How to Stop Enabling A Freeloader #Freeloader #Enabler #mooching #freeloadingfriends #entitled

In this video, I discuss the unacceptable behavior that freeloaders have of mooching off others without shame and the signs that let you know that you're dealing with a chronic freeloader. I also look at some simple methods on how to get rid of them. Enjoy.

[seeker]

In my experience, you create tension with them. You avoid them, and keep them at a distance. The most dangerous type of a freeloader is the type that knows actually what they are doing.

[Teddybeanie]

Broke with with my partner over a year ago. Still won't leave my home, as they have "no where else to go". Never paid bills, and I feed them everyday. They paid for NOTHING yet still had no money... putting my foot down and legally getting papers involved was the best thing I could've done

[tipoftheiceberg]

If someone freeloads on you ONCE. Don’t ever buy them anything or put any money towards them

[steventrosiek]

I have a friend whom I have known for thirty years. He is a freeloader because I am stupid, and I have allowed his freeloading. Your video is helping my to understand my weakness. Thank you for being so helpful. Love your channel.

[kmtaylor]

Great advice! I am dealing with a freeloading friend right now.

[spartacus]

I helped a friend out for weeks refurbishing his house for free. Fully rewired it, put in central heating and hot water systems as well as loads of decorating and general work. I was suffering with back pain at the time but kept turning up and working full days.
When the time came and I was fitting a bathroom in my own house and thought it was time to recall a favour, he turned up for 2 half days and ended up cutting about 3 tiles. The clincher for me came when he said his wife was expecting her dinner on the table when she got in from work so he had to leave mid-afternoon. Funny how she never insisted that her dinner was on the table when we were fixing his house up.

Anyway, that was a few years ago. But recently had a different friend pull a similar stunt.
I'm self employed and people just seem to think that I have time to do work for them, but because they work full time they claim to be 'too busy' when I need help.

[Enchanteralle]

I dodge those ppl like bullets. I see my friends and other ppl meeting and enabling freeloaders. It’s unfortunate. Worse scenario is freeloaders in dating.

[Xexcellencio]

My people have a Masters and PhD in freeloading. It runs in their blood and no matter how much we say no to them they always find a way to still freeload

[gomarril]

My boyfriend is 32-33 and a freeloader... I can't believe I let myself get this far as we have been living together for 3 years. And yes he will not pay for nothing, he wakes up at noon and plays games all day and night. This relationship is going to garbage as I feel love has faded. I feel a giant rock in my shoulders and can't imagine living the rest of my life this way. I just need to save some money so I can move out and start over... I will have to face my loans and my loneliness at 30 years of age and no family members what so ever.

[carlaperry]

Oh my goodness! I am changing my ways. I hate freeloaders but I’m guilty of it sometimes. It won’t be a huge fix but I’m aware now. Thanks.

[gijsbon]

I'm so happy I ditched that group of friends where this one 'friend was always in.. he ticked all the boxes you said! - tried to sneaky escape ways to not pay when going out, always suggested me and my friends to do the first rounds so we then get tipsy and forget. He would ask for sigarettes all the time, would come to my house to eat with me, would forget his wallet going out after we had a bill, never invited the group to his house, he had expensive stuff and clothes!! he would borrow money and never hear from it again and when he had no money end of the month he would call his friends for that one time we borrowed from him and ask that money back! very happy I'm not in that space anymore

[jeanettepimentel]

You just described a person I know!!! Thank you for validating my thoughts!! I’m NOT crazy!! And thank you for quoting scripture!!! God Bless you!!!!

[richmiller]

An old friend of mine was a chronic freeloader. He was always "accidentally-on-purpose" forgetting his money or debit card on outings, and every time somebody would feel bad and pick up the tab for him. He would promise to pay it back. Of course, he never did. He also would outright borrow money, borrow people's things and return them way late, if ever. He would also show up at people's doorsteps from time to time begging for a place to stay after getting put out of an apartment or somebody else's place. When someone would put him up, he would stay way longer than agreed upon and not contribute a thing. No rent, groceries, or even housekeeping.

In short, he was a lazy bum. And karma came back to bite him. He is now a fortysomething that has no friends left, and most of his family is estranged from him. And he has nothing to show for his life. A cautionary tale if there ever was one.

[debbY]

Freeloading is not just about not paying the tab when you go out. A freeloader can be someone who constantly comes over and eats your food, has you cook for them, asks for constant favors, sleeps at your place and never reciprocates or does anything nice for you that involves spending THEIR time and energy and money. Energy freeloaders.

[RAJ]

I'm tired of freeloaders. I've had to deal with them for decades. The attractive becomes less attractive for it.

[barbarajansen]

How about this one: I know these two guys who come to our meetings and they bring the cheapest thing for pot luck dinners: chips. On holidays, they make plans at two houses: they arrive at one party, eat, stay two hours, leave and then go to the 7:00 dinner. I’ve never seen such a bold rudeness. They come to the meetings, don’t contribute much and hardly ever bring food, usually what they find at a dollar store. These guys label themselves as Christians. There is nothing wrong with them. They just show up wherever there is free food. I stopped having company because since since they are a part of the group, they’ll come over, pig out and then be too tired to drive home and play tired victim and want to crash on the couch for overnight and then expect coffee in the morning. I can’t stand it anymore. My gravy train of compassion has run out of gravy!!!

[kelhimacmillan]

I've had one living at mine for over 5 days! he has a place of his own & gets 3 times more money than I do! On Sunday, I bought nearly £100 worth of food, to last until I get paid again, he's eaten way more than the £20 he gave me for "housekeeping", including the meals I've cooked, falling asleep with the T.V on & the gas & electricity he's used whilst he's been here!! He's not even my boyfriend! It's like entertaining a plague of locusts!! Then, he got paid on Wednesday, went away goodness knows where for the night & spent £250 & came back to mine the next day without even so much as a pint of milk!! I'm about to commit a murder!!

[sshennhokin]

I am Christian but because of that doesn't mean I mean to be taking advantage of

[caseyfyfe]

Ive dealt with this going on 3 years living with us
a family member
Im so over it and nobody cares
Ive actually thought about just disappearing
It's so bad i don't even care if i loose everything anymore

[fleurmal]

It's so hard as I was raised thinking the love I am supposed to show as a Christian means giving my all... even if it harms me. If I leave a friend to themselves when they are in a hard time I start thinking "can I even call myself Christian?". It's hard to draw the line, especially when the friend literally is like "you're my last hope, I'll be homeless if you don't let me stay in the current situation". I want to help friends through times of hardship. I learned that is not always a good idea, just like you say it turns to taking advantage so easily. Currently in a similar situation again :/