White vs. Black Pride? why is the gay community segregated? | Tarek Ali

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F A Q
what's your name? Tarek Ali (Tuh-reek Ali)
are you muslim? no but yes? I'm omnist/perennialist
what's your instagram? @itstarekali
how old are you? 22
What's your sign? Scorpio (virgo rising, aries moon)
how tall are you? 6'1"
what's your ethnicity? African-American
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➭ editing: final cut pro

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[TarekAli]

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[erigtv]

I’m so glad you spoke on womanism vs. feminism. My good friend I met in college told me she was a womanist and explained how black women are left out of the feminist movement. I never knew about it until she told me something!

[VeronicAM]

I felt invisible going to white pride and I had a white women tell me how they loved pale skin on a woman. I had white gay men tell me that they had a Black woman inside them as they then used Black vernacular. Or said microaggressive shit to me. I had a white lesbian and her friends come at me and my friends over a misunderstanding they had. We knew this one lesbian, Mary and my friend, whose a white trans man, made a joke to the Mary. Mary laughed and then this white woman near Mary started to berate my friend. As we kept telling her, "We know her. We joke like this." She continued to curse out my friend and got her friends to curse him out. Yhen when my other friend, Nick and I stepped in, she started to use her white women tears and tell us how we didn't know what it's like to be judged. "I'm in a little tiny town in Texas."
Nick: "You're talking to a gay Latino man, a Black Lesbian and a white trans guy. Please don't use that I struggle, shit."
And I miss Pride but I feel not as attacked with microaggressions when I go to Black Pride. I dont have people ask about my fucking hair and then try to touch it like I'm a pet.

[Imperial_Guard]

Judge people by the content of their character not the color of their skin.

[brookephillips]

As someone who is white, I've always thought that coming out at black was harder. Because racism still exists in the LGBTQ+ community, which can suck because then you may also be alienated by a community that is supposed to love you? Especially if said person is trans and black. Back during the aids pandemic, trans people were horribly looked down upon. So that was almost a triple whammy back then. Pose really opened my eyes to this and it's broken my heart everytime I think about it.

[DigitalBayIie]

a message ALL WHITE GAYS NEED TO HEAR! 🗣

[chandomav]

I'm not from the LGBT community but I love to listen to your channel because I feel more educated about the community. I want to have kids and he/she will maybe be gay and I think it is important for me to educate myself. Thank you for that :)

[stephenmagee]

Learned a lot from this video but I just hate how there is a divide within the gay community we're all fighting to be treated with respect yet we can't treat each other with respect 😑

[vernonroche]

I'm a straight black man...Im fucking glad to say I learned something new from this video and I did my own research outside of this and I must say I'm happy I learned more thank you also you got a straight dude on here that actually payed and attention, listened and learned preach it up ✌️

[MalikKhalilCreates]

The topics u speak on are amazing and very much needed thank you

[DaWeirdFreak]

the fact that pride came through the BLACK TRANS COMMUNITY and that there HAS TO BE such a thing as black pride SAYS IT ALLL

[genderpunktheo]

This video is incredible. Thank you for doing the work you do and making us white gays face our discomfort with the conversation head on. The LGBTQ movement needs to remember that there's no LGBTQ equality without also having equality for black people, people of colour, disabled people and so on, because our community includes all of that.

[Mikerochip]

Very enlightening. This has given me plenty to think about. I'm 76/white/gay, and I appreciate how clearly you addressed the topic. I am constantly assessing my prejudices in an attempt to rid myself of irrational thinking about people I don't know. It's not easy. I walked into a gay club in LA many years ago and discovered I was in a "black club". When I walked through the door it seemed (incorrectly) that the music stopped and all eyes turned toward me... the only white guy. I was afraid. I had to make a choice to either turn around and leave, or go to the bar and order a drink. I ordered a drink. The bartender was very nice, but I felt out of my comfort zone. I have never again been in the position of being the only white guy in the room, but I am aware that black people are in that situation frequently. I've seen it, and I want to reach out to help, but how does one approach a stranger and say "how can I help make you comfortable?" (That actually sounds like a pretty good pick-up line, lol.) I'm an old man now. Talk about being invisible in a night club. I haven't been clubbing in many years, for 3 reasons: 1.) I don't pick up strangers (anymore) but boy do I have stories.) 2.) Nobody talks to old men in a gay club. 3.) Sitting alone watching young people have fun makes me look and feel "pervy". I'm banished to the fringes of gaydom...the trash bin of gay founding fathers. But I'm proud that my generation made many strides toward gay rights. I hope your generation will find a way to unite us. Thanks for the excellent video.

[TheReal_TeeKay]

I'm a straight black woman, but I subbed because I appreciate your voice and your perspective. 🙏🏽

[spadrine]

I'm 55 years old and one thing I've noticed is that black culture is routinely adopted (especially in recent years) commercially and it becomes pop culture; but it began in black culture. Black people are cool and we do it like nobody else. And now, we're seeing it in mainstream media. So I just wanted to add that bit of a perspective, because it's really an indicator of the progress that people of color have made into mainstream culture.

[jaycrib]

Most people want to exist with each other with no tension. The media will try to make the environment something it’s not!

[terrisplash]

I really hate small minded people who discriminate people out of their own race, like come on. We all pee the same color

[CB]

This very much needed to be said! I remember when I first came out and started talking to guys and there was this white guy who asked me "How was it growing up in a black house hold, I bet it was so crazy". It felt so weird to be asked, like I was his research experiment.

[Jeremyrp]

Thank you Tarek. It is people like you that makes me feel so proud to be a black gay man. Watching your videos gives me faith that is young black people like you that will help make the world a better place for our children. ❤️

Like if you guys agree.

[johnward]

For the same reason the heterosexual community is segregated! White gay folks come from those same racist communities, escaping homosexual oppression! The thing is, for them, they’ve held on to those conscious and subconscious racist beliefs!