11 Essential Skills for Recovery from Codependency

[annabelaviles]

I really needed to hear this, I was emotionally and physically neglected as a child, I have been living to please others and neglected my own needs... Thank you so much for this 🙏

[sacmakiz]

Hi Carl, missed you very much my friend! Thank you for coming back!

[Broxigar]

These videos about how to work on/overcome codependency are thoroughly eye opening. For anyone else seeking any additional help, I personally recommend getting a counselor or therapist and talking with them. It really does help and a lot of places will work with you on payments if finances are an issue. Just remember, as a therapist once told me, "you are not responsible for other people's mental/emotional health". You can be there and support them, but you are not responsible for their health. It sounds heartless at first, but that's the part of you that has denied yourself all of what you give to others. Save some back for yourself, then more, and more. A healthy you helps more than an unhealthy you ever could.

You are a champion of yourself, for yourself. The higher you rise the brighter your world will be.

[susanhallett]

There is a lot here to reflect on. Working on myself and my issues is a life long journey. And your message is that we are worth it. Thanks Carl

[TofuTeo]

So glad you're still making videos 7 years later, thank you.

[YourOasis]

thank you for confirming that I'm on the right path to recovery. I always love your videos because you always emphasize at the end the good qualities we codependents have and that I often forget about for myself.

[dakine]

I found your videos refreshing because they are straight to the point, practical, and helpful. These days people make countless videos that don't have much value. I'm curious if you have any on interdependence for people that are afraid of relationships ?

[deepamehta]

- no one asked feelings
- responses: subjugate, fawn
- our feelings are not important
- other-focused > safety
- keep focus on others so you can stay safe and not reveal
- if I reveal > irrelevant & shameful
- “my job is to please others”

Solutions > you understand you
- I can’t control what others think, I don’t care what they think.
- healthy people hold space for us
- healthy people ask what I think
- healthy people try to get you
- if they don’t fully get me, but they don’t exploit or fault me
- compassionate healthy talk
- value of understanding, loving, and healing yourself
- the more self-love, the less others can take advantage

[bbw]

Hi Carl, so glad you posted another video!!!

[sll]

Wonderful, Wonderful, one of best videos for healing, Thank you so much ..🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈💗💗💗🎌🎌

[GooseBJJ]

Hi Carl, I have watched all of your content on codependency and it has had more impact on me than any other youtube series I've watched. So clear, concise and helpful towards recovery. You're making such a big difference in a world where therapy is incredibly expensive, I sincerely hope you know that. Thank you for all of your helpful videos.

[godzillamanstreb]

Your work is transformational for me…thank you for your soothing healing delivery of such crucial information to heal from excessive codependency & people pleasing coming from narcissistic family

[tanusridutta]

Thank you Counselor Carl for these Guidelines and I love your Smile !

[wedaad]

Thank you for this. I always pleased plle for acceptance. Now i allow plle to walk all over my feelings and needs. I struggle to assert myself. Feel like I am a bad person😢

[garrettcal]

Thank you for this channel. I'm really practicing skill #11. Trying to use past trauma during my youth to bring forth my gifts. I feel although it's a calling at this point. Just trying to work out the details. Thank you for your compassion. May God continue to bless you and yours.

[lucindacortez]

Peaceful voice is relaxing to listen to your videos, thank you

[johnholmes]

New listener and subscriber. I like the way you keep it simple. Quality information. I look forward to watching more of your videos. They’re very helpful. Thank you

[vanessamaewardhani]

Thank you so much!! Its really help!! God bless❤

[capitaldiverse]

thank you so much !!! i love these content

[alimay]

Carl, could you advise anything on point 9. To deal with the pain directly without the therapy ? Maybe some books or videos? Or just in which direction should I look for the information in this regard? Thank you very much!