FBI Profiler: “Before You Date the Next Ted Bundy”-Signs He’s A Psychopath, Sociopath, Serial Killer

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In this EYE-OPENING episode of Women of Impact, you’ll learn how to spot bad guys, avoid becoming a victim, and ask the right questions to detect potential threats!

Trust me guys, this is stuff we all SHOULD know as women, but we’re often learning it TOO LATE.

And unfortunately, the reality is that we live in a world where there ARE rapists, murders, and psychopaths, and us women need to be able to protect ourselves from becoming another one of their victims!!

Which is why I HAD to bring on the amazing woman who has spent decades studying how to think like a killer.

It’s Dr. Ann Burgess and she is an absolute EXPERT in the criminal mind and how to avoid becoming the victim of a dangerous person.

She has worked extensively with offenders AND victims, and she understands EXACTLY how these dangerous criminals will target you, what they will do to keep you quiet, and what YOU need to do to take back control and beat them at their own game.

We also cover:
- Recognizing and avoiding dangerous situations
- Characteristics of potential targets
- Awareness of being targeted
- Understanding offenders’ history and behaviors
- Famous cases including BTK, Ted Bundy, Bill Cosby, Charles Manson, the Menendez Brothers, the Taco Bell Killer, and Andrea Yates
- Techniques for managing manipulation

By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to spot the signs of a bad guy, what you can do so you won’t become their next victim, and the specific questions you should be asking someone so you can get them to trust you and you can find out if they are likely to be dangerous.

Like it or not guys, there are dangerous people out there, and YOU might be their next target and not even know it!! So we all have to get a little suspicious and more alert in order to protect ourselves, and this episode will help you do just that!

Don’t let another dangerous person slip into your life, or the lives of anyone you love, and SHARE this so we can all look out and protect one another!!

CHAPTER MARKERS:

🙅‍♀️ [00:00] Trust your gut
❌ [8:35] Understanding deviant behavior
🚩 [19:38] Early warning signs in children
👀 [25:05] Is someone watching you?
🤝 [31:55] Building rapport & earning trust
😖 [44:32] The rise of incels & hostility towards women
👺 [01:02:27] Hidden darkness behind charming facades

DR. ANN’S AMAZING INSIGHTS:

"I always like to see how much will they tell you about growing up as a kid and who's in their family? Because a lot of times you can tell something about sibling warder is good. Are they oldest, are they youngest? Are they in the middle?"

"The narcissism is something to watch out for. Now, when you have the deviant behavior... it is important to really appreciate how awful someone can be to another human being and what they can do."

"Do you have a ritual way of behaving?...In other words, every day you get up, you do this, you do that, you get in your car, you drive to work, whatever. See if you can alternate that or be aware, if nothing else, be aware if somebody is watching you, because they will be there."

"Nobody's going to talk to you if they don't feel that…they can trust you in some way."

"So maybe we are asking the wrong questions."

"And these, what we call incels, you're probably familiar with those. And I think there's a continuum of them. But he was absolutely, that's what he was."

"People liked him. You would never know that he had this other side of him…"

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[LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[kellythrash]

Some years ago, I was shopping alone at a 24 hour Walmart. I paid for my purchases and walked out the door into the deserted parking lot. Suddenly, this strange man comes towards me, asking if he can use my phone, his car is broken down. To this day, I dont know what made me react like this, it was out of character. I stood up straight and yelled at him, "NO! YOU CANT! YOU CAN GO INSIDE! YOU KNOW BETTER THAN TO APPROACH A WOMAN 8N A PARKING LOT AFTER DARK! SHAME ON YOU! SHAME!" The guy looked shocked, and hurried away to a car across the parking lot. I unlocked my car and put my bags inside, keeping one eye on him, so I saw when he started his car, turned on the headlights, and came screeching towards me. I drove out of the lot quickly, but this man in his "broken down" car was chasing me down the road. He kept trying to ram the back of my car, I was going at least 100mph, praying for a police officer, but no such luck. He chased me at breakneck speed across town, until I finally pulled into the downtown police station. I ran inside, he kept going. A nice officer inside asked me what was wrong, but the man had gone by then. I waited there for several hours, until I felt I could safely return home. I had a policeman follow me, and and never saw that man again. Gut instinct saved my life that night. If I hadnt screamed at him aggressively in the parking lot, I shudder to think what would have happened.

