THIS Scares 80% of Men Away BEFORE a Date

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[YasminMedazza]

I have a personal rule that I will NOT meet someone from a dating app or FB without a phone call. I need to assess their ability to communicate, have conversation, emotional chemistry, their ability to use the phone (& not just text exclusively). There is NO reason for me to take my time getting ready for a date & meeting for a drink or dinner, if I cannot have a good conversation on the phone. It has worked well for me . 💜

[IevaKambarovaite]

I find that the answer to *Am I being too intense?*
Is always the same. You can only be too intense for someone who's not your kind of person. So be it. Works with romantic relationships and friendships in general. Now the question is *Who am I? Am I showing up as the authentic myself?*
I've found that figuring that out solves a lot of problems.

[queenquinn]

Me and my fiancée met on an app. We decided to meet up after a day of chatting for a drink ( which I loved because I don’t like the messaging for ages scenarios). So before our date I playfully asked to hear his voice, and we started sending voice notes. Then I asked to see a video of him ( for safety) he sent one and then so did I. Then the rest is history. If he’s the right man for you it would be incredibly hard to put him off with a phone call. He should be excited at the prospect because he’s getting to know you better in my opinion.

[CarlaSophieMar]

We also have to consider that phone calls for people who are introverted are a nightmare!
Especially when we barely know someone and that leads to a lot of awkward silent moments. In person we can at least read facial expressions and body language, which helps getting to know someone much better, and much faster.

[v.m.]

I rarely have a man protest to a phone call. I tell them just 10 minutes but it usually lasts at least an hour and they seem happy. The only guy that thought a phone call was a weird idea was the same guy who refused to offer a date with more than 24 hours notice. So that’s saying something. My vote is to keep asking for phone calls.

[AngelaJeanChat]

I would never get dressed, drive somewhere spend my time to go meet with a Stranger, that I have not spoke to on the phone. This is what discourages people in Dating. Getting dressed up wasting time and energy and then having a lack luster interaction. You can discover that on the phone before you leave your house. People need to preserve their energy, you only have so much to give.
Lastly, hardly anybody looks like their pictures, so if you’re going to sit across from someone that you’re not attracted to, they better be able to carry a charismatic conversation.

[hydrovenom]

This is subjective on a person by person basis for sure, but I love the concept of a "5 minute phone date" before meeting up. As mentioned in the video it's good to build up to it, and it's a great way to see if you "vibe" or not. If they don't want to take the call or ghost you for asking, they aren't for you and that's okay. My experience has been women willing to take my call are more interested in me, less flakey and seem more sincere about what they're looking for.

[stayslickwithkit]

Voice notes are definitely something we should do more of.
Hearing their tone and voice already builds connection way better than texting 🔥

Always an inspo for the channel Matthew

[apbxny]

I agree with Matt. I have caught men in relationships in a lie by requesting a phone call, or a meet up for coffee after work. Some of these men just want the added assurance that they are still attractive to the opposite sex, while being in a committed relationship already. They will text, and exchange photos forever if you don't surprise and or challenge them with a phone call or a coffee date.

[PtolemyXVII]

I much prefer a voice call over text. During a voice call I can immediately tell if we’re going to be compatible or not. I also prefer men who are bold and will want to talk on the phone vs. texting endlessly in which the latter I lose interest

[sundaskhan]

Man Audrey is so right
Get a woman’s advise in it
She tells it as it is

[PopFizzPaperDani]

Here’s an alternative to the “red flag alert if they say no to a phone call”.. some of us have severe phone anxiety. Video notes I can do, voice memos ok, video messaging apps awesome, but I personally get so anxious talking with a stranger when I can’t see their face and gauge their mannerisms, expressions, etc. I don’t even like talking to my family on the phone, much less someone I barely know. Just something to consider before nopeing to someone who is phone call avoidant.

[kimmiel]

I think a lot can get misconstrued when just texting someone. I think chatting with someone and carrying on an actual conversation is essential. Of course, I’m old fashioned and love the idea of writing letters as well.

[anjalouis]

I am shocked, never in my lìfe I went on a date without the guy calling me first.

And it saved me a lot of time and dissapointment.
There is só much information in a voice, and in the way someone speaks... 🙊

[kimmontenegro]

When I used to do dating apps, my protocol was to give a guy two weeks to ask me out, over the phone, for coffee. Only exception was if I was out of town. This really eliminated the married men. And the ones that just wanted to be entertained via text. Met some nice guys but we were not a romantic match. Finally gave up dating apps since it was lots of 'hi's' with very little dedicated action.

[tejalsabnis]

It’s harder to speak on the phone with someone you have never met compared to speaking in person because you can’t read from their body language or expressions over the phone

[waynerdy]

I recently met a very nice, attractive lady and we had an instant connection. I don’t usually connect with someone like that so I was pretty excited. She wanted to have a phone conversation and I was ok with that. The phone call lasted way too long and she got way too comfortable. I caught about 50 red flags in this conversation. Needless to say I will never speak to her again so this can be a godsend or mistake depending on who you’re talking to.

[liudmilaaleagaaguilera]

I love voice notes, big fan😁. Most men like it, I have found. I agree with Audrey on the progression, I like texting first, then go to phone numbers exchange within the first week. Depending on the phone or video call, then we move to planning a date. At least for me, I can get a lot of info from a voice conversation. I would not go on a date without talking first. I can even tell the age of the person, lol. A lot of men change their age, which is not great, and surprisingly they won't tell you unless you ask. Open and honest communication, and true intimacy, is crucial to me and for any healthy relationship, so if they do not like phone calls and having real conversations, I know it will not work for me. Thank you for another very valuable video, and advice 💕💕💕

[oldmcdonald]

imo, ppl just need to get out of their own heads. it's just a date.if you like each other, then great.if not, then go your seperate ways . but don't linger. but don't linger and don't string it out. if you don't feel it, just say so.

[jucxox]

I met my ex on a whim. I went against all the rules I had for meeting someone through an app. We texted twice and met and were together for 5 years. I don’t think the rules always work in your favor and can block potential relationships. As much as we want to screen our best mate, there’s so much being overlooked. The pre screening process is becoming a little too nit picky the more everyone focuses internet perceptions of other people. I think that can be a trap for inauthenticity and building a false narrative of someone you haven’t met in person yet.