The 5 Love Languages Explained

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman.

Have you ever been in one of those relationships where you think you're doing everything you can to please your partner, but they're still feeling frustrated and unloved? I mean you're giving them compliments, you work hard all day to bring home the bacon and pay the bills, you give them gifts, and you even do some chores around the house, but they're still feeling unloved...i mean, what more do they want! it's incredibly annoying and disappointing, right? Well, the reason why they aren't feeling loved, in short, is that you're not speaking their love language!

The premise of the book is that people don't give and receive love in the same way.
Most of us think that the way we want to be loved is how others want to be loved as well, but this is not the case! There are in fact 5 love languages...
This is huge because if you're not speaking the same language as your significant other, then you could be missing the mark completely and not even know it..... it's basically the equivalent of a British guy trying to talk to a Chinese guy .. it's not going to go well because they're simply not going to understand each other.

If you are going to have a strong relationship, you have to know how you and your partner both give and receive love. The 5 love languages are:

words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

[celectrics]

'Everyone loves receiving gifts' I actually really dislike receiving gifts, it makes me feel in debt to them

[ee]

"Growing up how did your parents express their love to you?"
They didn't that's why I crave every love language lmao

[pradeepanandraj]

1. Physical touches
2. Quality time
3. Words of affirmation
4. Acts of service
5. Receiving gifts

[juliabel]

My love language is meaningful touch. My husband's was words of affirmation. Which meant a lot of meaningful time and communication together. He passed away 3 years ago, and I still miss his touch! Especially at night, because I could never go to sleep without feeling him next to me.

[petef.]

I dont think we only have one..I think we have a dominant one and then they rank from there.

[Leshay]

This so true. After my mom died, and I was in mourning, I put my dad in a box. I wanted him to spend time with me, the same way my mom did. But buying plants, and watching romantic comedies wasn’t his thing. Sadly, I thought my dad didn’t love me. I just happened to read the book, and realized that though we didn’t go shopping for new shoes, He DID WORK 4 jobs (Police officer+ other security jobs) 👮🏾 cared for the lawn, took care of car issues, was always there when we needed him and helped pay the bills. My dad was “acts of services”, and it made me so thankful for how much he loved me and our family.

[apinkywinky]

"can only have one" ... my immediate thought, i refuse to be put in a box lol

[prestonmatthews]

Acts of service is my love language. I love when people use their initiative and care for others. It’s the little things in life that matters.

[Islandsamoa]

My girlfriend told me about the 5 love language. I was so happy to learned that her love language is quality time. I've been focusing on spending quality ever since. My relationship with her is better than ever. Guys. I highly recommend for u to learn your partner love languages. If you really love that person you will find a way. If not you will make an excuse. #ManUp

[barackobama]

The love languages in order of what's most important to me:

1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Acts of Service
5. Recieveing Gifts

[telecasterbear]

I guess people need to wear the color patch that will let others know.

[rosemensah]

Act of service. I hate receiving gifts especially at the beginning of the relationship. It makes me feel like they're trying to buy my love and/or I'll fell indebted to them.

My main love language is words of affirmation. In Gary Chapman's book is said that about 50% of people have as their main love language words of affirmation and 25-30% has it as their 2nd love language. Words are so important in our lives!!

[holistichoneybee]

I am fluent in all 5, but my favorite is physical touch, I love snuggle time 🤗 In my opinion it's healthiest to have a balance of all 5 if possible though. People need and want different things at different times. It's also important to understand that sometimes your partner, even if they know your love language, may be incapable of speaking it sometimes for whatever reason. No matter how much they may want to. It doesn't mean they love you any less.

[dylanabbott]

This book has changed me overnight. I’m currently going through a break up and immediately was on a path to self destruction. My buddy gave me this book and told me to read it. I’m not a reader and after hours of laying down in self pity I picked up the book and opened to chapter 10. Now I’m doing what ever it takes to save my relationship

[annakehm]

Interestingly my love language is physical touch, but I absolutely hate it when people touch me. I guess it's something that special for me that I don't want to receive from random people

[actuallymaja]

My love language is acts of service, someone helped me carry something heavy and i just fell in love right there

[NoName-zbgm]

Eye contact is another one. Look at the other person from across the room until they look back at you. This shows you like looking at them, you miss them and you're making sure they are ok.

[justinrocc]

What if your partner is multilingual and speaks all 5 languages?

[alexanderthorne]

1) Physical touch
2) Quality time
3) Words of affirmation
4) Acts of service
5) Receiving gifts