The three keys to effective boundary setting: how to teach others to love and respect you

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Effective boundary setting is an essential relationship skill. This is because boundaries teach people how to love and respect you. In this episode, I will discuss the three keys to setting effective boundaries with others. First: you need to clearly define the target behavior. Second: you need to set an actionable time line. And third: you need to identify explicit consequences within your domain of control that you're willing to execute. Let's see how this works.

Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
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[TorontoKaraokeClub]

You proved that my boundary setting is getting better. Did number 3 at work and it worked. But I didn't know I was setting a boundary. Now I know. Thanks for your videos. Helping me learn more about myself and life.

[muffemod]

1. Demand what you want.
2. Tell them when you want it by.
3. If they don't give you what you want tell them what you're going to do, and do it.

Boundaries sound a lot like ultimatums just with flowery language.

[AndrewLesterTimothyBourne]

This and other topics are so relevant and applicable too me that I consider myself bless and with many others as well the same, one day I would be in the U.S. and I would not missed this opportunity to visit you personally, thank you for reaching me (Andrew) on this intellectually and meticulous level, it's greatly appreciated, god bless you Dr...

[sinansalar]

This is very helpful, thank you. Could you give more examples to possible consequences one can use? Often times, removing yourself from a relationship is not possible or too extreme such as with a close family member or a roommate.

[GuyCorrino]

This is something that I have to work on. Thank you.

[Repienk]

What exactly is the definition of a boundary? Im confused about what exactly constitutes a real boundary that someone you have a relationship with must not cross. I previously thought a boundary was something you dont want someome to do to you, but from how you described boundaries in this video it seems that a boundary can be anything you want someone to do.

[bsdiceman]

Topic suggestion, prioritization between competing needs of the self and others.

[Philzy]

Sounds like demands and ultimatums instead of boundary setting. A boundary is something you set for yourself.