This is what stigma around autism sounds like to an autistic person #actuallyautistic #audhd

#autismpride #actuallyautistic #latediagnosedautistic #audhd

[theleatherdragon]

"Resources to help your partner learn how to handle you." I didn't know that was going to hit me as hard as it did but damn.

[zoyadulzura]

"Allistics are known for preferring smoothness over clarity." I love this reframing so much.

[jennenny]

This was so on point. Honestly, the only part missing is the pamphlet that starts every sentence with "your child" and details a bunch of interventions that would have been available had they been diagnosed before the age of 5 instead of as an adult (and includes a bunch of testimonies from parents about how much more conveniently their child behaved, but absolutely none from the actual child about how it affected them).

[glitteraapje]

you forgot the part where it's like 'here's some tips on how to be less of a burden for other people. they won't help with your struggles but it will help us notice you less :)' and 'you make too much eye contact, try not staring into people's souls so much' and 'your compromised allistic social skills made you think someone who's going nonverbal is being rude, instead of understanding that they are stressed'

[TinyCatSpoons]

Gosh, these poor people. We should do something to help them. Maybe an awareness month? My 5-year-old nephew is allistic and he just LOVES small talk.

[InThisEssayIWill...]

I cannot express in words how f*cking vindicating watching it framed this way is. Like. YES. THIS. EXACTLY THIS!!!

[dirtburger]

I dont have autism, but i was diagnosed with a personality disorder, and the part about the resources being about how to HANDLE you, not how to HELP you, all while not so subtly calling you a burden and a problem hit close to home. the common hellish neurodivergent experience

[whatsup]

"Pulling subjects out of thin air"
Gosh that's so accurate. HOW do they do it?

[triciad]

I know it's not PC of me to say, but I'm glad the allistic person was played by an autistic actor. It's not fair to someone off the spectrum to have to play such a demanding role when they obviously couldn't handle the pressure.

[emmaeilefsen]

lmao the "you could try working in sales" line is spot on

[ninjabgwriter]

Ok but this is the best thing of this type I've ever seen. Most skits about talking about allistics like autistics are really condescending and emotionally charged. Even when using that same very medically based speech patterns, they don't talk about actual ways being allistic might 'impact your life', like the 'sensitivity to authority figures' causing them to spend money on a charity potentially irresponsibly, or the bit about valuing smoothness in social interactions over clarity. Usually I just see these types of skits phrase neurotypical strengths as 'annoying'. It's very interesting to see actual potential struggles of neurotypical people phrased in the same way actual potential struggles of neurodivergence people are.

Seeing that contrast of potential strengths and weaknesses always being phrased as weaknesses for the neurotypical person made me realize I have way more strengths than I thought I did, because of how often they're phrased as weaknesses, and also that neurodivergent people can bring a lot of genuinely useful skills to a team with neurotypical people if we could vibe with each other and be kind and work together. It shows a lot of the biases and discrimination against autistic person really realistically in this skit, great job! Great scripting, great commentary, and great acting (especially with subtle things like the neurotypical character being more still and making more eye contact, and the doctor character be fidgety and moving in his chair and looking at his papers all the time)!

[brightthembo]

This is infuriatingly accurate. I literally had the conversation about support after my ASD diagnosis, but everything I was offered was for parents of Autistic children. I was 36.

If you're reading this and you are an Autistic adult: Help and support is out there, I promise, but it might take time to find it.

[Thunderbender]

The part about all the help resources being to help people deal with you really resonated with me. It seems like 98% of ASD resources out there are for parents with Autistic children.

[katharine]

As a mom to an autistic son this is sooo validating. They talk about him as if he's ill. I love him exactly as he is. Thank you

[saecul]

Oddly enough this reminds me of my anxiety diagnosis. "Here are resources for your parents so that you're less of a burden to them", "Classic anxiety trait, don't you ever think about how your anxiety effects others?", "You're avoiding eye contact again, it's rude", "Take your headphones off, you're being distracting." (The last one is in regards to using headphones to prevent overstimulation)

[JohnAdamsBlithwulf]

I know he has a "formal allistic diagnosis", but is he REALLY allistic? I mean, I know someone who has a 5 year old nephew with allism, and they're nothing alike! Are we sure he's not just faking it for clout?

[draconicfeline]

The "oh these resources are about you but not for you" is maddening.

"How to explain autism to the sibling"
"How to explain to the class" to teachers to everyone but the kid who doesn't understand why they're different

[aruemon]

i have never viscerally felt stronger about a skit holy hell. genuinely, some of my fears about ‘being a burden to my partner’ due to my autism really seem seen rn. good work, 10/10

[DavidCruickshank]

That line about all allism research being done by autistic people, Amazing!!!🤣🤣

[cutler_beckett]

Not on the spectrum myself, but I have a mate who is (extremely high functioning). What’s kind of heartbreaking is people start treating you different the SECOND they find out. There’s usually no cruel intention behind it, but they suddenly start patronizing you and acting like you’re incapable of understanding certain things, as if you were eight.

Because of this, my mate has become more hesitant to interact with new people, but then that leads them to suspect there’s something wrong with him for being so quiet, thus creating a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s really sad to watch in real time.