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We’ve all been stuck in an awkward conversation that feels forced or boring. You want the person to like you, but you have no idea what to say. 

So in today’s video, we’ll go over five habits that instantly make conversation more fun and help you connect with anyone.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:00 - Intro
0:11 - #1: Set a playful tone early in the interaction
2:31 - #2: Give a genuine friendly compliment
4:25 - #3: Share your imperfections (without shame)
5:42 - #4: Ask open-ended questions
6:37 - #5: Be a likeable listener

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[oddoutdoors]

The real skill here is making this all feel natural. Most people instinctually know the information in these videos. The problem is most people don't have enough practice to blend the two.

[marijns]

Everyone knows these tips instinctively, but if you’re not confident or comfortable with doing it, it’ll still be awkward

[georgehiggins]

One thing I'm learning as a young adult is that it's usually okay to not say anything or be okay with being silent. You don't have to absolutely crush every single interaction with people. Being okay with most get togethers being a little boring, doesn't mean that YOU are a boring person of that other people don't value being around you. I think adopting a mindset of aiming for good enough instead of perfection, makes it easier to relax and then you can really enjoy the moment that you're in.

[aaronaustrie]

It's real nice when you speak to people and they don't just hear what you say but fully understand you. That is very rare these days!

[angelonintendo]

My problem is to avoid making the darkest joke that comes into brain

[mistermxyzptlk]

"Dormammu so fat..."
Bro I can't 💀

[albertrazzano]

You’ll eventually reach a point in your life where you couldn’t care less. It’s so refreshing to walk away and talk to someone where you don’t
Need tips and conversation flows.

[WilliamJonesChess]

Top Moments

00:45 People want to have fun conversations. They just don't know how.

1:20 How to do this? When someone asks you a Q, answer with a joke

How to do this well? Take your answer and exaggerate it so much it is impossible for others to take you seriously

2:10 Example: How was your summer? It was just too much time with my family

25% rule is answer 1 in 4 questions playfully

2:36 If you are worried a compliment is awkward, follow up with a joke to diffuse = Tension Rule

6:08 Ask open ended questions. Joe Rogan asks Why …

6:24 Best open questions are ones they are excited to answer. [Hence ask the correct Why questions]

Lewis Howes to Kobe Bryant: Why do you want to tell a great story?

Be a likeable listener

Oprah to Pharrell Williams: Happy. Boom !!

[justscarlette]

I love the sentiment at the very end about making the conversation a good time for you! Too often I (we?) worry about what the other person thinks, having a good impression- and being overall likable. But it feels like you’re taking back over and it’s empowering to think that “just being yourself” will filter the right people into your life and send away the rest.
I guess I needed to hear that

[fridgewhisperer]

For the first time in 60 years people tell they like talking to me. Unbelievable. And thank you.

[MrsAnnThropy]

what gets me about this channel is the numeric value added to the suggestions. i’m autistic and realistically these videos just help me understand how neurotypical people interpret others and act, and how to be more approachable with less masking. being able to quantify the conversation makes it so easy. i struggle with things like knowing *where* to look or when to say something this way instead of that way, or how to be taken seriously without being interpreted as condescending, or literally just what to say next. just the simple tip of answering 25% of the small talk questions will change so much of my ability to casually talk with people without working myself up over nothing. what a time to be alive

[RussellClausse]

Absolutely, authenticity is one of the greatest ways you can make someone else open up to you, that willingness to share your some hidden truths about yourself is a recipe for success in getting others to connect with you, because those you speak to are more likely to open up following you! Just don't over do it because there's a sweet spot with relatability and authenticity that you have to hit to really hit it off with someone.

[JokerCrowe]

These are actually really great tips, and they made me realize that I've been doing these things subconsciously. 😅
Like, I've had people tell me that they find me charming, but I haven't felt like I do anything specific, so it was good to hear specific examples to put words on it, because now I know that those things are what they mean.

I'm not saying this to blow my own horn, but rather to confirm that these things genuinely give results.
Just starting off the conversation with a joke - and especially the kinds of jokes you mentioned - is something that has really made it easy for me to meet new people.

It's not 100% fool proof - sometimes you just don't "Get" each other - but like you said in the video, most people want to have a fun conversation.

[AaronLS.]

I like the idea of asking why as an open ended questions. I also like the idea of talking about things you like and jokes you like with new people to filter out who you want in your life. That pretty powerful.

[Martyn_Wolf]

Open ended questions don't always get an open response. I know people you can ask an open ended question too and they still say Yes or No

[cameronjadewallace]

This is the perfect way to understand my own brand of humor and why I use it the way I do.... And how I can be better and more real than I feel comfortable being. But really... I find comfort in the people I who have given me hope, and comfort, and inspiration to change.

[leslie]

My go-to question to get a conversation started with someone I don’t know well (if nothing else about the current situation comes to mind) is to ask what their first job was and how/why there. It’s an easy subject for people to talk about and almost always results in an interesting conversation. I’m often surprised by the answer and learn things about the person.

[advent]

It's always fun learning about someone. When you make it all about the other person, you gain so much knowledge.

[koolpods]

I like that first tip, just be more fun in the conversation to make them more fun. imma try this everywhere in life, just be healthier, happier, wealthier, smarter and more attractive

[dylannixon]

This channel is very helpful! I'm the shy guy that wants to be a people person. Sometimes I give the wrong impression because I never learned some of social skills I need, but everyone who truly knows me knows that I love people. Thanks!