[qiffinz]

I once thought I was becoming paranoid. I encountered a young kid at work who literally made me break out in goosebumps, and take an involuntary step back. I went to a friend, who happened to be a psychiatrist who had been in charge of psychiatry for a state prison system. I told him I was afraid that I was suffering from paranoia. We talked, and he asked me lots of questions, some surprising ones, about the encounter. He then told me that he didn’t feel I was being paranoid. The other thing that he told me, has stuck with me for 25 years: Always trust that inner voice. Never second guess when you get a physical reaction to a person or situation. As humans, evolution has honed that survival instinct since people came to be, and it will NEVER lead you astray.

[qiffinz]

There are also victimizers who target assertive women because they have a deep need to “put the woman in her place.” Those guys are so scary and violent.

[triciabrown]

The boy next door that I grew up with… when we were teenagers, we kinda started liking each other. He wanted to go to a secluded woodsy area nearby. I suddenly got terrified and refused. A few years later he wrote to me from prison. He got 5 years for rape.

[angelawatson]

They test you with a tiny bit of unacceptable behaviour and if you accept it, they will target you

[skipmullen]

One thing my Mother told me, I think was very valuable. When you first meet a man and he asks you out, always take your own car and meet him somewhere until you think you know him well enough to trust him. He doesn’t even have the need to know where you live exactly.

[reneet]

I once drove off and thankfully we'd taken my car to a movie. He would'nt take " No" for an answer about sex, and this was a first date. Thank God his work truck was parked 12 miles away in mynparents driveway. I got him off me long enough to ask him to go buy me some popcorn and a drink. As soon as hecwas out of sight I took off, and got the heck back to home. When I walked in sobearly, my Dad asked why I was home less than an hour after we left. I told him what happened. He went out, took pictures of the guys truck & tags( just in case). The next morning his truck was gone. All over our front steps, (and there were 28 of them) were bludgened huge bullfrogs. Blood, guts ...he had thrown them so many of them, at the steps that it was horrifying. My Dad called the Police, and sat there withva shotgun over his lap 10 feet inside our front door the next 2 nights. When the cops found the guy, it was vecause he'd raped another young woman. They called my Dad to let him know he could sleep at night. My Dad was an Executive and put in for a transfer halfway across the Country as soon as he could. I felt horribly guilty, but my Dad made it a point to tell me how proud he was of me for thinking quickly, taking action, and getting away from the guy.

[PaintingandExercise]

One young man would spend 4 hours at a small business that I worked in every Saturday. I was by myself and just knew that he was up to no good. Was he planning a robbery or an assault/murder? After a few weeks of this I got on the phone behind the counter and pretended to be talking to a friend. I told my "friend" that I had finished my Concealed Carry Weapons Class and was so excited to be able to carry a gun. He left and I never saw him again.

[ang-uw]

She mentioned one of the signs to look out for in narcissists is talking about themselves and I strongly disagree, in my experience with them it's been fully the opposite- they ask you questions and get you to tell them as much as possible to learn everything they can about you while divulging as little as possible about themselves and remain quiet to then later mirror you and your values and become your "perfect" person so you believe you met your soulmate only to later realize it was all fake and just a predator stalking their prey.
The big bad wolf doesn't want you to look so hard that you notice their disguise- they want to make you feel comfortable and loved and to think they're just a gentle harmless meek grandmother..

[moonstar]

What’s really scary is when these people occupy positions of power, such as law enforcement or politics.

[terryhutchings]

Met him on a dating app, seemed legit agreed to meet him at a bar. I thought ok safe, lots of people around etc. Turned out it was a small bar in semi rural area. Not that many people. Had fun and great conversation and he walked me to my car. That’s when things got ugly, I was pushed against the side of the car and he was all over me. I got him off of me and able to get into my car and drive off. The thing is, I was 60 and he in his 60’s as well. Don’t be fooled by age.

