The SURPRISING REASON You Control & DON'T TRUST The Universe!

The energy of control creates resistance, and many people that have controlling tendencies end up not only resisting them actually manifesting what they want but also they end up repelling either love, they repel abundance, they repel new opportunities because control is creating a dynamic of resistance.

In this video, I'm gonna show you the root cause of the control and offer in a perspective on healing it so that you can finally start trusting the flow of your life, trusting the universe, doing less, getting more from simply being in the right energy and in the right vibration.
What if we found out that there is actually a root cause of control, there's a reason we may be controlling?

We may be controlling in love. We may be wanting someone to text us back, things to happen a certain way. We might be at the same time wanting and obsessing about a job that we want, trying to control our friends and how they're showing up for us, our family.
Now here's the thing with control, too.

The more rules we have for how people need to be and how things need to happen in our life, the more resistance there is. Now imagine we're more general. It's like, you know, what
would it be to have a good day? It's like, "Oh, you know, I wake up, I feel gratitude, and I just am doing X, Y, Z." It's like real simple, right?

But imagine, it's like, "For me to have a good day, I have to have my son or daughter do this, I have to have my mom text me this, I have to have this happen in this sequence, and people need to show up for me like this, and there's all these rules," it's gonna be way less likely that you have a good day.

Now the thing with vibration and energy is how we feel translates into what we experience. So the more rules we have to what makes a good day or the more rules we have for the way reality should work under the power and the energy of control, the more resistance there is versus having a more general sense of being able to go with the flow.

Because when we let go of control, we're able to relax. And when we relax, things happen in reality in a much easier way. So first off, just realize that control is a matter of letting go of the desire for that power. Control is like an ego desire. Now let me first off say as well, this is a pattern that I am working at shedding and I definitely have in my own life.

There's aspects of my business. My business for me has been always like, my business in a way was my saving grace out of getting out of the nine-to-five job that I worked selling women's shoes. I started making daily videos. I started having this work hard and kind of like focused mentality.

And I had to do everything. I did my own thumbnail. I did my own editing. I did my own everything. And then eventually, I kept growing. And I'm like, "Man, I'm doing so much." And it was so hard for me to let go of control because I had this belief that nobody could do it as good as me.

But guess what? That belief was there to keep the energy from childhood alive inside of me. And that's what we're talking about in this video when it comes to the root cause of control. Now here's my theory on control. Here's what I've noticed in almost everyone I've talked to about control.

And all my friends, we tend to attract each other. Like attracts like, so I got a lot of friends that also have these little control things. Control is related to the energy of trust. It's the other side of the coin. Now most likely what happened, and you let me know, you comment below or like this video and let me know, when you were in childhood, did you have some way that one of your family members or friends broke trust with you?

Maybe it was a parent that was emotionally unavailable, a parent that walked out on you. Maybe you were physically or emotionally abused or sexually abused. Many times the reason people have a control dynamic is because there was trust that was broken at a younger age, and then there was a decision that was made.

There was a meaning that was made. 'Cause remember, everything in our life has no built-in meaning other than the meaning we give it. But when we're kids, we make a meaning, and we say, "This means that I can't trust, therefore I must draw the energy and do it." So trust has been broken.

So instead of trusting other people, instead of trusting the universe, it says, "I only trust myself because I had to get myself out of shit experiences growing up." Now in a weird twisted way as well, I look back to my childhood, and there was a familiar energy in childhood of control because many of you know, if you've watched my videos or know, you know, heard my story before of my ex-stepmom, my ex-stepmom from 7 to 15 years old was in my life.

[MandyJRoss]

If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.❤🙏🏼

[knowitintobeing]

Letting go of the importance of one's manifestations is probably the main key in manifesting. 🗝️ Always remember your power. You can trust yourself and the universe. You are super powerful and you don't need to be controlling at all! 🌟

[karishmacontractor]

This was like a whole 15 mins of realisation. I've seen my parents in childhood argue about finances, and that's caused me to not trust people with money easily and try to control it. I've just recently come to this realisation and i feel like the universe guided me towards this video too! Thank you Aaron!

[myriambradley]

Spot on about trust issues as a child. Now I know why I have the control issue I'm working on. Thank you.

[jeantuite-actress--imdb]

I’ve graduated from victim to survivor to now way beyond empowered

[BunnyAwakens]

Feeling like I’ve been resisting the universe. As I’m sitting at work contemplating my control issues this video pops up! Divinity at work :) Thank you for your time and energy!

[ElliottPiano]

It's incredible how we have access to such lifechanging content nowadays .
bless you

[gavinspeaks]

One of the biggest secrets I discovered in life is to figure out how to love life more than you love to sleep!
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction YouTuber💜

[sdmcdiva]

When I lost my job of almost 20 years back in 2008, everyone else was running around in fear and trying to figure out what was going to happen and they wondered why I was so calm? It’s because I knew I would be taken care of. I didn’t know what was coming but it would and I was going to be ok. And I was. Why try and control something that I had no control over. Blessings.

[codyhiphop]

Dude this video actually put me onto a new state of mind in my recovery and letting go of my recent toxic relationship when you said once you let go of control you can relax. I literally relaxed inside alot and realized I can relax and let her go and allow the universe to work in my life. Absolutely awesome thanks.

[emilybass]

THIS WAS SO HELPFUL AND EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR RIGHT NOW. Thank you thank you. Feeling such resistance with letting go with covert narcissistic Dad. So crazy how so influential in present reality. Thanks for your content!

[oscarwildrocks]

"My girlfriend loves unknown, because....I don't even know why.." 😄 Amazing video 🥰

[Gabby.xo]

Find safety in the unknown. I love that ❤️

[ruthcohen]

Please make more videos of that kind 😇

[dobiminarikova]

All my family broke my trust… sometimes on a daily basis 😒

[Bluebird-vdje]

I just quit my job so I needed this reminder. I know there is something better out there I just need to trust! (for a control freak like me it's super hard but I am getting there, it's one of the reasons I quit my job even tho I have no 2nd option so far. I just knew I couldn't keep working one more day there)

[michellem]

Luv U Aaron, you changed my life. I get more from your videos than I ever did in therapy.

[lililu]

Hey Aaron, how did you become the best in your shoe sales job? I just got a job working in a lovely little vintage shop. Lots of regulars. The goal: i build beautiful customer relationships that are effortless and comfortable, im charismatic, open, approachable, joyful yet peaceful and calm, i light up the room, I am magnetic and social and make great sales, I can easily talk to customers, give advice and have little chats

[iamjanessa]

I have c-ptsd from my current relationship of 15 years I smoked pot for the majority now that im sober I find myself a paranoid shut in

[TehMocky]

I am commenting before because every video you put out is always hitting me where it’s good. Thank you Aaron. Keep up this leveling up. Much love.