have gotten so much better with the compass! I keep that needle pointed in a healthy mindset. Hope the same for all of you!

[youknow]

Words that have triggered me so far:
-activating
-documenting
-reading
-sending
Thank you Dr Ramani, I feel validated and you have hit nail on the head ❤

[NoliesonLysatya]

It was the most exhausting period of my life. Convincing my own lawyer was tough because she had no clue about Narcissism, so everything I had documented was not given the validation it should have. The divorce stretched for 8 exasperating years. Convincing my children was an even bigger battle., to the point I have given up trying to show them evidence of their dad’s games because they found my desperate need to expose him rather petty. I got out of the marriage finally but I lost my kids to his devious manipulation because he moved ahead of me with the smear campaigning.

[ZenWithMe]

So true. Just the documenting is draining. Eventually we can get to a place in life where it's at the very back of the file drawer or gone all together.

[elizabethbettencourt]

This was exactly my experience. Thank you for the validation and understanding of this awful human experience. Much love and healing to all!

[loverlytoday]

After years of feeling like I was losing it, I realized I was being severely gaslighted by one friend within a longtime friend group. She and I were in 2 different social circles for many years. Interestingly, I only endured her abuse in Circle A. I created a slow and gradual exit from Circle A. Upon my exit, like clock work, her gaslighting began swiftly in Circle B (where there was no gaslighting previously). Years of watching Dr. R videos, gave me the tools to prepare myself to walk away without shame or guilt but a sense of dignity. Her maneuvers had the potential to create massive havoc in my life and my husbands life as well, we dodged a bullet. Thank you Dr. R.

[busichanel]

I’ve been binge watching your videos for almost 2 years since the passing of my husband in 2022. We were both 44 when he died, it’s been a eye opening and traumatic experience and revelation to know that I was in a financial abusive relationship. Now that he’s gone. I have so many questions. I thought I was being a traditional wife when the entire time he’s was being a covert narc and I’ve been blinded. Trying to heal with no answers or response. It’s hatd

[ScottieBeanZ]

👑Queen Ramani ! You Understanding and explaining this kind of stuff is changing my life! Video by Video you are saving me- piece my piece I’ve been able to understand my trauma. Words cant express how much you mean to me! I love you to the moon and back! Thanks Dr.Ramani ❤

[dk]

I started documenting situations, and because there were just so many, I wound up missing a bunch because I was simply too exhausted and a lot of the incidents were repeated offences. I figured it was redundant to note the same things over and over again. Eventually I would talk to good friends to seek validation that I wasn’t being crazy. Over time, near the end, I had to get into the habit of audio recording interactions. I missed quite a few rage attacks because I just wasn’t in the habit of having my phone ready. The police bodycam would have some nice gaslighting and blame shifting on file. When I was planning my escape I looked back on all my notes made over the years. I was very surprised at how many years it was going on. That was my evidence that I couldn’t stay anymore.