BROKE my wife… #shorts

[ccbean]

Yeah, she's trying to find her own way back to self-esteem land without you. Inevitably, she'll find someone else.

[verarosab]

She will never forget this. If he wants to fight for the marriage they will need counselling, and even then it might not be salvageable. She is now looking for validation from other people. She doesnt feel desired by her husband anymore. She's completly vulnerable and lost her confidence. If she doesnt go to therapy, theres a good chance that she might find someone who will make her feel desired again. The husband needs to take this very seriously and take active steps to focus on her mental state and their marriage.

[klenlapis]

OPs wife actually found the post and added more clarity. Something to the extent that he was actually making fun of her looks all night and when she heard it and started crying he tried to fix it saying he didn’t mean it in a bad way. She ended up leaving him

[EssentiallyPerfect]

“Drunk words are sober thoughts” -A wise man-

[CHSANZ]

Never ever compare your current partner with a past partner. Words can do so much damage. She no longer feels comfortable in his presence, and her emotional needs are being met by people online.

[mlladavynauckland]

She's already checked out. You pretty much said she's ugly unlike your ex. It's probably over.

[MadisonHarvill]

Bro lowkey helped her. Now she’s living her best life without him.

[anlydaly]

OP needs to go to marriage counseling or suggest individual therapy for his wife. Even if the marriage is beyond saving (which I personally think it is as I can't imagine her ever forgetting or moving on from that comment.) It sounds like she might be spiraling towards a eating disorder so some kind of intervention and therapy is definitely needed.

[Caria]

Update: We have been going to counseling and my wife at first has been very reluctant to open up and wanted to pretend that everything was fine. One session, she just asked me: I want the truth. Here and now. No sugarcoating and do not try to spare my feelings. Did you find me attractive when we met? I really didn’t know what to say to this. I love her more than anything. Even more than my children and myself. I think that she’s the most beautiful woman I know but did I immediately think that when I met her? No, I didn’t really find her attractive. We all grow up having a type. I remember thinking that she wasn’t exactly my type. But she was so lovable and sweet. It didn’t take me long to fall for her and now, I find women who look like her attractive so I guess type is something very superficial and fleeting. I told her the truth.

She cried and said that she herself didn’t know why she was so hurt and crying. She knew that there were more beautiful women. She never wanted to be the most beautiful woman either. But that she always been considered beautiful by other people(which is true) and always got attention. But the fact that the one person she wanted to be found the most beautiful girl in the world by, didn’t think that. And that’s what made her sad. The man she loved way before we even started dating.

This was on our latest session and it was the most draining experience. Later when we got home she apologized for making a big deal out of something this trivial. But that she just couldn’t help it and she was as confused to why it affected her so badly.

On Saturday she told me that she didn’t want to stay in our marriage. That something broke inside of her. She asked me if I would try to hurt her and the children if we did separate. If I would use them to get back at her. Alienate her, because she chose to leave. I promised her that none of this would happen and that I loved her and wanted her to be happy even if it wasn’t with me.

Our families are in uproar over this. Mostly they’re angry with her. That she let her insecurities get the best (and worst) of her. But I don’t think it is insecurity tbh. She has never cared about people’s attention. She just realized that the only person whose approval she cared about didn’t give her. At least that he had to learn it and that wasn’t enough.

[Lucy-mrly]

I remember this. OP went on to edit what he said so it didn't look too bad, but he basically say "you should stop caring so much for looks and settle for a six like I did" right in front of his wife.

[Midsommar]

“She believed my drunken words were my true thoughts” why say them then? If they werent your actual sober thoughts

[Nezuko_]

I mean i don’t think there really is any fixing this since a drunk mouth is a sober mind so yeah this marriage might be beyond saving

[goobtube]

My husband cheated on me after six years of marriage and thats what made my self esteem plummet. Im moving out next week but ive been doing the same - fully dressed, bathroom door locked, working on myself with all the energy i used to work on making sure we had a nice home and life together before.

[sovereignbrehon]

You broke the relationship, but fixed her.

[aashnamehta]

I believe that drunken words are true thoughts of a person

[Lifeafter]

In Mexico we say Los borrachos y los niños siempre dicen la verdad. The drunk and children always tell the THRUTH, this was how he really felt and she knows it. She’ll never forget that

[lindsey.]

i hope they split up. she deserves so much better. people make mistakes but this has left her completely broken and feeling unloved and ugly

[mariarodrguez]

That's called walking away before actually doing it... Better say good bye you screwed up big time.

[Katie_Woo]

She's getting back in touch with her SHATTERED SENSE OF SELF.
I wish her the best because that woman is doing some hard core thinking in all of that silence and no amount of "sorry" is going to sway her.

Absolute jerk

[shamilys]

Go on date with her. Pamper her through action not words... It's similar to my situation atleast u move proves her concern and don't ever try it again this stunt