[nr]

Women and girls, you don’t need to “politely” excuse yourself from a man who is giving you bad vibes. Feel free to just walk off, or be rude to get away from him if you need to. Women have been trained to always ‘be nice’, ‘be sweet’. You don’t need to be nice to a strange man who approaches you or even a man you know who makes you feel uncomfortable.

[jacquelinejacobson]

I was married 4 years to a psychopath. I didn't realize this until after my son was born. My late ex husband never even held the baby once, let alone change a diaper. His parents had a hidden fortune that he alone had wanted to inherit. A week before I ran from the house, I had a nightly recurring disturbing nightmare that he went into the nursery room and smothered the baby. After the 7th straight night of this, I fled the house with just the baby and the diaper bag, and filed for divorce. During the divorce proceedings it was revealed that he had taken out a large life insurance policy on the baby without my knowledge! I'm so glad I listened to my gut!

[jenchristeson]

I had an encounter with Ted Bundy in 1974
I live in Idaho.. I will never forget It was two days before my 18th birthday I was with a ( boy) who was just a friend at a little hole in the wall bar that allowed minors to come in to play pool.
In the middle of our pool game a man walks in the door everybody turns to see who it was, he made eye contact with me and it made my blood run cold!!! I had no idea why but I immediately told my friend to put his stick away we were leaving. He said why we''re right in the middle of the game
I said we are leaving let's go Now!! We just got outside walking to my car I heard the door open behind us, I knew it was that man before I even turned around to look. He walked up to me asked me if I belonged to someone in the bar! I thought it was a weird question
I answered him guardedly I said no I don't belong to anyone in the bar! He said he was going to st Louis Missouri that night and wanted me to go with him!! I said I'm not going anywhere with you, he said it again then a third time he said he was TAKING me with him, and again I said I'm not going anywhere with you!!
He mumbled you'll regret your decision while walking off. We got in the car my friend said who was that!! I said I don't know I've never seen him before in my life!! I was so scared I could barely hold the clutch in in my car my legs were shaking so bad!! It was his eyes that scared me I felt something evil I never ever felt before!
It wasn't until 3 or 4 years later I saw his picture on TV I knew then why I reacted so strongly to his presence!! I never saw him again but a man did call at 11:00 pm right before we got home and my mother answered the phone she wanted to know who this older man was calling me late at night . I said didn't know any older men who would call me late at night especially! I'm pretty sure it was him. We had a party line on our phone he could've asked any of the other kids at the bar who were on the same party line and they could have easily given him my number!! That was the end of it but man that was some scary

[DiamondDazzle]

I remember the Dating Game killer. The woman picked him as the winner. After the show, when she met him--she felt something wasn't right. Wouldn't go out with him. He had killed before--and killed after. By following her instincts she probably saved her own life.

[fluttergirl]

Mine put his hand up to my face and said, "A hand is for love. Not to hurt." It was so random, and I felt so uncomfortable. That hand broke my jaw a few weeks later.

[agentlindaliu]

Halloween 1990 I lived in San Diego in an apartment. I was young. I was giving candy to young kids prior. Next, a young man comes to my apartment door wanting candy. I got bad vibes from him. Dark energy, I could see it in his eyes. I immediately tried to slam the door but he tried to break in. It took all the strength I had to shut, close and lock that door. He got spooked by other people in the neighborhood. That night in the neighborhood there was a rape reported incident. I don’t open doors for anyone. Unless I know it’s a package or I know a friend is coming over. I’ve trained my kids the same.

[StrangeFacinations]

I remember getting wigged about going out with someone and told him on the phone, "No, I can't go after all." He came over and talked through the door...he said, "I really need to use the bathroom, can I come in for a minute?" I told him to get lost. I heard him cursing me out as he left. I had my brother come over to my apartment, he said the guy had been lurking.

[maureenmcglade]

Animal cruelty is NUMBER ONE red flag 🚩