Enneagram Types as Girlfriends

All 9 Enneagram Personality Types as Girlfriends 😂

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TIMECODES:
00:00 Overview
0:52 Type 1
1:35 Type 2
2:33 Type 3
3:43 Type 4
4:21 My secret weapon, Skillshare!
5:29 Type 5
6:16 Type 6
6:54 Type 7
7:30 Type 8
8:22 Type 9

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Enneagram Types as Girlfriends

[Jessicaunarex]

As a 4, the most Romantic relationships have occurred in my head. When they are always around, they don't live up to the Romantic expectation at all.

[cloverazar]

I’m an 8w7, my girlfriend is a 5w4, and it works perfectly. In almost three years of dating we’ve argued maybe once — and it was scheduled for after work “when it could be constructive.” Once there, we communicated our frustrations, identified what we could change to avoid the issue in future, and then committed to actioning the changes. Worked great!

[AbbeyHowe]

TIMECODES:
Overview (0:00)
Type 1 (0:52 )
Type 2 (1:35)
Type 3 (2:33)
Type 4 (3:43)
My secret weapon, Skillshare! (4:21)
Type 5 (5:29)
Type 6 (6:16)
Type 7 (6:54)
Type 8 (7:30)
Type 9 (8:22)

[dagnabit]

I'm really impressed with your forethought of putting the skill share ad right before the type 5. Perfect!

[ginalienn]

As a sexual Type 5w4 I appreciate you addressing the stereotype of us not wanting a relationship. Like, all I want is a relationship lol!

[Spreading_Kindness-bg]

I also did this.

Types as chocolate

1. Ginger flavoured chocolate
Ginger sounds about right.

2. Strawberry flavoured chocolate
It's sweet. It's fruity.

3. Mint flavoured chocolate
The most popular chocolate.

4. Chilli flavoured chocolate
Very unique and very different.

5. Dark chocolate
I heard that dark chocolate is good for the brain.

6. Plain milk chocolate
You can't go wrong with simple milk chocolate.

7. Popping candy flavoured chocolate
Popping here. Popping there.

8. Chocolate covered biscuit
It's tough. It's bold.

9. White chocolate
Milky and creamy.

[heatherbryant]

In my eyes, one danger for 5s in relationships is the ease with which we can disconnect and be contentedly reclusive makes it all that much easier to be too harsh in debates and arguments... because we know we can deal with the consequences if what we say makes you not want to talk to us anymore. Other types will make cutting remarks they later say they "didn't mean, " seemingly unaware of the repercussions during heated moments, then beg for forgiveness after the inevitable fallout. I say what I mean and mean what I say. So if I say something mean or harsh, sorry, but I meant it. I say so being fully aware of the potential consequences in the moment, and being okay with those consequences. If it ever comes down to a battle of cold shoulders and silent treatment, I know that I will likely outlast you and be able to go longer than you can without giving in and reaching out. Now that I write this, I realize it probably sounds emotionally immature, or at least cold. But I do wish other types could learn to be responsible for what they say in anger, think about the effect of their words, and say what they actually mean.

Anyway, my point was that this tendency can be rather self-sabatoging in the long run. It's too easy to think "Screw you; if you can't handle the truth, then you can't handle me, and I'd rather be alone than have to censor myself." Problem is, like you said, Abbey, 5s actually do flourish in relationships, and on some levels we really need that interaction to draw us out of our shell, teach us how to communicate tactfully, teach us how to share, and give us the intimacy I think we all crave on some deeper level. Also, even the most cerebral type has physical needs. Maybe this is related more to the instinctual variants sx/sp (sexual vs self-preservation), but I've always felt like there's a war inside me between the need for intimacy and the need for personal space and privacy. It's like, "Come closer... Whoah whoah whoah not that close..." ... "Go away... but not too far" ... "Leave me alone, but don't leave" I want to know people on a very deep level and be able to share secrets, but at the same time can only handle so much talking and interaction, and am very guarded and reluctant to open up. I once saw a meme along the lines of "All I ask is that you get to know me on a deep, intimate level, while I resist and obstruct your every attempt to do so." lol Fitting. Any other 5s here who aren't wholly self-preserving have any idea what I'm talking about?

[Spreading_Kindness-bg]

I just made this.

Types breaking stereotypes.

Type 1 'I am fun'
Type 2 'Do it yourself for once'
Type 3 'I understand people love me for who I am not what I have'
Type 4 'I don't care what people think of me'
Type 5 'I don't need to be on my own'
Type 6 'I can take risks'
Type 7 'I can take things seriously'
Type 8 'I can accept my vulnerabilities'
Type 9 'I can make my own decisions'

[adfhhskfjsiofen]

I’m a 8, but I love getting flowers! We love practical and meaningful gifts! Focus more on gifts and activities that have a purpose (but flowers are always welcome because of their thoughtfulness).

[leslpoo]

I’m a 6w5.... and I feel seen 😬
I told my 9w8 husband I wouldn’t believe that he’s not going anywhere until we had a legally binding document saying he’s stuck with me 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Spreading_Kindness-bg]

I also made this

Types of Anger Personifications

Type 1 - Rice being boiled
Type 2 - Campfire
Type 3 - Fireworks
Type 4 - Flood
Type 5 - North Pole
Type 6 - Storm
Type 7 - Volcanic Eruption
Type 8 - Forest Fire
Type 9 - Popping Candy

[jellybomb]

The more of your videos I watch, the more I relate to the 'person who has to interact with all these different types'. More than my own number sometimes! I'm always like "Yeah, I feel you clear glasses hoodie wearing Abbey." Love your vids, keep doing what you do :)

[toribarron]

As a 4w3, I love it when my boyfriend does the little things. In our relationship, I am the one who can't cook, but he is so amazing at it. Can you do the types as boyfriends?

[ClearSummerSkies]

6:07 has me laughing. I'm a five and that's legitimately one of my favorite random fun facts to share with people!! 😂

So far, no one has found it nearly as amusing as I did when I first found out...

[sgeist]

The 8 response - Even though you're wrong... I have said that!!!! 😂😂

[heatherbryant]

In my experience with 6s, or at least male 6s, the insecurity is more likely to come out as, "Are you mad at me?" Heaven forbid you take an hour to respond to a text or all of a sudden they think you're mad at them. That, or defensive comments out of the blue, defending themselves against allegations you weren't even thinking, nevermind alluding to or insinuating. The frustrating part is when it takes hours of arguing to get to the bottom of the defensiveness and uncover the mystery of what they assume you're assuming about them :/

[slugabug]

I'm a 2, I know I have a tendency to do this, so I try to control it on the outside, but this is how manic I feel on the inside. JUST LET ME LOVE YOU!!! 🤣

[rosieraptor]

I would like to see another video like this where we see the enneagram types in alignment as healthy girlfriends, to see a more positive perspective/example and not just the annoying parts of dating them.

[seforaker]

I'm a 5 and it's true... I feel like I start my day at 50% and love to research things so I come off as a grumpy anti-social nerd

[francescadilorenzo]

I'm a type 2 and last week I literally baked a whole tray of chocolate muffins for my boyfriend to bring to work and his family. I feel ~exposed~