How to Cultivate a State of Safety | Dr Stephen Porges | Trauma Super Conference 2023

Dr Stephen Porges, creator of Polyvagal Theory, explores the importance of an inner state of safety and the conditions which help create. This interview was originally featured in the Anxiety Super Conference.

1. Why safety is so important to our nervous system
2. The conditions that invite a feeling of safety
3. Practical steps for bringing more safety into your life

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[Rose_Ou]

That's exactly what I've learned both throughout my childhood and in my early adulthood (CPTSD + PTSD). Being accessible and vulnerable = most likely getting hurt (sooner or later). I perceive ALL people as threat, and, as I'm slowly approaching my 50s, I try to avoid them at all cost. It hasn't always been like that. I used to cling to anyone and everyone willing to acknowledge my existance because my hunger and thirst for love and acceptance was much stronger than all the red flags in the world. I started to withdraw in my early 40s and noticed that solitude, although not an ideal state long term, is the only time when I feel a little bit safer and slightly calmer. There's no cure for so much abuse, it doesn't exist. My brain should and could have developed differently but it was deprived of love and acceptance. Humans are cancer to this otherwise beautiful earth. We always hurt both each other and animals.

[simplythebest]

Exactly, re highly traumatized individuals may suddenly have a paradoxical fear/anger/activation response to deep breathing, meditation practices that for many bring on 'safety.' Why? because their Threat Response has become strongly coupled with any experiences of feeling safe- from years of lived experience in abusive or traumatic experiences. Paradoxical, yes, but very real for some people with trauma. Thank you, Dr Porges, for your kindness and generosity with the Polyvagal Theory, inviting us to apply it, utilize it conceptually and teach it in our own ways. I just love him. Onward, people! Let's return to social engagement, in all the small ways and large ways we can.

[tobilytle]

Beautiful:
“The problem is our language.
Control of our bodies instead of respecting our body’s communication.”

[MichelJGrando]

This is incredible content. Thanks for sharing it

[charlotterunge]

Every time I listen to Dr. Porges I learn something new. Thank you for this conversation ♥️🙏

[IIcorrinthians]

This is so good. I am learning what I didn't know about myself or where this hook in my jaw came from. I can remember the day it started when I was only 7. I have never felt safe since that thing or thought took over. My dad left. I stopped being carefree.

[moniaihmeita]

An incredibly insightful interview, thank you so much. Feeling safe can be a trigger—who'd have thought! It's very relatable, though, and explains a lot about my own, puzzling reactions. Finally.
However, it's Dr. Porges' emphasis on self-compassion, and keeping an "ear" open for the body's messages of distress that I found particularly helpful. Thanks again.

[emilywinterflood]

This man ha saved my life in so many ways ❤ brilliant video thank you for this. 😊

[Shri-laya]

Beautiful! The empathy and the "coming from one's own experience" is tangible with both, the Interviewer and the Interviewed. It makes everything so clear and easy to understand. Having been traumatized severely in my childhood I can so much relate to all that has been said. It all is very reassuring to me. It is the first time I listened to Dr. Stephen Porges - so far I heard from him through people who use his wonderful scientific "blocks" in their work. What a wonderful, empathetic person Stephen Porges is. What great contribution he makes to the world. And what precious gift is this Post. Thank you!

[stephaniecoffee]

His voice is so calming. I love the way he explains this. So knowledgeable. I am in the middle of reading Dr. Peter Levine's book, Waking the Tiger, and its really really good, too. I'd love to read one of Dr. Porge's also.

[cathyglascock]

Love the relaxation of the interviewer.

[nandkudasai]

This Dr. has a very clear thinking and deep understanding. I loved this talk, it was one of the best ive seen.
Thanks so much!

[katy]

Thankyou for your wise and wonderful expertise

[tmking]

State changes makes more sense where we learn to use all 7 systems.
Ventral vagel, fight, flight, zebra freeze, deer fauwn, octopus fu, dorsal dissociation.
Thanks Doc for all your compassion
Hope for humanity

[arjanblad]

This is beautiful... Thank you so much... Blessings to you both !!!

[margike]

Another great interview to mull over and apply my understanding in a prek setting with ages 3-5.

[TimeAcceleration]

There is so many helpful things that have been discussed in this talk! This gives me hope!

[stephaniecoffee]

🤯 this also explains why I don't feel a huge sense of calm when I do breathwork, or meditations, etc.

[kirstinstrand]

To all guests. Do you know Prof Mark Solms, a neuroscientist from Cape Town University. I believe all you scientists are attempting to resolve similar questions through neuroscience and triggering neurons. He's all over YouTube.