The hard messy reality of decluttering (things did not go as planned)

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[brendajackson]

This lovely woman is so indecisive. She’s talking herself in circles. I’m not sure she’s really ready for change.

[kaycee]

Bless her, she is terrified of letting anything go. It speaks that she is carrying trauma. I pray she finds the courage somewhere within her to break through this fear, she’s a gorgeous lady and I wish her peace and joy in her life.

[KelseyEliz]

Like others have said, this was frustrating to watch, but at the same time, it was a nice reality check for me. To see someone surrounded by things she doesn't love or need but is keeping for seemingly unimportant reasons (though they're important to her), it made me realize I am doing the same thing and have no right to feel frustrated with her decisions (or lack thereof), and then do the same thing in my own life. This might have not gone as planned, but it was very important to post and let people know this happens, some people have struggles decluttering, and that's okay. We'll get there in time.

[leoren]

We need to remember Gabby is a creative, visual person who reinvents herself for a living. So those clothes pieces are essentially her muse. Some inspire her; a lot don't. So having them around is part of her creative process as an actor. I think having them in a wardrobe separately from her everyday pieces would be so wonderful - she could open the doors for inspiration, but close them for quiet, too. I think that working on the bed (see other comment) and a functional wardrobe will help her remove the items she dislikes and helps her create clarity. You can't get clarity when everything is a mound of jumble.

[leoren]

I think fixing the bed situation would start an avalanche of change. It's like the elephant in the room. Get a totally new bed frame with drawers underneath, a new mattress, and new bedding. The change will start the process flowing.

[abundantlyinspired]

I have found the biggest block for me decluttering was letting go of my "fantasy self" where I had a whole life created around the things I owned that I never lived out. Once I was ready to let that go I didn't have less but I had more of what I loved, used and enjoyed!!!❤❤❤❤😊10 wonderful useful things was wayy better than 500 useless ignored items bogging down my space and my mind.

[cinder]

I could see your frustration and it is understandable when someone wants help but is reluctant to let go. You are a wonderful friend!

[kathyn]

This was a challenge to watch but it points out that decluttering is very much an internal/mental journey. She’s not ready but hopefully will be eventually. Her apartment has so much potential.

[TheCarlaProject]

Thanks for keeping comments kind and respectful! I'm off to the park with Samson but will come back to check in. Happy Fall!!✨❤🥳🏡🍂

[kristinestocker]

You mentioned a basement. Can Gabby box up some of her clothes and store them in the basement? Things she doesn't wear but isn't ready to part with. Maybe the basement could be purgatory and after 3-6 months she'll be ready to make a final decision.

PS I suggest separating audition clothes from regular clothes. I'm sure she doesn't need all the clothes she has for auditions. Keep 2-3 outfits for each genre: cool mom, prarie, period piece...

[iheartmanythings]

In a studio, vertical space is your best friend!!

She needs to take advantage of her walls for storage (in addition to having a smaller bed).

[SusieNorth-qc]

Just a thought for the pieces Gabby describes as "audition clothes." It's easy to see how critical they are for helping to create a character and make a certain impression, but if they aren't clothes Gabby wears IRL, they don't really deserve places of honor in her grab-and-go closet/drawer/armoire. Let them live under the bed. If they are organized carefully in the right containers, they will be useful when needed and not in the way the rest of the time.

[bettyboo]

So pleased Gabby was finally ready to accept that the chair was taking up room. Her bed is huge!, She would gain so much more space with a smaller sized bed. It seems like the thought of not being surrounded by unnecessary things/clutter makes Gabby very anxious, bless her. Great job though Carla as always..you did manage to achieve space which is definitely needed. ❤

[carla_]

Moving the chair out made a huge difference to the space! 🎉 So agree that having a vision for what is wanted out of your space is so important for motivation and direction.

[dianespillers]

A new smaller mattress and bed frame with drawers underneath would definitely make a world of difference! She is over thinking everything and going in circles! Revamping the whole room will make her life much simpler and more organized!

[KE]

I love when we have return places on this channel. It really shows how much of a process it is to declutter and that it takes time!

[bertabustamante]

I loved the realness of your FACE in this one, Carla. So patient & kind but still helping Gabby stay focused. What a gift!

[TelevisionwithTricia]

As soon as Gabi said the chair felt like an energy block it was obvious it was time for it to go. Decluttering is hard, but hopefully once she has some time to enjoy the newly freed up space she will start to feel more ready to embrace change

[RememberMeLaughing]

Sometimes you are a decluttering therapist and sometimes you are a listening ear. It’s wonderful that you care so much ❤

[kristinaboggs]

Carla you are so kind and respectful. I really just think she isn’t ready for this and she doesn’t know what she wants or what she needs. She is caught up with her things and how much they cost and the story behind them . Until she is ready to declutter and wants to declutter, no one can “help her”. I think what she wants from you is to help her organize her wardrobe.