Women Will Chase You If You Do This | The Black Knight Paradox

Women are taught from an early age that it’s the man’s job to do the chasing. This is only half-true. When a man seduces a woman, he chases her, makes his move, and pushes through the woman’s initial resistance to become physically intimate with her. It’s at this point that the woman transitions from being passive (allowing the man to chase her) to being proactive (where she actively chases the man).

A successful seduction requires you to let go and stop chasing. You must let a woman come to you and express her interest in you by allowing her to chase you. If you fail to allow this transition to take place, don’t be surprised if the woman loses attraction for you and pulls away. The moment you focus on the relationship is the moment a woman starts to lose attraction. It’s tempting to tell a woman how you feel about her as though this will somehow soften her emotions and make her easier to seduce. When a man is focused on the relationship, he derails the seduction process. The woman used to dream of the day when a man would come along and sweep her off her feet. But when that day finally arrives something inside the woman tells her that love shouldn’t be this way, and she’s right, it shouldn’t.

One of the problems we face as men is a natural discomfort at the speed with which women respond to messages, want to see us, and are willing to progress the relationship. All this can leave a man feeling uncomfortable and uncertain about where he stands and where the relationship is headed. A woman knows when you’re chasing her out of desire as opposed to chasing her out of insecurity. This insecurity often leads men to take action in an attempt to gain clarity and calm their nerves, but instead of feeling calm, the man inadvertently pushes the woman further away from him.

Given a choice between freedom and commitment, you must always choose freedom. An attractive man is a man with options. Why would you want to sacrifice your options for the sake of one woman? Instead, if a woman chases you, she can only draw one conclusion: you must be high-value otherwise she wouldn’t be chasing you. Still, women continue to churn out the usual clichés: “If a man likes me, he should chase me” and “Women don’t chase, that’s a man’s job.” If you buy into this way of thinking, you become just another weak, beta male in hot pursuit. Your strength as a man lies in your ability to remain indifferent to a woman’s behavior, whether she’s chasing you or not.

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Trust yourself and trust the process,

Chris Canwell

[QuiDocetDiscit]

Women are very attracted to confident men...this is common knowledge. As soon as you start chasing her out of insecurity, she senses it and LOSES attraction. NEVER appear weak, needy or insecure in front of a woman! No woman is worth losing your dignity over.

[celf]

your strength as a man lies in your ability to remain indifferent wether shes chasing you or not.. Matrix

[livingvision]

One of the best lesson learned from this channel :
'Hey men out there, never be a relationship-focused guy.'

[danielbell]

Patrice O Neal said it best: “Your happiness as a man is paramount. Don’t base your happiness on the woman. Your happiness should trickle down to her”

[h.h.]

Maestro. Tonight my gym crush came back to me after following your advices of your videos and your book. Would not have happened without you. Awesome!
Thank u Sir! Highly appreciated!

[disorder_go]

Wish I’d known all this stuff 20 years and 3 heartbreaks ago.

[nanabersah]

I like the phrase if you're not value man, woman will not chase you i.e transformation of body, business, character.

[nigelvee]

I often attract women way out of my league because of this. Remember 90% of guys chase hot girls she's probably heard "you're hot", "you're beautiful" or "can I take you on a date" a million times before. Don't chase her you're lowering your value when you do, and when you do get her attention put her in the friendzone, make sure she knows she's in the friendzone. Make a comment using the word friend when you're talking to her something like "I finally have a friend who sees things my way". As soon as she hears you call her friend she's starts doubting her attraction level, off course you know she's hot but you can't say it to her all the time, make her work for your attention.

[oscargonza]

I chased a few and they ran from me but they came back chasing me after ignoring them, one is my current, trust me they love the chase

[benhartart]

I am chasing my dreams, my passions, my abs, never women

[debonaire_nerd]

These animations need to be screened as after school edutainment.

[princepacifico]

What they say and what they responds to are different. Always remember that just watch what they do. 9/10 times their words are unstable just like their emotions

[lexluther]

This is fact.focus on yourself and they will chase you

[davidalen]

Indifference is the key. Brilliant Sir.

[MoshiurRahmanGFX]

Chase your life goals and invest in yourself, not in women.

[noseefood]

Be aloof disinterested and focused on your goals then women will try harder to get your attention

[upperiscopeUK]

This is well researched, honest & succinctly expressed. Excellent!

[Tonytayloring]

0:26 In short: A man will still need to initiate the chase 'first' for this transition to turn things around

[DevinObi]

That was my problem I quickly realized it and I QUICKLY changed it!

[perpetualjon]

While I completely understand this dynamic now, it still makes me depressed. And I am even at the point where I am truly not focused on the relationship nor ever feeling anxiety and uncertainty about where I may stand with a woman. I used to have to pretend I felt this way. But yeah, it makes me sad that men have to act this way and simply must not be open and vulnerable with a woman. I honestly don't know how this will play out over a lifetime if it gets all the way to marriage (if that's even possible). I was married for 19 years and I frankly don't see how this sort of dynamic can endure.