The Signs of a Doomed Relationship | Esther Perel

Where should we begin examining our problems with relationships, cheating, conflict, and more? Legendary therapist Esther Perel talks us through it here!

Full Show Notes Here:

What We Discuss with Esther:
00:00 - Intro
01:01 - Why cheating doesn't mean your partner wants to leave you
23:04 - Monogamy
29:25 - How to argue better
45:50 - Signs you should break it off
1:09:26 - How AI will change romance

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[shellshelly]

I believe that this wonderful, beautiful, intelligent lady, is one of the most interesting people I’ve ever listened to.

[atkeeler]

She takes an Anthropology approach to intimate relationships. She knows 9 languages & very European in cultural style. Americans need more therapists like her!!

[carriepriegel]

Bored silly with 99% of the self help gurus/their repetitive pablum, Ms. Perel is so refreshing and wise; her guidance is practical and inspiring, her depth of knowledge is platinum & highest grade diamonds, in its rarity & priceless value.💖

[heathersohappy]

45:45 addresses the issue of when to end the relationship

[ThuyHuynh-ueyc]

Thank you Esther, in one podcast, you’ve pinpointed and helped me see the reasons behind my marital fights. Esther = all fights are for power & control, respect & validation, and care & kindness.

The advice your guest gives is related to partners who are decent people. My partner of 11 years has turned out NOT to be decent. I treated him all along as if he was a decent person, e.g. giving him freedom to go & meet friends, take trips abroad alone, etc. because i believed that sort of freedom to be healthy in a relationship. He had at least one affair that I know of, over a 2 year period. He met the person during those hours of freedom. I realise now that it was a mistake to trust that he was capable of being faithful. Your advice does not relate to those who are not decent humans. Unfortunately these types are master con artists, making them difficult to spot. The situation is still raw & very difficult to cope with. I hope that i can get through it.

[Joy-mmcz]

I love Ester P. I have followed her and her work for 4 yrs now. I have her books, podcasts and game. She has transformed my relationships, both professionally and social.

[Nature-wk]

I love this lady!!! She is the most intelligent, insightful, “GET IT” woman. Thank you Esther!!

[emmcn]

The freedom piece and the security is huge. It has kept my 9 year relationship so solid and always growing. Spot on why its so important.

[Emy]

I love her advice. We do tend to not notice our own changes and then expect our significant other to remain the same.

[garyr]

This woman is about as wise as anyone can be
Her responses to the highest quality of questions are so substantial that it’s hard to not be in awe
And in gratitude
Thank you both
Beautiful souls

[galynwebb]

Esther Perel is the intelligent, knowledgeable, and interesting person to hear about personal reflection on relationships and how to look forward to better future relationships, within the current marriage.

[CatCassandra]

Esther is the Contessa of compassion and kindness. I would give anything to have her giving advice to senior couples. Specially when they start at 62-65

[Manana]

I simply can't get enough of her. I read all her books, I listened to all her podcasts and I want her as a friend ❤ She's amazing

[dachater]

I love what she says about lying horizontal during an argument and humour! Humour is such an important salve in a relationship. The person who brings that brings a gift! Also not about arguing better but relating better.

[heathersohappy]

Esther's closing comment is the introduction of a whole new conversation that I would love to listen to and engage in! "We talk about loneliness. We talk about suicide. We talk about breakdowns of institutions. We talk about how the burden of self has never been heavier. But when we talk about it like that it feels very abstract. When you look at the life of actual people, (especially younger people, as I do), it warrants attention."

[billpetersen]

The whole part about choosing to thrive, after horrendous trauma. Is so amazing.
My wife is so scared to open herself, to joy, laughter, sex. It results in being sick, and unhappy.
(Not fulfilled).
The plastic wrapped couch.

This talk is inspiring.
❤️
Love you all.

[munimuni]

Thank you Esther! I never get tired of listening to you. You are wise and fun and very courageous. We need more of you!

[IndigoHazelnut]

Wonderful conversation. Thank you for this podcast.

On the note of AI I will share an observation:

When my sister was born my mother was in the same hospital ward as a woman who had just given birth but was under observation due to grade a drug addiction.

I remember hearing her baby's cries & the nurses explained that basically the baby was crying so much as it was born with the drug addiction. It was one of the most terrifying cries I had ever heard.

I had forgotten about this until a month ago when a woman came into my workplace with her 2 infants. At one point she took the phone off the hands of one of the infants and they started crying.. The same terrifying cry that baby with the addiction had..

When experts state that technology has no impact on mental health issues.. I honestly think they have their blinders on.

I'm glad Esther Perel is speaking so frankly about her concerns.. While it is not helpful to get all doom and gloom about technology (it does have its pluses..such as me listening to this podcast).. Its important to acknowledge what issues are arising

[hilaryscott]

Thank you Esther Perel for your AMAZING insights, and incredible family background and the fact you understand and speak 7 languages?!! My mind is officially blown!🤯