Found Out My Boyfriend Was Cheating So I Left and Never Told Him I Was Pregnant. Now...

Found Out My Boyfriend Was Cheating So I Left and Never Told Him I Was Pregnant. Now 7 Years Later He Showed Up at My Door Demanding Full Custody of Our Son.

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[christophernoble]

why on earth do people who cheat and get caught always want to go back to the person who left? like, you didn't care until you got caught

[theanominous]

All that OP’s mother had on her mind was money, not for her daughter or grandson’s mental health.

[tomieclone]

Tbh I can see where op is coming from, a guy who hadn't committed to her wouldn't commit to a baby. If the kid and op are well there wasn't really a need for all this drama

[whitneymcclendon]

I support OP and glad her parents are now divorced. The mom knew the rules but broke them. Your family and blood should come first. The moment she snitched to the enemy, she was one of them. So serves her right.

[pastelbee]

I will NEVER understand people who knows someone will absolutely hate something and they’ll go do it anyways and are confused when there’s consequences

[Tallguyify]

Next time I get in trouble at work I'll make sure to clarify that what I did was "unethical, but not wrong"

[killshock]

I do think it's kinda iffy that she didn't tell the ex about his son. But I think her lying to the current bf was the biggest issue that she did. Other than that, the ex and mother sucks for obvious reasons. And the bf just doesn't fit with her

[oddball]

The dad really shoulve talked to her first instead of trying to take the child away from their mother.

Plus he likely would've had to prove her unfit as a parent to get full custody.

[claireg]

She should have told him and made it clear that she wasnt asking for anything from him and let him make the choice to walk away if thats what he wanted.
My daughters father cheated on me and i cant stand the little weasel, but im civil to him for the sake of being fair for my daughter. As she gets older, its her choice whether to keep a relationship with him or not. Even over the last 5 years where he has paid 0 towards her, i have never stood in between them

[MimosaRose]

I don’t blame Mike, she lied about the father of her son and didn’t give the ex an opportunity to be involved her her son’s life. He is likely thinking she could do the same to him.

[waves]

She did the right thing by not telling him about Jack. He didn’t care enough about her to stay loyal, while she did remain loyal to him. This loyalty wouldn’t have just extended to her, but any kids as well. Parents that cheat on their spouse don’t care about their spouse, or their kids enough to remain loyal to them. Honestly, if I found out I was being cheated on by someone I had a kid with, I would be fighting for full custody. This may sound like it is out of spite, and while it would be to a small degree, I would also do so because I don’t think he would be a good influence on any of his kids. I even saw another post like this. A man divorced his wife after she cheated on him, and then found out their daughter was cheating on her own boyfriend.

[publictoilets]

I agree with op leaving but I don’t agree with not telling him about his son bc she said she knew he’d want to be apart of his life so she knew he would be a father to him

[CanadianGreekhoplite]

I get her decision and don't even blame her. Her Ex brought this upon himself, he stepped out of the relationship and proved he wasn't a good man or someone she could trust. Not to mention she had already moved away. This is why you don't cheat, you don't lose out on 7 years of your kids life, you don't miss his first steps, his first words 100% his own fault.

[unitcharles]

Somehow in the end. People who suppose to be a biggest enemy turn out to be kinda decent people(we not gonna talk about cheating part) and op biggest ally like her mom turn to be biggest traitor.

[roabarton]

Mama seen money so she betrayed her daughter hoping to get some. Such a gold digger.

[lubnasami]

I'm glad it worked out well at the end for everyone.

[tothewonder]

Listen, I sort of get it. He showed himself to be untrustworthy and you need someone you can trust to be a co parent. I don't know that I would have done all of this, but I wouldn't want a cheater raising my son either.

[bearsong]

Another shock! He can’t get custody since he has to prove paternity first. Also, he hasn’t paid shit so no, that’s not how the court works.

[eyez]

🤷🏿‍♀️ I'm all for op up and going and keeping her kid tbh. Maybe I'm projecting bc my parents had that dynamic then got together and made each other's lives (and mine hell), the cons of staying were bigger than the pros. That man was unreliable. In her shoes, I'd have an abortion and moved on because being bound to a man like that would be hell

OP's mom is the real villian in the story because she definitely should've talked to OP and either worked on convincing her or if she was determined to be messy, give her an ultimatum. Now she's lost her daughter and grandson playing around like that

OP never said that her son would never know about the dad, and she never lied to him either.

This is the best case scenario and I'm glad they worked out a better resolution to all of this

[kumikor]

Everyone is delusional if they think Zach would've been a good man AND father when he was still immature enough to complain that his girlfriend loved him. 😂

He ran away AS SOON as she mentioned marriage. A baby??? Yeah, he would've wanted her to abort Jack. While what she did was hurtful, she wasn't wrong.

At least Jack gets to meet a version of his father who is loving and nice to him and his mom. Happy they're all getting along, and that OP really wants this to work out. Good riddance to the boyfriend who wanted her to turn over custody. I think he never liked Jack