marie kondo gave up on tidying: my thoughts // revisiting marie kondo in 2023

marie kondo gave up on tidying: my thoughts // revisiting marie kondo in 2023

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[ashleytaylor]

I remember when folks would say that the “joy” aspect was dumb because surely trivial things like scissors can’t bring you joy…maybe not, but surely I can get rid of the crappy scissors I avoid like the plague for scissors that actually work. In that sense, those working scissors give me joy 💃🏽

[insomnime]

Personally I don't think Marie Kondo gave up decluttering, she gave up perfectionism. Some people are only truly happy when they see someone else 'fail' (in this case, Kondo had a shift in priorities and direction which I agree is brave to acknowledge, especially in the public eye).
My top takeaway from the KonMari method was always the keeping what sparks joy for me and the chapters about using your best stuff/making every day a 'special event' by wearing/using the things you'd be stashing away in storage.
Agree with you that most people who 1, criticised the method and 2, celebrated her 'downfall' probably didn't read the books or took the core message to heart.

[mysticfox]

It’s almost like she used step one of her own method by making a vision statement and then said, “I’d like to spend a little less time on keeping my house in order right now because that choice would make me happy.” She’s literally doing what she’s always advocated for; setting your life up in a way that supports your happiness. Like you said though, you’d have to have actually read and understood the book to get that.

[bittertea]

As you said, I learned a lot from her and her rebranded does not invalidate everyone's positive experience with her method. People are allowed to change and grow. Good for her.

[exomake_mehorololo]

A lot of people seem to hate watch perfectly nice people but have no issues with actually problematic people that shouldn't have a public forum. When I see people like her being hated on I wonder what's wrong with people? I mean this woman has never criticised or attacked anyone's lifestyle.
Or said her way was the only right one. She simply offered advice for people seeking it. No one else is concerned? She's a consultant not a cult leader

[kaylsk]

100% agree with everything said.

It’s honestly scary how much ‘joy’ people seem to get from the failure of others.

[flawedfabulous]

Your nails look super cute.. decluttering is a personal journey, I believe she just shared her ways to reach true happiness within what you own. Lately I'm not finding joy in my collection, so it is time to do something about it.. change doesn't mean failure

[Sal-iwzg]

I read Marie Kondo's book when I was already pretty well decluttered and comfortable with my own system but I did pick up her sock-folding guidance, and especially find the idea of storing folded clothes so they're visible/accessible from the top rather than stacked useful to keep in mind.

Hadn't realised there had been a blow-up like this to be honest - it's amazing what people can work up a fuss about XD

[Ariana-nzwu]

Marie Kondo's folding method totally changed the game for me! I've showed other people in my life about it and while not everyone appreciated it as much as I do, I plan on following her folding method for future years!

I didn't agree with every single aspect that she promoted (taking everything out of your bag everyday is more of a hassle for me than it's worth) but she definitely had some gems

[heatherwoods]

Yeah she didn’t say she quit she just said her home is messier now. She’s human. Her philosophy/method still is beneficial.

[jessicaharrison]

I love clean and tidy spaces, but now that I have children, it feels really impossible to keep things tidy. I don't blame her for prioritizing other things during this time in her family life.

[lhun]

Another great video! When I heard she wasn’t decluttering right now, I just thought - yep! Sounds like a busy mom. We go through stages in life, such as sometimes organized, sometimes that’s not the priority. It’s normal. It would be odd if we stayed exactly as we are and never change or evolve.

[dainapolchow]

Did I read Marie’s book? No. Did I watch reviews, break downs, and interviews of her method? Yes. I don’t view her method as a minimalist end all be all. I didn’t take it as a can only have X amount of each thing, and all of it has to spark joy. I used her method as a reasoning tool for decluttering my stuff. Why was I hanging onto some old dress I hated that my mom bought me? Why keep all these eyeshadow palettes that don’t spark joy each time I use them? Her changing doesn’t mean her method doesn’t work, it just isn’t what she needs in her life right now. Ppl change. Situations change.

[Vexingpixels]

I was never given the skills to organize or clean. Her method was extremely helpful.

[lindagelnett]

Wow, I just heard your comment about staying in a situation just because it's safe and what you know. Just today I set up a job interview outside of my experience. I'm scared, but also excited. Thanks Shawna 🙂

[erikaherrmann]

In a certain way, I understand the pure vitriolic hatred of Marie Kondo. People saw a woman who wanted to take away all the things that made THEIR lives worth living just because that didn’t bring MARIE joy, and they set out to attack the threat to their happiness… without realizing that what they were attacking was a massive straw man and not what Marie Kondo stood for AT ALL. And I think at that point they didn’t care if the threat was real or not, they just clocked her as a threat to their happiness and viciously defended the stuff that brought them joy against the evil onslaught of minimalism with Kondo as its figurehead. Now, as you have mentioned, Kondo doesn’t advocate for minimalism at all, and would actually encourage her attackers to keep each and every item that makes them happy. Many people are so so fearful of people taking what is MINE and they finally found a face to the boogeyman of minimalism (the great taker of all things that wants to steal from them) in Kondo. Truth, reality, and reason have no place in a desperate defense of what little you have; fear is the only voice.

[angelaa.]

Totally agree with your comments unpacking why people take umbrage with Kondo, and all the comments I’ve read thus far. My family has adopted an unofficial motto of “You like it, I love it”: why hold anger or upset in your heart if it’s working for someone else and not hurting anyone?

I think this speaks too to the fact that we don’t know what we don’t know. From the headlines I’ve read (because I’ve completely passed on reading the articles, as her decisions don’t affect my life), her pivot may have stemmed from family changes? I actually respect her for essentially admitting that her method requires some adjustment depending on your personal situation. She seems like a mad classy lady tbh. People just love to get worked up over inconsequential things 😅

[stampinprn]

I love Marie Kondo and the concept of keeping what brings you joy and weeding out the rest. I do not understand why people feel the need to bash her at all.

[lolaphearse]

Why on earth would people get so worked up about her changing her life? Are we not adults who have the ability to choose for ourselves whether we like someone’s suggestions or not? Nobody on this planet HAD to follow the konmarie method. She did not force anyone to do or not do anything! She suggested a viable method of clearing your home of unwanted items, find a place for everything and keep it in that space -what is to hate?

[sarahwheeler]

I feel like the outrage is very predictable. People love to put others "into little boxes" and the CNN quote is so accurate. People get angry when you want to try something new! Even on a personal level, I've had "friends" that get mad when I start showing any kind of change or personal growth...