Ukrainian Girl is Shocked At Dating Germans 🇺🇦🇩🇪

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Munich, Germany

[Ashpl]

I dated an Ukrainian girl just like this and we communicated our cultural differences in advance. She expected me to be traditional: pay for dinners, open doors, etc. However she refused to be traditional herself and that's where things started to go downhill. Not all people are like this though, but you learn to read the signs. Some lessons have to be suffered, they can't be learned.

[TyrionCypher]

Hate to bring it to her, it wasn’t about money. If you want a guy to be traditional, you better be traditional yourself. As a German I want an equal partner who is self sufficient and not someone wo cherrypicks the parts of feminism that suit her best.

[bendover]

Traditional men with traditional women and progressive men with progressive women. Problem solved.

[helgaioannidis]

German woman here. The German man was absolutely correct in expecting the woman to share the expenses. Women in Germany work and have their own money. Men in Germany cook, clean the house, wash clothes. We're equals and we share all tasks not according to gender, but to skill and interests. My husband likes doing the dishes, I like repairing plumbing and furniture. He like driving the car, I like grocery shopping, he likes ironing, I like washing the clothes and making the beds.
Our culture promotes freedom of choice and equal rights and tasks.

[pedro-ny]

I understand the girl and the guy. She expects a man to pay for the restaurant because it is supposed to be a romantic gesture from him, which she will retribute in other ways (cooking at home, paying for cinema, offering gifts...). On the other hand, the guy thinks paying for the restaurant always feels like being exploited. Neither of them is wrong, it's just a cultural shock.

[iAmJoshC]

I am with the guy. He did the right Thing

[patricia]

She knows what she wants, so she found a guy who can offer that. The German guy walked away cause that’s not what he was looking for. Pretty simple imo

[RuutteER]

I am Ukrainian man and i have Ukrainian wife, we are traditional family. I do all the "money stuff", like buy a house, buy a car, pay for everything. On other side she takes care of the home itself, kids, cooking, cleaning, raising the kids, takes them to school and etc. Also my work in 4 month on work (i'm a seaman so we can afford good life only on money that i earn) 4 month vacation. So that 4 month that i am on work she handles 100% of all "home business" .For me this is more than okay, we have been together more than 20 years, from school.

[edwinprado]

Currently dating a Ukrainian girl and lemme tell are as Conservative as they come! Which sounds bad, but every time I came over to her house, she had food ready on the table waiting on me. She even washed my clothes! And being from America ngl I felt outta place, but I started partaking into a more traditional role and so far its been working out.

[pablolopez]

Had the same experience last year with Ukrainian and I am french :
French man usually invite the girl on first date and even more but when in a relationship the girl is also expected to invite back ( we don’t split the bill ) otherwise we take it as ungrateful and poor maneers

[Chahlie]

When in Rome.... when you are living in a different country it's best to follow their customs....so choose your country wisely :)

[citrine]

im a bosnian girl and bosnian guys get offended when i offer to pay

[bsl]

I was once invited by a german person out for drinks to celebrate his birthday. To my surprise, I had to pay my drink.

[tecumseh]

Sounds like the German guy dodged a bullet and a cannonball

[zeryphex]

Swedish guys also don't mind if women pay, but Swedish women don't mind paying.

[marynayarmolenko]

One of the reasons I left Ukraine many years ago. Can't believe this attitude is still so common and not just an old stereotype

[funinvestor]

I live in Russia. Women mostly except that man will pay for them on a date, and there are lots of man who totally okay with it. People even may judge man who invited you on a date and didn't pay.

Well, I think that man can pay if he wants to but he doesn't have to. In my relationship sometimes I pay for restaurants, theatre and other entertainments, sometimes my boyfriend does it, we don't keep track. We pay equally for the rent. And it was pretty surprising for me when two girls said that it's so strange that I pay for a flat as well as my boyfriend. They say that he should pay all the rent, because he is a man and he is four years older than me. I didn't expect this comment from the girls of my age!

[samorkovka]

i’m russian and in my country girls also expect man to pay for them. but it “returns” him when they start living together and women here usually do most home chores. I don’t think this is equality. I don’t want a man to pay for me, i feel like indebted in this case.

[SquadND]

"He's a man, he's strong, he should protect his woman"

What the hell does that have to do with paying for everything?

Thank you, Unknown Germany Guy for showing the way!

[richardvargas]

I´d rather to be all alone than to hang out with this kind of women