How Narcissists Inevitably Self Destruct

With selfishness, control, entitlement, and manipulation leading the way, there is nothing about the narcissistic pattern that favors successful relationships. Yet, narcissists truly believe it's reasonable to superimpose their standards onto you. Dr. Les Carter describes how this becomes a formula for self-destruction.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his YouTube channel, his videos have received more than 125 million views.

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[DaisyRenee]

Respect is a word they don't know the meaning of.

[ek]

All these comments make me feel not alone. Thank you.

[matilda]

In my humble opinion, ditch them immediately

[PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPans]

Every time my narc parent thinks she's winning by cutting me down she doesn't realize she's losing more and more of the sense of duty and obligation she instilled in me in childhood. She's burned so many bridges she has to mine me harder and harder as supply but as an adult who's worked on herself it doesn't work the same as it did on an 8 year old.

[darinsmith]

For me it is about recognizing that behavior and learning how to protect myself from it..

[alesianelson]

The hardest part of watching these videos is it is your life of abuse that you are receiving and there just does not seem to be any hope on getting out. They have in such a position that you can’t. Not without having to suffer even further

[yukio_saito]

The bosses and coworkers ruined my previous workplaces. They wreaked havoc there due to their behaviors. As a consequence, all good people got out of the job.
🏃🏃‍♂🏃‍♀💨💨

[kaymuldoon]

I’m seeing this happen with my neighbor. Since September she’s been essentially living with a friend as she can’t bear to be alone. She tried to hook me back in but I nipped it in the bud and immediately gray rocked her. She has depression and I think that she’s been experiencing narcissistic collapse as she ages. Shes in her late 60s now.

[BaraSchmidt]

Phony. Phony-ness. That's what THEY are all about.
When THEY "phone in" who THEY are, (read as: inauthentic) - Don't answer!
Pick up line 1. "Healthy" is calling!
Stay Healthy!!

[jeankipper]

I've been listening to Dr. C for a couple of years. Learning a LOT. I've written about this before, but over time I keep see different aspects of it.

Wasband was a flaming narcissist, the vulnerable kind. Like my mom. When, after 18 years, I was completely used up, I told him I was done. He really, really didn't like that. And he committed suicide, as he'd threatened for years.

Yet, so far as I could see, ALL of his many problems in and with the world, HE CAUSED. His self-destruction was inevitable, because he NEVER took responsibility for his actions and beliefs. In my own misguided way, I probably sheltered him from many of his just repercussions.

Exhaustion caused me to quit. Stubborn commitment to his narcissism, well, took him to self-destruction.

Yet, if he'd ever given me even crumbs of kindness, appreciation, respect, care, I probably would have hung in there.

He could not. And now I can say, too bad. But the sun is shining here in my life. I never, ever, take it for granted.

[susanmunoz]

Thank you Dr. Carter. You have helped me and so many others. I wish you and your wonderful family a healthy and blessed Christmas and 2025! ♥️☝️❤️🎄🎁

[michellehill]

Happy Monday Dr. C and Team Healthy! Season's Greetings! 😊❤🕊🎄🌍

[sugarpuddin]

Excellent. Speaking with great precision.

Their behavior becomes more understandable when you consider the documented alterations to the physiology and physical brain structures among narcissists

[WWZenaDo]

Another significant factor is their viewpoint that any offers of help are insulting, belittling. They view such offers as criticism, and eventually they've driven off everyone who might have had good problem solving skills. This leaves the narcissist stranded in a mess of its own making, while feeling like the focus of 'persecution'.

[tinaureta]

Your Awesome!!
Clarity and Focus has just entered my Brain!

[cleaningtim]

Thank you, Dr. Carter and Gus for this information. Your videos and advice have helped me so much to see the truth in my life and what I have/am dealing with. Thank you so much for sharing this information with all of us!

[Cheryl-qr]

I really needed to see this Dr. C… thank you 🙏

[marilynmonheaux]

You’ve helped me tremendously doc thank you.

[jogee]

My narc has a way of trying to make me look and feel bad by REPEATEDLY saying, "Well, I [emphasis added] would NEVER do that", insinuating that I am bad because only bad people would do "that"!

[juliedahl]

I can’t ride with my husband never again. What he does to get even or out of spite. He speeds through an area that’s suppose to be 25 mph. At 70 mph. With curves. By lake houses driveways. Just to scare me. Bc he was mad I didn’t go into the store with him. I was shocked & scared. I couldn’t believe what he was doing driving like this. Bc if a simple thing.