My Spouse Has Been Stealing From Me

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[rodgertim]

He definitely will jeopardize your kids future.
I don’t understand why people rather remain in a marriage than getting a divorce.

[tammyschilling]

She needs an annulment and then to file fraud charges. This is WAY worse than infidelity (sexual or financial) this guy has been deliberately scamming her since before the marriage took place. She has a very good case for annulment and he needs to go to prison.

[nickm]

She would rather have her kids around a lying thief just to keep the house together? Dad is a terrible role model.

[anas.]

When she said she is not seperating from him, i then knew why he stole her money. She was smart with money and he knew she was not smart with him!

[TheKingsOutpost]

Guarantee, she told him how much she is worth while dating before they got married. His eyes lit up!

[deirdrekiely]

Her premarital accounts should never have had his name on them. He should not have access to it. Period.

[patriciacatlinbrown]

I have a feeling her husband’s “business” is actually stealing money from women. He’s a con-artist. 😢 She needs to run!

[dianereed]

He took $286, 000 from her, and drained over $100, 000 from their savings and claims there are no addictions - I don’t buy it!
This is a shocking amount of money to burn through in three years. He’s a liar and a thief - if you don’t get away from him, you’ll be victimized again. The fact that she feels she has all the answers makes me question why she contacted you in the first place.

[uscitizen]

Daters need to be careful about disclosing their financial status to people they're not married to. That's how some people attract financial predators into their lives.

[Catlady]

Advice from someone on the other end of how this turns out:
I’m 30 years down the line in a very similar situation except my husband had nothing when I married him & I had everything. Counseling will not help. It just buys them time & they find other ways to hide their financial abuse. Once a liar and a thief, always a liar & a thief. I stayed for my kids and put up with it & gave chance after chance but just like toddlers having a tantrum, once you give into them you have forever given up your hand. They know they can do whatever you’ve shown you’ll put up with. Don’t end up like me and actually worse off after marriage than before. Run honey. Run fast & far. Save yourself & your kids while you still have time to start over. Looking at retirement with everything you thought you were working towards for decades now gone is not a place you want to be.

[isabelbecerra]

She is grieving the death of her imaginary ideal family life and wealthy status

[evakatz]

As someone who’s Mum stayed with a bad man I PROMISE you it’s better for the kids if you leave. He will infect them with his sickness, and being around a dead relationship will teach them to accept the same.

[FreeAgent]

She says that the missing money has nothing to do with other women or any kind of addiction. I have a feeling that this is far from the truth. If she was this oblivious with the financial issues going on, there is no telling what else this guy is getting away with. I'm actually terrified for her. I wish her the best.

[lntomlinson]

This call definitely needed Dr. John Deloney!

[debbieholoquist]

A bad marriage is a horrible place to raise a child. Staying with him for the children is a mistake.

[MaxSujyGermany]

He choose her because she was an easy target. She's not gonna leave him anytime soon. He knew that when he picked her. He would not have choose her otherwise. If you are reading this... please know that he is lying about EVERYTHING else, not just the financial part.

[UnstoppableMorgan]

How did she not notice her accounts were being cleared out before it got so bad?

[JC-xucz]

She needs to press charges against him. He targeted her for her money.

[AccidentalHiker]

Denial is strong here. Her home is already broken. She needs to leave to save her children.

[anniealexander]

She is in denial! That money is going somewhere!! Why isn't she keeping up with her accounts? I check my accounts weekly. Savings, 401k, IRA, after tax, checking, credit cards.