WHAT A MAN DOES WHEN HE'S READY FOR MARRIAGE

I often talk about the importance of a man finding himself before marriage. If he doesn't know who he is and where he's going, then he wont know who or what he needs to bring along with him on his journey. In regards to marriage this is especially true! One of the most important relationships anybody will ever have is the one between a man and his wife and who he chooses as a wife can either make or break him. But what if a man meets his wife before he's ready for her??? That is a question that I've been dealing with personally for a few years. You see, I have a beautiful woman in my life that I have known was "the one" for quite some time and I unfortunately was not "ready" for her and what she brought to the table. This woman was everything I wanted in a wife. It doesn't even really make sense for me to have remained in the "friend zone" for so long knowing how I felt. But I did! I sat back and watched her date other men for years and I've even given her advice on how to deal with some of them. I gambled big!!! This woman is a great woman and she could've been swept off her feet at any moment. As a matter of fact she has even been proposed to a couple times during our friendship. How I could I have remained so calm during this time? I'll tell you... I knew that if I had gotten into a relationship with her before the timing was right and before I had gotten myself together, that I would run the risk of losing her anyways. So I decided to put my personal development first. That decision was the best decision i could've made for the both of us. Last week I proposed to her and we are now engaged to be married. Waiting until the time was right allowed me to level up. I have clear plan for the future, I'm much more mature, she's more mature, and we both know exactly what we want out of life. We are set to have a very fruitful and abundant life together and I attribute the foundation our relationship sits on to waiting for the right time. I made this video to get a couple different points across. One is the benefit of waiting and also I wanted to tell you what a man does when he's ready for marriage. I hope you walk away from this video with some fresh perspective and a new outlook on how to set your marriage up for success before you even meet your wife.

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[TheShumakeWay]

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[sabaande]

Absolutely true. About 8 or so months in, my husband proposed...he was already talking about wanting to marry me a few months in. Few months after engagement, we got married. A kid later...running a family business together...doing life together. To other people, it looks fast. But when a man is ready, he is READY and will move accordingly.

[shirllee]

I wish there were more marriage minded black men out here.

[nicolesmith]

I heard a man say that, "Men aren't ready until he finds the woman he wants."

[love]

So true my husband ask me after 3months. I was not ready only being 19 at the time.He never pressure me and waited 2y for me to say yes...We married in 2003 and still until this day are together LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF ME..

[stephnewhitfield]

Yes, marriage is never the problem. When you marry the wrong one, is when it is bad.

[stephnewhitfield]

Tony Gaskin said, when he learned how to love his wife, that is when he began to see an abundance of blessings. A woman is a gift to man so he would not be alone. After man finds himself and is working in his purpose is when they should come together. She has to be in hers as well. This is coming from a divorced woman. I was married for 15 years and have been divorced for almost 6 years. After this, I can still truly say that marriage is a blessing if the right two purpose partners marry and are in the will of God. Being married is not perfect, but all the nonsense that many go through would not be a factor if people were careful and vetted out who they marry. Congrats!

[dooba]

As long as you make God the Head of your household, everything else will fall into place. ✔Always pray together, ✔address problems early,
✔talk about everything to nothing and;
✔never let the sun go down with wrath in your heart.
CONGRATS! 👌

[Chantss_xo]

My husband asked me 2 months into dating and we got married in January and we been married 5 years. So trust your gut ladies💅

[sincerelyajg]

Very true. My husband wasted no time in our courtship, engagement, to marriage. We dated for 6mon until he proposed and we were engaged for a year. He asked my parents for my hand after 4months so they knew the proposal was coming. We just celebrated 7yrs married in February. Congrats on the engagement! Ladies just because you’ve been with a man for years doesn’t mean he is who is meant for you. I dated one man for 5 years before my husband but I knew he wasn’t my husband. Men know.

[toughcookie]

Factual. I married my husband within 8months of meeting him. It’s been 8 years of marriage and it’s been filled with joy and love

[ArethaRenee]

Aww congratulations and best wishes!!! She’s a lucky women. Black love and marriage is still happening. ❤️

[vmystery]

Every man is different and when he has his MIND right, his HEART right, his FINANCES right (not talking millionaire but enough to be comfortable), he knows and he is looking for Ms RIGHT! While I believe there are many marriage minded men, women have to STOP playing houses, giving their bodies away so freely, having kids, no commitment and not REQUIRING what they want in a relationship. It will always come back to, "IF you want BETTER you have to do BETTER!" Get you together and stay strong in what you want.

[chickychic]

When you choose the right woman, whatever you are going to be and do, will be better.

[bershannedmack]

My husband wanted to marry me 3 months into our courtship and 1 year later. We got married. I THANK GOD FOR HIM

[DynamicallyDC]

I respect that you had enough regard for your fiancé while being friends first not to string her along into a romantic relationship that you weren't truly ready for. As Tony Gaskins has stated, you've displayed strength through your gentleness and approach. Congrats!! 🎉🎉

[sasanewnew]

I'm not waiting for no man over 10 years. I'm only dating men that have intentions to marry. If not I'm not wasting my precious time. But I'm glad it worked out for you congratulations 🎊👏🏽

[donnamcintosh]

Congratulations! This is how a sensible man handles things. He gets his mind, heart, and finances right.

[lro]

Not only did I had the “talk” with my father in law, all 3 of my brother-in-laws were in the room too....and they were all 6’3 or taller while I was only a mere 5’9😂🤣. They were not playing games that day and it was super intimidating.

[Changeyourperception]

That's a fact. My man knew I was his wife when we first met.