5 Types of Men to Avoid (#3 will DRAIN your energy)

5 Types of Men to Avoid (#3 will DRAIN your energy)
Now, when you're getting out there and meeting men, you are going to encounter two different types of guys. Number one are real men who put in real energy into relationships and dating, and then you're gonna encounter some men-children. Now, real men are secure and comfortable with who they are and what they can bring to a relationship. Whereas men-children will make you wanna delete every single app from your phone and become a lesbian for the rest of your life. But before you go off and do that, let me walk you through the five different types of men to absolutely avoid in your love life, so that you don't have to go and do that.

Now my Love Accelerator clients are very aware of what we call emotional energy vampires. These are vampires, basically, people who take all of your energy from you and completely distract you from what actually matters, which is attracting long-lasting love. So in this video, I'll not only teach you how to avoid the men-children, but I'll also teach you how to avoid the emotional-energy, draining vampire, men-children. They might also get in too when you're getting out there, meeting people. Let's get into it.

The first type of guy that you really wanna avoid, when you're getting out there meeting people, is the Needy Ned. He's the type of guy that when you meet him, he just goes all in. He's texting you constantly. He wants to see you. And it feels like too much, but you wanna give in because you're at a point where you're ready for a relationship. So you think, "Well, this is really cool." And then you finally do give in, you dive deep into this relationship only to find out three months later, that needy Ned moves on to be needy Ned with another woman. It's guys like this who go in and out of relationships, really hard, really strong. Avoid the Needy Ned.

The second type of guy is Freedom Frankie. This is the type of guy that can be deeply falling in love with you, but he's always keeping his distance because he fights for his freedom so hard that he is not even willing to consider being in a relationship. And he'll go so far to even just protect himself from falling in love. He will back away the moment he starts to be affectionate with you, or the moment you start to be affectionate with him and you can tell in his eyes that he has feelings for you, but he's protecting his freedom with all his energy. I know this guy pretty well because I used to be that guy.

Guy number three is Selfish Sam. This is the guy where dating is just all about him and his needs and what he can get out of it for himself. Sometimes these men can even be narcissists where they only look at their own needs and wants and have little to no concern about you. He'll consistently lie to be able to get out of situations, he doesn't wanna be in or he'll lie about quite frankly, anything that avoids any type of confrontation or difficult conversations because he doesn't wanna deal with it. He wants to be able to live on his terms and make himself happy with again, no concern about you. It's almost like your only reason for existing is to serve this guy.

Guy number four is No Effort Nick. This is the type of guy who will respond to your texts, but he's not really initiating, or maybe he will initiate texts, but he never makes plans, because he doesn't put in any effort. In our Love Accelerator coaching program, we call these orbiters. These are people who kinda live in your orbit, whether it's guys you're talking to on dating apps or online dating, or even guys you've met out and about, they might text you a lot, but they actually put a note effort to see you, to take you out or to progress things forward. Never invest a lot of emotional energy in someone like No Effort Nick.

And the final guy that you want to avoid like the absolute plague, is Controlling Cam. This is the type of guy who literally beats to his own drum and by the way, if you don't beat to that same drum, he's going to have a real problem with that. If you wanna have a night out with your girlfriends away from him, he wants to know exactly where you're going, what time you'll be there, and what time you're leaving and he wants to hear from you, the moment you leave that venue. He's the type of guy that makes you have to see his family and spend time there, but when it comes time to actually do anything that you wanna do, sorry, he's not available. This is a Controlling Cam.

So moving forward, I want you to set a new standard for yourself. No more investing your energy into men who are going to absolutely drain all of your emotional energy.

[teachermade]

How they treat you is how they feel about you!

[rushmitaroy]

You forgot to tell about Mama's boy🤪

[ValentinaCervera]

When your guy is a combination of all these 5 types 👁👄👁

[mimid]

I am laughing at myself! I was dating a guy who is #2, 3 and 4 all together 😅 I realised that if I respected and loved myself I should’ve moved on; and that’s what I did! It hurts especially when your feelings are genuine but it’s the best decision you can take to protect yourself and to give space and energy for someone who will reciprocate.
Thanks for sharing this with us 🙏

[gerafinali]

I had the 5 of them, plus the one who appears perfect to start with, and turns out to be the complete opposite to what he first portrayed. Now, I just remember that men are the biggest women's predators, and I live happily ever after with my doggy.

[ladygypsysoul]

I was married to one man who is all of that. Guess what happened? I divorced him.

[KayciazWorld]

Just ended a 9 month relationship with a "Selfish Sam." He was so selfish and completely all about himself. He'd lie about the smallest things and had absolutely no regard for my feelings, all while pretending the entire time to be "the good guy." It really is disturbing the types of people that are out there. But I'm grateful for the experience as it's certainly strengthened what I will and won't tolerate in a relationship.

[dakotacook]

My first boyfriend was a needy Ned. Said how he wanted me to meet his mother, he could see forever with me and that he was in love with me. I thought it was quick, but always thought -- "when you know, you know" so I thought that was alas he was a needy Ned. Ghosted me the day he was suppose to meet my mom & hang with me. Never had the balls to break up with me either lol

[Swiss_Girl]

i am 30 years old now and i dated 3 guys who were nr 1. now i am in a relationship with my boyfriend for 1.5years and we took everything very slow. we are so in love now. take your time and get to know the guy.

[BajanPana]

I actually "dated" a 48-year old man that was #s 2, 3, and 4. SMDH. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[unlikenoother]

My last connection were all 5 in 1. Had to give him that 4 letter word...NEXT! 👉🏽

[MicheleHerrmann]

A new one - Lazy Larry. He expects you to do everything for him. Including support him. Don't become a mother to a man child.

[abbydoll]

Your videos are entertaining, and I always learn something new. Thank you

[shoegalable]

I absolutely love your videos and advice, I will be 40 I’m 2 months. I have encountered all of those men😩🤦🏾‍♀️.. and I lol when you said you will want to become a lesbian and delete every app 🤣 because I’m at that point l..but I’m in therapy and I’m getting better at cutting them off at the first sign of nonsense.. keep the videos coming 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[leelanae]

This video was funny as hell and very informative!

[cherylmorris]

Lol ALL of those!! With online chatting it's easier to see who spends the effort instead of having only 1 person you're interested in. But 99.97% treat women like fksticks not ppl. Sad.

[curioussoul]

I had a needy Ned... You described him perfectly

[BraveSoul]

I've encountered the Freedom Franky
Alot with divorced guys who say they want a relationship but enjoy their freedom and won't commit.

[MindPalaceASMR]

I just can't understand those #4 guys !!!! They're aweful!!!!

[leopardlily]

Too many no effort Nicks!! 😭 My heart feels pummeled by these selfish Sams.... I’m on break bc until I stop even allowing myself to give these man children an ounce of my energy I continue to be the common denominator in my own self sabotaging pattern.... ya these types of dudes bring nothing but pain. Stay away stay away!! Don’t even let them in for a minute!
Please dear God, may I have learned my lesson once and for all 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