MONTESSORI AT HOME: Screen Time

MONTESSORI AT HOME: Screen Time

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[KittyBeeViolinT]

I feel you raise a very good point about the perspective of Maria Montessori cannot be available because not even a TV was available. So people really have make their own judgments.
When thinking about time allotted there is a purpose to certain uses of technology that should be considered, point and drag games, do not have the same value as a OSMO wear the child had a screen and manipulatives, or the coding games using legos. This play can be valuable for that child.
They may also what to begin learning video editing, photo editing, or digital art. If a parent would not cut a child off from drawing with pencil and paper, why cut off their time with a tablet and stylus.
An example I think of all the time is when my nephew was 7, so still young, he was using YouTube as a tool to learn origami. He watched the video while doing it, pausing when needed. He really made some amazing complex pieces of art but the recommended time limits were exceeded. He did make these pieces of art without the screen after he learned them as well.
I think really the strongest player should in time limits should be value of content rather than age.

[ZZ-qymv]

I was on the computer A LOT since 12 years old. I learned HTML and digital art on my own with a good chunk of that time and it has helped in leading to my career. I don't think screen time is all created equal. It makes a huge difference if it's passive or active screen time. The internet today is very different than what we grew up with though. There wasn't all this algorithm scientifically made to suck you into endless scrolling. Surely the internet will be very different in ten or so years and we'll have to reconsider our rules on internet-screen-time and social media for our children then.

[kionaki]

Thank you for making this video. I have so many thoughts to share.

Firstly, the importance of modeling. Very true! I’m a SAHM with a 5months old baby and 33month old toddler (not going to school yet) and I hardly use my phone in front of them. I only use my phone to video call my husband or order food delivery when they are around. I use my phone for me-time after they sleep. It is important to put your phone away while you are with your child. She is giving you her full attention and I think it’s basic manners that I give her my full attention as well.

As for screen time, my 33 months old gets screen time after the arrival of her sibling. I’m caring for them myself and I only have 1 pair of hands... so a little screen time for my toddler while I manage baby and the household.

I use YouTube Kids. You can restrict the channels your child watches. I only have 5 channels allowed in my child’s account. She gets 40mins every morning while I wash up, take care of baby, and prep breakfast. YouTube Kids has a timer function. Once time is up, she knows to lock the phone and return it to me.... and then it’s her turn to wash up. Any meltdowns after time is up? Rarely. The trick is to redirect her attention (to washing up and eating breakfast. Make it fun!) and stay firm. Time’s up means time’s up. No extra time. Stay firm.

I do see benefits in screen time for my toddler. We are a bilingual family. I converse with her in mandarin, read & sing to her in English. I found her communicating to me in English more after having screen time.

At the end of the day.... it’s the parents’ job to control and filter the videos that your child gets to watch. Not all videos are bad. Some are educational.

[RaquelSilva-ddto]

I really admire the people that can do no screens!!! Here that is sometimes the only way I can get things done that are important like cooking. I try to involve as much as possible my son but sometimes he doesn’t want. We use YouTube kids and that is a little easier for us since you can choose and block videos, set ages, also set times. He is usually watching right next to me and I can block anything I don’t want him to watch. And documentaries and music videos (music performance). I tell people they shouldn’t underestimate what their kids can watch and will like. My son LOVES documentaries about sea animals (the ones we watch don’t have as much narrative) and certain opera videos like the aria “largo al factotum” from the barber of Seville. He asks to see those and know it by memory. He is 3 btw.

[katiegreene]

Daniel Tiger is so easy to watch as an adult. I've learned so much. They even show examples of how to handle things as a parent. Does anyone else love when Mom and Dad Tiger Grrrr a bit? I do. It makes me feel like I'm not alone, in this. haha

[truthchangelove]

So I have a 15 month old son with Down syndrome and in order to get him to do exercises I use Sesame Street as motivation because it's the only thing that will keep his attention. If I leave him freedom to explore, he will just lay there. I never wanted to do screen time this young, but I had to look at the cost and benefit. If it helps him to crawl and walk sooner, then it's worth it to me.

[Minimadaa]

Thank you for this! As someone who grew up on the internet, I became severely addicted before that was even a ‘thing’ and have been for 20 years... I’m talking 5-15 hours a day, every day. My baby is almost 4 months and just starting to notice screens, and I know this is going to be the hardest parenting endeavor, since she will look to my bad behavior as an example unless I make my own big change very soon! I don’t want to hide her from technology since you need those skills in today’s world, I want to find a healthy balance with intentionality.

