How to avoid spiraling into guilt and shame (Daily Update 15)

Are you feeling stuck at home, unable to do anything but watch the current crisis from the sidelines? Maybe even feeling guilty or ashamed that there are doctors, nurses, and other first responders on the front lines of the battle while you’re safely at home? What you’re feeling is totally normal, but there are ways to keep from spiraling into negative emotions and recognize that we’re all doing our part.

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2. Build your awareness using mindfulness practices, like those in the free "Breathe by Dr. Jud" app, available on both Apple and Android devices.

Jud Brewer MD PhD ("Dr. Jud") is an addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at Brown University’s Mindfulness Center, and associate professor of psychiatry as well as behavioral and social sciences at Brown’s School of Public Health. His work has been featured on 60 minutes, at TED.com (4th most viewed talk of 2016), and in media outlets across the world. He is the author of The Craving Mind: from cigarettes to smartphones to love, why we get hooked and how we can break bad habits (New Haven: Yale University Press, 2017).

[ethelmyers]

Thanks for covering guilt and shame. It’s very helpful to see how they play into the habit loops. All of these videos have been very helpful. Thank you for your service. 🙏

[jeanstone]

Thanks for breaking down my guilt and shame feelings into their trigger-response-reward patterns. I had never considered them that way. It makes those feelings seem much less compelling. And I loved your reference to the book The Boy, the Mole, The Fox, and the Horse. I received it as a Christmas gift and have since given it to others.

[betoian]

Thank, you!
There is an irony in the etymology of the word calm.
In Greek it was created for the specific situation of getting burned by the sun when you are at a sailing boat but without any wind blowing... People that didn't imagine that there might exist such a situation, just understood calm as the sea where the boat was floating on. And today, we wouldn't use it to describe the existing tension of us in a calm situation. It should be used to describe a quiet time combined with a desire to do something about it...

[mafguss]

Hi Dr Jud! Can you do a video on how to find joy in the midst of pain and grief, and talk about the co-existence of the two?

[RafaelbySuzannah]

Thank you dr Jud severe insomnia severe severe the last few days extra bad the only thing worse was when I first was assaulted violated at the doctors it was two hours a night for extended time. My eyes are painful dry it's comforting to know that you're there helping people who continue in around the world to deal with the anxiety and the stress and the fear of the pandemic.

[Chongololo]

Thank you, deep bow from Francistown, Botswana

[EvinFox]

Can you address what people can do to settle in and meditate IF they get sick during this time?

[HopeSingh]

How do I avoid passing my anxiety to my kids? - It'd be nice if you could talk about this a little. I want them to see their parents are not perfect and that struggling is legitimate, but I wouldn't want them to feel the way I feel.