ADHD and Inconsistency - How to Live a Meaningful and Productive Life with Inconsistency

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Ever heard the phrase "consistency is the key to success"? In this video, I show you that you can have ADHD, be inconsistent and reach your goals.

Hey guys! In the spirit of this video, I'm back almost two months later with a video that I have been thinking of making for a lonnnng time.
Let me know down in the comments if you relate to my story, I'm really curious to hear your own experiences with inconsistency 💛 I wasn't able to fit everything I wanted in 15 minutes, so there might be a part 2!

Thank you for watching and I'll see you in the next one 👋🏻

Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
00:55 Back-story
04:16 The cycle of shame
08:02 ADHD and novelty
09:09 How inconsistency can affect your life
10:54 How to live a happy inconsistent life
15:25 Outro

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[clareking]

I love that you apologised for jumping from one thing to another. I have noticed that when people with ADHD talk to each other they can fully keep up with jumping around in conversation that Neurotypical people can’t. ADHD super powers

[elliemandeville]

The concept of “vanishing” because of fear of judgement is spot on. And the fact that you mentioned you procrastinated music lessons and would be embarrassed to show up because I didn’t practice. I remember knowing I NEEDED to practice but just couldn’t get myself to, and it made me feel like I was lazy.

I did the same thing and “vanished” from piano lessons from 4 different teachers throughout my life and felt line a failure

[janethetrout]

i needed to hear these things. you put exactly how i’ve felt my entire life into words, thank you.

[Lingu]

Hey, I watched this video exactly 2 weeks ago and it didn't leave my head. I am also 23 years old and only got diagnosed last yea. Since then I watched lots of videos talking about experiences with ADHD and a lot resonated with me and some uncovered hidden trauma but this one hit different.
I never had such a strong reaction, such traumatic memories uncovered and I am really thankful for that. I could explain very precisely to my therapist what was going on in my head.
Even though it is very tough and hurtful I am so thankful for giving me the ability to name and explain this. Please know that You at least helped this one person and no matter if you upload a video a week or one every once in a while, this is so very valuable to me and probably a lot of other people.
Love from Germany, Julian

[arkstok]

Jesus holy fuck, i have listened to a lot of people and professional with ADHD but so far no one said anything like what you described in the cycle of shame, i started skipping high school and eventually dropped out and what you said is exactly how i felt, thank you for that

[salmenkveld]

Recently I’ve learned that shame and regret are an smart way your brain justifies making the same mistake over again.
Imagine being on a diet and eating a big piece of cake. Instead of taking responsibility for our ‘mistake’ and enjoy the cake and continue with our diet later, we start feeling ashamed. However this is just so that we can justify our mistake and talk it right in our brain.
I used to do it a lot with procrastinating. When I was procrastinating I was judging myself while doing it. The moment I stoped judging myself it felt useless and I stopped procrastinating and started doing something useful!

[sevamo]

So timely, Candice. I'm raised to think that consistency (especially internally, like for values etc) is the marking of a good person. My hardships with consistency had made me feel like a bad person almost consistently. 10/10 not recommended

[Syneh]

YT algo reading my mind lol. I needed this today. I usually practice accepting the inconsistency but PMS is hitting me hard this month and my meds aren't working and damn it's been brutal. Thanks for the reminder and insight.

[remnantlightco]

Thank you for this video. I'm undiagnosed, but I strongly believe I have ADHD, and I've watched a few of your videos and I'm making connections to the patterns I have in my life. I presently beat myself up a lot about being inconsistent and I want to try so hard to do things consistently, but it doesn't ever work out that way. This is a much healthier perspective and one that I will take on.

[hadiaagha]

This is the story of my life ..just diagnosed with ADHD

[abhishekshukla]

I have struggled with "consistency" despite ultimately getting my goals done, I have always felt bad about myself. Thank you so much for changing my perspective! 🥺

[panasado]

Thank you so much for this video! I've been feeling this horrible "adult" pressure now that I'm living alone, and I'm shaming myself too much for not living like everyone else. I'm discovering a lot of hidden trauma, It really hit me... better than one of my therapy sessions lol. You make me feel validated and that I'm not broken, I really needed to hear this <3 I'm starting to accept and love my ADHD

[royasmiley]

I'm 30 and have not been diagnosed, but By now I'm 100% sure that I'm on the spectrum. Couldn't relate more to what you shared about our childhood hobbies and vanishing. in the last 2 years I started learning about ADHD and used the tools and techniques for people with ADHD and my life has changed for better.I acepted that not showing up everyday is okey as long as I continue and not shame my self for missing a day. Thanks for disecting this matter. I never thought this deeply about it. Looking forward to more videos from you😍

[robertaburatto]

I had the same problem with the piano lessons! The vanishing insight is on point! Thank you❤

[lyn]

I'm blown away every time I watch one of your videos. I follow many ADHD accounts and have heard many tips geared towards ADHD people, but none of them have ever helped me the way your advice does. You truly, truly understand ADHD problems and offer advice that *actually* helps. I've been using your tips in my life, and they actually worked. I'm sure I will use the advice from this video in the future too. It's fine if you're not consistent with posting on YouTube. What you'd posted in the past has been a gem, and I'm sure future ones will be as well.

[danny]

That is so true. I was diagnosed earlier this year and that was one of the things the therapist found out: I used to be ashamed of something I did wrong and I would vamish and leave whatever activities I was involved with. But we tend to internalized things because many times we are perfectionists.

[wirdyy]

Totally, I felt so related to your video. I dropped piano as well, between SO MANY other things. I even "disappeared" from uni and dropped a degree. Just stopped going to school. I think one of the things that helped me the most is growing up. The older I got, the less I cared about other people thoughts about me. Obviously I still struggle with this "circle of shame, " (specially I blame myself more than caring about other people's opinion), but I got a lot better about it.

Thank you for your words, feeling related helps a lot.

[vestaexplores]

Needed to hear this! I am never 100% consistent. Just cannot make it.

[Vb]

And then once you start to vanish it becomes a habit but you can always get back up whenever you want. This is pure wisdom. You've earned a subscriber.

[kshowme]

You described my university years to the point.