[LissaxKristine]

If you're interested in some new screentime options, check out Signing Time. There are a few different shows on their site:

Baby Signing Time: Sign Language videos geared to children 0-2 years old
Signing Time: Sign Language videos geared towards children ages 3 and up
Rachel and the Treeschoolers: Teaches science concepts to children ages 2-8 (using music, sign language)
Baby Joy Joy Sing and Sign: Animated nursery rhymes/songs with sign language interpretation.
Rachel and Me: Talking about different topics (rainbows, manners, feelings, clean hands, going outside in the winter) with music/ASL.

Most of these shows use a mixture of animation and live video. Baby Signing Time, for example, not only shows an adult demonstrating the signs, but also shows clips of babies and toddlers demonstrating them as well. (Signing Time shows children of all ages demonstrating). Rachel and the Treeschoolers goes back and forth between animated segments and non-animated ones.

Rachel and Me, as far as I'm aware, doesn't have any animated segments. This format consists of Rachel Coleman sitting with three young children essentially having a circle time discussion on a specific topic- along with learning some sign language and singing a song using those signs.

[thepalmerpack]

The modeling part is so important! You realize how much you as a parent are on your phone when your child starts so notice and also want to see the screen. your videos are so inspirational to my Montessori Journey with my one year old, Rorik

[stefaniemarraccini]

Thank you. We started some screentime with Daniel Tiger. We do it right before nap and he gets one episode. We did this as 2020 quarantine started bc the show demonstrates some social courtesies and opportunity to observe “life outside the virus”. I asked our pediatrician and she said “it’s probably fine, guidelines aside, watch the show with your child, don’t let them eat while watching and make sure you don’t substitute screen time for books”. She also mentioned that sometimes we need to do things bc of circumstances and our own mental health.

[maggierose]

This is SUCH a helpful and inspiring video! I’ve been turning the TV on WAY too much for the kids recently and I’ve been thinking I need to cut back and then your video popped up! You are amazing girl! Keep doing what your doing, you’re making an impact on so many people! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[sirineelawar]

Question for your next blog: Do you worry about Kylie and Mia not interacting with other toddlers/kids their age due to Covid? How are you developing their social skills when they don't get to interact and build relationships with other kids ?

[farahwaseem]

Most awaited topic! I allow my 2.5 yo screentime for one hr max a day and time the internet connection for that time and when its over, my toddler has learned to accept it and shuts down the laptop happily. It works!

[nadiasaurusrex]

When I was very little, my absolute favourite thing to watch was nature documentaries, and it's something I still do to this day. I really hope to show my future kids (age appropriate) series about the natural world and the wonderful things in it, and maybe a Disney movie once or twice a week because I like to watch them too lol

[indib]

I've never been this early lol. I gotta say I am nowhere near the moment in my life I'd want to raise a kid but as a person who went to a Montessori primary school, it's great to learn about the philosophy behind the things that seemed so normal to me as a kid!

[victoriabush]

AAP updated guidelines in 2016 to exclude video calls from screen time, meaning it's ok for babies to use facetime. I know this might matter for many parents in the midst of this pandemic. I believe that it's because they are seeing real life and interacting with real people.

[Amijb]

So true about the modeling! I cut back my screen time to 1-2 hours a day because I realized I cannot put limits on my sons screen time or give him no screen time at all if he constantly sees me on it.

[kait]

My 2 year old has very rarely seen a cartoon, but her screentime consists of your weekly vlog (She loves asking for "Kylie Mia") and the FiveTwoLove quintuplets. Not necessarily "educational, " but we watch them together and she has loved seeing kids about her age. This is especially true in a time when playdates with other toddler are a bit risky.

[denisekohlmann]

Songs for Littles on YouTube is the only program I allow my toddler to watch at the moment. Its educational and reality based and she loves it. I only really let her watch it when I’m brushing her hair (to get her to stay still) and when I’m cooking a long dinner meal. Works wonders!

[marwahbagi]

My son is 15 months old now and we started to do some screeen time, we play songs and we dance together, he learned some moves and thats really cute . Although we only play 3 songs/ aday, maximum and we ask him ro stand on the rug, just away enough feo. The tv. And if he gets too close we turn off the tv, so finally he learned to watch from a distance