How to keep house while drowning (w/ KC Davis)

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[SolSkinn]

I love cooking. I love it. But I feel like if I'm doing that for you, and we're living in the same home, you can take care of the dishes. But my husband makes himself eggs every single morning and piles the shells on the counter. It's been 17 years and I somehow forget he does this until a week has gone by and I see the shels of 28 eggs on the counter and he refuses to throw them out because he "actually works." Let's not mention that I earn money on eBay and by writing. I do the taxes even though he gives me zero access to our money. I don't even get to see the bill. And I have POTS, so I sometimes end up in the ER behind all of the housework I have to do just to keep myself from going crazy. Then again, I also have ADHD 😅 A girl in my POTS Facebook group told me to buy your book today because it helped her so much. I think I'll go do that.

[AdmiringObserverR]

I thought he was going to say "How do you handle people you live with not giving a crap about supporting these systems you implement or following any of them?" Because that is my question.

[TeacherNyla]

She had me at 'rest is not sleep'.

[kristikiser]

❤❤❤❤ KC you are SO ❤❤❤❤❤ you're helping so many people (and me) 😅😅😅 Keep up the great work!!!😊

[Sara]

I'm not afraid of being judged because of a guess, IVE BEEN JUSGED on the basis of crumbs alone.

[kaydeenothing]

I came across this by mistake. I'm so glad I did though. She touched on things I needed to hear. For me, I have been struggling with self-worth and ability to care for my family because I can't get things done. Dishes and laundry are worst for me.

[meadowmaiden]

When there is an activity I don't want to do I time myself seeing how little time it takes was a big motivator for me. Emptying the dishwasher takes me like 3 minutes, and that is not a lot of time so now I race my self lol

[Charity]

I love doing laundry and vacuuming because its quick and easy.but the dishes and organizing is what i hate.and the cooking too is time consuming

[mo]

I agree. So glad other people find the overwhelm like me. I write everything but boy does it feel as if im on a hampster wheel. I get into a cycle if i want to keep a clean house i clean nonstop but if i clean nonstop i have no time to do other things i need to do. All at the same time my husband needs me, my kids need me. All these expectations plus cook 3 meals a day etc, etc, etc. Ive had to let go a lot so i can do those other things. Its so hard for me but i also dont to feel consumed by cleaning bit i also agree with the if i don't do it it piles up. Absolutely. Uhh. Ive been a stay at gome mom for almost 8 years now. But i have 2 side jobs. Even though it was hard my house stayed cleaner when we had a lot of work and i was working almost full time those weeks. I was super busy i worked at least 10.5 hours days then came home cooked mowed the grass until dark then cleaned what i could. Went to bed got up and did it all over. My house stayed a lot cleaner then now when we are home all day.

[NYUSARN]

Chronic fatigue, autistic child, ADHD, long hard hours as a prison nurse = very messy, disorganized home. So much embarrassment and shame.

[traciebecker]

I wish she didn't make a big deal over the word lazy. I have felt lazy and met others who have said they were being lazy as opposed to feeling overwhelmed or entitled or physically exhausted.

[Gleichtritt]

Laziness doesn't exist? Good way to lie to yourself I guess :D