PROFESSOR REVEALS How To Heal Your Mind & OVERCOME TRAUMA | Deborah Tuerkheimer & Lewis Howes

Today’s guest is Deborah Tuerkheimer. She is a professor at Northwestern University Pritzker School of Law. She earned her undergraduate degree from Harvard College and her law degree from Yale Law School. Tuerkheimer served for five years as an Assistant District Attorney in the New York County District Attorney’s Office, where she specialized in domestic violence and child abuse prosecution. She’s now written a new book called Credible: Why We Doubt Accusers And Protect Abusers.

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If you want to learn how we can all better support survivors of abuse and trauma, then I encourage you to listen to this episode. Deborah also covers the immediate steps she recommends a survivor should take after experiencing abuse, and how you can receive the professional help you need. And now, please join me for Episode 1,186 of The School of Greatness.
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[ChristianaSenibo]

Sometimes the cry for help is subtle. It’s important to be a safe place so we can hold space for our loved ones to find healing.

[DonnaBlissVLOGS]

I played this in .5 sec after reading the title.. i have same experience with you L with trauma in my early adolescent years and I am just healing it now that i am 41 with the help of your videos and my therapist. More power to you mate!! LOVE FR AUSTRALIA.

[moz]

I was only 3yrs old, I don’t know how I remember but I remember, and yes It hurts to speak about it, my parents have no idea, I know they would be devastated, I just know I can never tell them, I never wanted to have kids because I was so mad at my parents, not everyone deserve to be a parents, even though I tried to heal myself for 35 years i still get very sad and mad at the same time, how they were supposed to protect me and they failed

[sandram]

I will follow Deborah. This is totally in my line of topics to transform societal approaches.
Thank you for this interview.

[pamelahewitt]

Do everything with love and kindness.
Love and Blessings 💕

[SP-ekzv]

wow. The timing. I really am working through my trauma while I am still inmidst of the abusive environment I was in. I'mma watch this now. 😍❤

[tmcdougal]

Thank you so much for using your platform to address this issue 🙏 💜

[ippmoeproject]

Bullying is a good indicator especially if the child was not previously a bully.

[Ioana-unue]

If you and your children got out an abusive, toxic relationship, please know that you are strong and brave beyond belief. You broke the cycle of abuse and have the power to heal!
Sending you 🙏❤️

[beverleyannes]

A friend cried out to me, then later said they didn’t want to talk any more about it!
I’ve been traumatised by the awful event an how it affected her, as I know both the victim and her abuser father! It’s changed my life and out look forever. I feel trapped, but realise it’s up to the victim to talk when they are ready.. but I feel it’s killing me inside 😞

[leedenby]

Brilliant watch/listen. Thanks guy's.👍

[theronturner]

Lewis...Amazing life... I did not have memories of early childhood abuse until I was 35... I will be 70 in two months... I weep to think how damaged I feel concerning the depth of abuse I experienced since infancy until 11 or 12 years... I am thankful for the goodness and purity(sacredness) that is in life...The amount t of trauma that happened was so brutal and harsh I truly have been separated out of normal life...I am thankful for growing up in a large family with kind parents....My father's father was the criminal person that took .me to a cultcic underground sexual adult community where after being drugged not knowing where I was or who I was these people did everything they could imagine..
I am weeping to write this...yet I am thankful to be alive.. I am so thankful I am alive and loving wholesome caring relationships are my life is kind of isolated and
Separate yet I am happy because I have understood life is spiritual as well as physical....
And because of the abuse I could not eat meat because these people were truly wicked...
Being vegetarian helped me learn to take care of my life and remember.... I am thankful
To be living but it still enables me to weep hearing your program

[mariacliment]

@Lewis Howes Thanks so much for bringing up this topic. I think you should use "being popular" to make a change in society. You know how many cases there are unseen or unheard, and how many victims even take their own lives around the whole Globe for not being JUSTICE. Please, we should do something, some educational thing so people become aware. Awarenes is the change. I cannot do anything because nobody hears me with millions of views....you can....😊🙏

[jimmyjoejeeter]

Lewis,
I just got done reading your book, "The Mask of Masculinity" ( WOW! ) Thanks! for writing this Incredible book, I realized, after reading your book that I was numbing myself with all the masks I was hiding under, probably most of, my whole life. With being almost 67, that is a heck of along time. I loved that you had exercises to help with the solutions at the end of the chapters! I thought I was just going to have to live the rest of my life being numb to the world around me, and not worry about my own feelings, that they didn't count! I can't wait to read your first book! Thanks for helping so many people! I wish you the Best of Everything!

[DrBrunoRecipes]

Amazing 👌🏻 Greetings from Scotland 😊 Have a wonderful day everyone 🌻 Stay blessed 🌻

[alexandriascott]

Ya I was sleeping and had my bags packed ready to leave the next morning from my abusive toxic narcissistic mother who was so over controlling extreme in punishment if you didn’t do exactly what she said. I was trying to escape but she woke me up and just started punking up Corning hitting me spitting in my face talking down all wild to me. She started to put her hands on me and then had my brother and stepdad put their hands on me. I got assaulted by three people and I was hurting and crying but then my evil insidious wrongful mother called the cops to make it look like I had done something wrong. They arrested me and all I kept saying is I’m innocent I didn’t do anything why am I being arrested for. No one would answer me and when I tried to explain that I got assaulted no one listened or turned my way to hear me. It was so bizarre and a complete nightmare. Everything got dropped and dismissed after seeing I hadn’t done anything but what my mother did to me was so unforgivable she is a sociopath to get me arrested for something she did. All she’s ever done is abuse and bully me treating me badly constantly it was hell. You didn’t even have to do anything wrong if you said or did the wrong thing it was off with your head type of crazy she was. She’s not rational reasonable or fair and it’s her way or the highway she has no middle ground. She’s emotionally immature it’s so sad she doesn’t see what she’s done to me. Now I am free healing my inner child going to therapy and staying no contact with the lunatic family members who are in denial about what they did to me. They refuse to admit how they hurt me intentionally and for no real reason. I had so much trauma to overcome it was insane. It hurts my heart because I don’t have much family and any of the little family members that were enablers flying monkeys toxic and narcissistic as well that I thought I had all took my moms side and believed her wicked lies about me. I left her house once unscathed and then I came back and my cruel mother didn’t want me to get away a second time unscathed. I went as far as to see a psychic because I felt deeply off and something wasn’t right at all about my mother. The psychic said that it was all my mother and that my mom betrayed robbed stole set me up and tricked me. She had others judge me with no justice. My mother is so angry aggressive and violent it’s scary she’s got the cops on her side she’s the biggest lier ever. I can’t believe I came out of something so nasty mean and horrible. My mom is just so mad I left her and that I grew up. She’s always treated my brother great as the golden child even though he’s a mini bully of her. I’ve always been the scapegoat and she’s triangulated my brother against me where we don’t even talk to each other. I can only hope I get vindicated by god so I can get justice. I hope my terrible mother gets her bad karma for abusing me mentally, emotionally and psychologically.

[digitalphear]

rage... pure rage. but a calm still demeaner. that's how

[unmiss-com]

Set up positive mindsets as you set up new software. Whatever happens, keep going ahead. Believe you can because you can. Anything is possible if you love what you do and keep going ahead.

[patriciahartner]

The subsequent abuse from family is even more painful and extends the ramifications of the trauma to the end of your time on earth.