I Confronted My Father After CSA

Welcome to Unfiltered Stories. Today, our guest Katy Stanley shares her life story with us. From such a young age, she was subjected to CSA at the hands of her father. For a long time, she thought she was dreaming about this experience.

After she grew up and started her healing process, the only thing she only wanted was a heartfelt apology from her father. That's why she confronted him and demanded a letter explaining everything he did to her.

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[lisaget]

He has not taken responsibility for anything he had done. Please don’t ever let him near ANY of your children.
Bless you for getting help. NONE of it was your fault.

[veizuky]

I am 57-years old. My father began molesting me before I was six years old. I blocked so much out. I am so impressed with you for being open and sharing your story. I have still not been able to share my story. I admire you so much. ❤ You are helping others.

[atlanticalilly]

It's NOT your fault. It's not your fault, and you did NOTHING wrong. Say it a million times, because it's true!

[jennyjenjen]

Your dad is a demon and please don’t feel bad for knowing he’s a monster it’s not your fault. You are so strong and brave for sharing your story.

[brendaloman]

I'm surprised that he wasn't charged and convicted of child abuse. The therapist is a mandated reporter! My heart breaks for you!

[alena]

Don't ever let him near your children ever please dont make that mistake

[wendyWERKKZ]

I can’t fathom still wanting to allow him to meet your children, even is he apologized appropriately, I would never ever trust home alone around any children

[h.m.]

This is akin to murdering the soul of a child. So it must be treated as murder.

[angelaholmes]

You are right Katy all because you share blood with someone that doesn't mean that they should be in your life

[sylviawilson]

I had same expectations. My dad did oral sex on me too, and pis private between my legs-we both climaxed. He never Penetrated me. This went on for years. I also learned that the brown pill, he was giving me, was birth control. This stuff started when I was 5 until 18. He told me once that if I got pregnant, to tell me to tell "them" it was some boy. There was much much more. I'm 71 years old now.

I have lots of therapy because I have PTSD and still get triggered.

We are very strong people. ❤

[SM-mdqy]

I am so proud of you for exposing him. I hope he has not abused any other child. I, too, am a survivor of CSA. My father was a pedophile and I need not say more. My mother was an accomplice. I wrote a book describing the abuse in detail and it was sent to him, and he denied everything. I did not go to his funeral (died of colon cancer).

[Zarasha]

Can he not go to prison? He is beyond sick. He needs to be registered as a sex offender. She needs to take him to court. What a disgusting narcissist.

[missamanda]

The perfect playmate. Omg. I'm so sorry. I lost my daddy. He was an amazing man. He was a police officer. We had 1 rule. Never disrespect your mother or your siblings. He passed away from heart disease when I was 21. It absolutely kills me that men like your father walk this earth, and mine is gone.😢

[massagegirlsj]

I'm so proud that you were able to confront him. That took courage. So many people after being abused are afraid to do that. What he did was 100 percent wrong and he should be held accountable. I know that goes without saying but my child molesters get away with it and the victim is left with a lifetime of pain.

[crystalpoole]

I have lived with the same unfortunate burden since I was 4 years old. My father passed away in 2019 and it was extremely traumatic for me. I never confronted my father. I never even told anyone until I was over the age 30 and I told my husband and my mother. I had 3 daughters when my dad died, that my father never had anything to do with. I left his house the day I turned 18. I was out of there. I couldn’t take the mental abuse anymore. It wasn’t sexual anymore. He never even acted like it ever happened. He was a severe alcoholic and drug abuser, the alcohol killed him. I had to be the power of attorney at the hospital bc by this time my father and my stepmom had divorced and he was alone. It was the hardest and most devastating day of my life so far. I hope I never have to feel that type of hurt again.

Edit: sorry for the long comment. This just really touched my heart and made me want to literally have a conversation with this young woman. I haven’t ever been able to relate to anyone about this. And I’m glad of that bc I would never want anyone to have to go through that, BUT it is kind of nice to know that I’m not alone and that it’s not just ME and I’m not a freak or “damaged goods”.

[nunyabizniz]

Don’t ever let this monster meet your children my love x

[shannon]

After I told My family I was scapegoated and ostracized. They are cowardly and cover for the perpetrator. even until today. Keep speaking your truth. You are a rock star and dealt with it more mature than most adults I know. God Bless You!

[zd]

She has no idea how strong she is. Inspiring, beautiful, strong, courageous.

[myishenhaines]

When I was around 12 I asked me father “why did you hurt me?” He said nonchalantly “I don’t know.” And that was it. Nothing more was said.

[faithspeakslife]

As a survivor, I can not imagine continuing a relationship with my abuser most especially if they were my parent or sibling. My heart grieves for survivors that can not let go. Like this beautiful soul said, you are not obligated to have a relationship with them. You are definitely not obligated to have your child(ren) in a relationship with them. The more we talk about child SA the more we can manage the lifetime trauma of child SA and we may prevent the SA of another child. Be well. Ase'