What are The Effects of Emotional Abuse ? | Dr. David Hawkins

Have you heard the saying “death by a thousands cuts”? That is what emotional abuse feels like. One small paper cut doesn’t sound like a big deal, but what would happen if you got 10 cuts, some minor, some more serious, every day for a month, a year, 10 years? It becomes a problem you can no longer ignore or just cope with. The same goes for emotional abuse. One accusation, one insult, one day of silent treatment, being dismissed once doesn’t seem like a big deal, but the cumulative effect of injuries incurred over time has a huge toll. It’s like walking around everyday with a backpack full of pebbles that you have accumulated over time. Dr. David Hawkins talks about the impact that emotional abuse has on a person over time and why it’s so important to acknowledge and repair the wounds.

Dr. Hawkins and his team of experts offer education and professional training as well as treatment for narcissistic and emotional abuse.

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The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts about narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.

Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships. He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse.

Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship. In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, topics include covert, reactive, spiritual, secondary, relationship trauma and more.

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[monalisa]

Every word you said is hope for my soul. I wish I lived where you are and could attend a group. Have your thought about branching out and having a marriage recovery center and emotional abuse institute location in Utah? I have suffered for 30 long years. I have a pack full of pebbles and desire to release and heal so I can regain what health emotionally and physically I can possibly restore. I just want to be held by someone who truly loves me and I can safely love back. I was hoping to experience that in this life. Dr. Hawkins you are a human angel. I am so grateful to think that I can have a safe joy filled life after so much emotional abuse and neglect.

[etheoc]

It’s like you went it to my brain and articulated everything I’m going through right now. Currently trying to end it. He’s dragging it out half heartedly saying let’s just stop fighting but not actually listening to my needs and concerns re his behaviour.
Thank you reinforcing my belief that this is toxic situation.😢

[lizapedersen]

It has taken me some time to understand why and how I stayed with my husband for 19, 5 years. Now I see, what I have been seeing with my parents for years and years, so without realizing it, I was doing the same as my mom 😢

[vesnaroberson]

I am asking myself now what is a healthy

[mikesmith]

My sister and father are both this way they love being emotionally abusive .It's causes my depression, anxiety, diabetes, insomnia she says she don't care she means it .

[cathymiller]

Thank you, Dr David, for you wisdom.

[naej]

Thank you for this video. This is exactly what has happened to me in my marriage 😢

[miminee]

This is my life … but I have no money to go on my own and I’m 70 years old …..

[ElsieDee]

I always compared the abuses to tiny hammers chipping away at my soul.

[eleonorabartoli]

Thank you for your understanding words, Dr Hawkins! The analogy of the pebbles in the backpack is so perfect!
I used to feel like I was always trying to run with a parachute attached to my back: the more I would try the more it would just inflate: it became a lost cause over the years, very exhausting.

[tanyatdw]

Everything you described in the first 3 minutes is how my husband felt, but he never voiced it.

When I told him I was sorry and never meant to hurt him ever. I was making decisions that I thought would keep him from being burdened or keep him from having to deal with my son that had issues from previous marriage. So when I learned this… he had been carry this for a very long time and drifting away and I didn’t know why.

Now for months over a year no talking, isolation. No intamacy etc. help

[belindaauntbhiggins]

This is INCREDIBLE! THANK YOU Dr Hawkins for such a clear teaching & explanation! This is GOLD!!

[IamHappyDavis]

100% hit nail on the head. Makes perfect sense.

[c.h.]

Again today..anger. threats. He knows what ive been through.cancer treatment all year..family estrangment over my mothers will for years. Im alone..afraid.i never know what word.gesture or tone will set him off. Anger .vicious words.blame.and threats of leaving..etc.
I used to be Strong now i am afraid..my insides in turmoil most the time..99% of the time its just simply unfair..he feels mean and i feel its about being made to feel Worthless my emotional destruction is the point.

[ambermarchand]

Ty! ❤ i am making my plans because i need to heal.

[sbgever]

Thank you 🙏 This is so very helpful and enlightening 💜

[ZFabia]

This my situation between me and my mother
62 & 84

[warrenbradford]

I need to set boundaries against emotional abuse while I am in toxic relationships. I have already lost so many emotions, which lead to my masturbation addiction.

[methinee.oraclecoaching]

Hi Dr David Hawkins, thank you for this video! I wonder if the impact can be too much for someone that there is no point of return for the relationship to be where it used to be?

[laurawillingham]

Burdens in life will occur...period, but that pack of pebbles and huge stones make us stronger in the long run, though at times we feel we will break under the weight at various times. We can eventually look back and see all the good that has occurred in our life that never would have occurred had those pebbles never occurred.