A different way to think about LOVE BOMBING

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[youngblood]

Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the one who you thought would never hurt you.

[surajswatej]

Most people stay in these relationships because of few good moments due to love bombing..but its really a lifetime of heartbreak and sadness

[beabove]

I resonate with this so much. When I met the X (covert narcissist), I was feeling my oats, at a a great place in my career, had worked so much on all my wounds, etc. I knew I was a good "catch" and I knew I would be an excellent partner at this point in my life. So when he stepped in and said I was amazing, I actually just felt seen. Then the devalue hit me like a ton of bricks. Truly one of the biggest WTF times in my life.

[artifundio]

Notice this, love bombing can last from a couple of weeks to a couple of years or more. Sometimes it's almost impossible to differentiate love bombing as a face, from their "normal" behavior.

My ex's made it last 4 years. I couldn't tell the difference until after we got married. And started spending more time with his family.

I think the best "vaccine" against narcissists is self love and self wisdom. If you know yourself well, then nobody could gaslight you, I suppose.
Take care of yourselves, always ❤️

[itsneverlate-tr]

The relationship can never 'remain equal' with the narcissist. 🎯 Thank you

[PENGUINGIRL]

Love bombing is the most cruel and heartless manipulation tactic, in my opinion. Because it lulls me into a false sense of security and preys on my false hope that someday the N will change. As someone who is empathetic and always pits others over myself and wants to see others grow and mature, it hurts me every time because I have to tell myself it’s not real. It’s just another delusion like the fantasies I’ve had of her changing

[microdosenyc]

And like the sun, a narcissist needs everything to revolve around them.

[p.w.]

One of my my children has a narcissistic manager who recently made a mistake at work. When it was called to their attention they came unglued over everyone on the team. She was accusing practically everyone of undermining her, but one person in particular. In the end it was proven that the mistake was hers. My child told me that the next day she came into work all cherry and sweet to everyone, but especially to the co worker she had targeted. She was that worker's best friend. My child was super confused until I pointed out that it's all part of the narcissist cycle, and if they think back they will see these behaviors are a pattern with this person.

[pranveramulgeci]

Dodged a bullet today! Confronted a guy about love bombing, and he staight up say yes, thats what I usually do, to build a strong partner who essentially obeys him. And he added “I have something else planed for you though, cant tell you what it is”.

[NarcSurvivor]

It isn’t real. They’re not really interested in you or attracted to you, or anyone else. They hate intimacy and relationships. It’s just a means for them to get what they want.

[anon_ya]

Don’t ever give anyone so much power that you can’t see straight from lovebombing. It’s good to be a little suspicious of people moving too fast …it’s often not realistic or sustainable. The best vaccine is a full life, a full self, supportive friends and accountability partners, personal development, etc…

[gertrudewest]

You hit the nail on the head ( for me), - the need to be seen and heard. I do think manipulative people pick up on that . I have noticed a reduction in the amount of rocks being thrown at me since I stopped being an emotional neon sign. I don’t have as much fun, but definitely feel more in control. I think self preservation is my now my top priority, taking a back seat to the need to be seen and heard. Besides, I have my own little fan club… the wild birds that I nurture and adore.

[donnellallan]

My ex is at it again! Eight years no contact since the divorce and now he is back holding our children up before me like a set of jangling shiny keys, trying to lure me back. He knows that what I always wanted most of all was a large happy family, so today, this afternoon, I am invited by him to a Christmas dinner he is holding for just the two of us and our six adult children and their partners. I will not be going! But it’s dismaying to me how much it still hurts to be manipulated this way. Thank you for another timely video, Dr Ramani. I will not be driving into the sun today however blinding it may be. 💜

[HelaineChersonsky]

Going through all the phases with a narcissist is like going through heavy water. I always feel like Charley Brown holding the football, only to be blindsided from behind.

[charlie]

Sometimes the narcissist notice a shift and they adjust just enough to throw you off.

[youngblood]

Narcissists love fantasy, because they believe reality is a prison.

[neant]

This metaphor with the sun, driving and sunglasses is brilliant, it will really stick with me now ^_^ I got this very strong "slow down and put on your glasses" instinct after my last narcissistic relationship, and at first I was worried that I just became bitter, but now I feel like it's actually the healthiest thing to do - even if the sun is not quite blazing, and it's just that your eyes became too sensitive to it, if you can't see - you can't drive and you need to take care of yourself, period.

[safvan]

Sometimes I even wonder if love even exists after realizing what was once good in the relationship was all nothing but the love bombing phase. Just when I thought everything was genuine until the mask came off and it all an illusion.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

I called out a love bombing guy that I was getting to know who I felt was playing games and being dishonest with me. He was only honest about the serious relationship he was actually in when I asked him direct questions. I called his bluff and exerted my boundaries to protect myself. No longer blinded by him. I have my ‘sunglasses’ on for sure. Prioritizing my well being. Thank you Dr Ramani.

[orielwiggins]

Great analogy. Finding a solution to the sun in your eyes, slow down, be much more alert and aware of your circumstances, and filter things thru a good discerning tool (therepy, solid friends, removing the "glare and brightness" of the loving things they do), to see clearly the path in front of you and the real potential hazards. I love this. Thank you.