Being Non-Binary Makes No Sense

[Zadamanim]

Escaping sexism by becoming trans is like escaping a hole by falling into a bigger hole.

[ouiouibaguettes]

Sweatheart you do NOT escape sexism by being nonbinary

[Supernova_Explosions]

I love thinking of gender as a galaxy, picturing myself as a little star, floating somewhere within. That’s where I feel most like myself.

[cypress_is_repulsivv]

it’s not about attention, I just don’t feel like a dude anymore, but I know I’m not a girl. that simple

[sonamorningstar]

Everyone gives different answer then you ask them "what is a non-binary". Social gender construct doesn't make any sense anyway.

[violetskiy]

This is exactly the reason I thought I was nonbinary, all influencers I relate to are nonbinary and it makes me sad

[AaronCMounts]

If girls identifying as non-binary is really due to sexism or misogyny, then why are we seeing it more in 2022 than in 1962 or 1982 or even in 2002? Did our society become *more* sexist or misogynistic between 1962 and 2022? And if so, please explain *with precision* both how and when that happened.

[silver_bat._.]

why would someone be non-binary in order to feel special? As someone who identifies this way, it’s not easy at all, i don’t feel “special” at all. Being non-binary has isolated me from my family because they think that identifying as a different gender than your sex at birth is stupid and a plea for attention. They don’t know i identify this way because they would shame/guilt me and gaslight me into thinking that i don’t know myself well enough to make these decisions for myself. I avoid even telling people that i’m non-binary publicly because i’m afraid of what they will think, and have only recently encountered teachers and friends that allow me to be fully comfortable and myself. I struggle also with gender dysphoria and feel discomfort about parts of my body that are indicative of my gender. I mean it is what it is and this is who i am so i just have to deal with it but…why would i WANT to be non-binary to be “special.” If this was for attention i’d be running around telling everyone i’m non-binary, but i don’t because it’s scary, and usually ends in feeling terrible about myself and upset. Being non-binary was never the issue for me, in fact i can recall being free of depression and other issues i was dealing with when i began to identify this way. The issue is people like you who misunderstand us, spread false information, invalidate us for absolutely no reason. Can you please just worry about yourself?

[MMoturi]

Addressing the points

1. No non binary person believes that's merely straying from gender norms defines being non binary

2. What we consider masculine and feminine is entirely arbitrarily determined and varies between cultures. Pink used to be a masculine colour and some cultures have women wear their hair shorter than men.

3. There's a lot of non binary people assigned male at birth. Also you don't escape sexism being non binary. Non binary people assigned female at birth experience more hardship than cisgender women

4. There's zero pressure to medically transition as a non binary person. Most non binary People present themselves in a fashion typical of their assigned gender at birth.

Anything else?

[dannyboy]

I'm a feminine guy and yes i agree that doesn't make me non binary

[margaritakleinman]

Yes Misha, you are right. Sexism and misogyny has always existed. I think your explanation about this subject, is very wise and accurate. And it's true, we can all have both masculine and feminine traits or interests, doesn't mean a person is "non-binary", which term is a very recent one! Girls who in the past were called "tomboys" (I was one) are now "non-binary"!

[willow]

Lgbtq- clothes aren't gendered
Colors aren't gendered
Toys aren't gendered
Activities aren't gendered

Also lgbtq- my 3 year old son likes wearing dresses and the color pink. He also likes playing with dolls and playing dress up so he must be a girl.

Make it make sense

[_koraki]

No hate, but have you ever considered that it’s not the “norms” for some people? Just like you have an internal sense of being a woman no matter how you alter your appearance, some of us have an internal sense that we are neither man or woman. You don’t have to understand others to be respectful. Even if I am feminine, I still feel very much so non binary, ever since I was I child I have had no connection to “being a girl” that has nothing to do with stereotypes and misogyny. If others can’t respect or understand how I feel that’s ok, but I am just how I am and nothing will change that ❤

[teamojesusss]

It's funny because like 2 days ago, someone on a YouTube video said he was non-binary because he didn't do girly or boyish stuff (he didn't follow gender stereotypes). He wore skirts while being a boy/man. So he's just an effeminate boy/man, that's literally it. The other way would be a tomboy girl/woman. Being a tomboy woman or an effeminate man means you're non-binary now? Who would have thought? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[aansimns]

Very true. Also one theory I have about girls not wanting to be girls is because nowadays we do not have admirable female role models. Strong (actual) women with femininity is basically nonexistent.
As an adolescent I found myself looking up to nearly only men, masculine characters. I wanted to be like them and it caused me to hate my feminine.

[lemonshobbies]

Girlypop I’m non-binary and it has nothing to do with misogyny, what are you on💀

[khenji]

What about non-binary transgenders? Could someone please explain it to me? If you are non-binary then from what and to what have you changed?

[bnsz]

I went on a live stream on TikTok of a trans man. He literally said he doesn’t know what it means to feel trans. He doesn’t understand what he feels to make him do this. And he already went through top surgery and is taking hormones and is only not having bottom surgery because it’s expensive. It was very sad to see.

[torgue]

You do realise there are feminine nonbinary people who were assigned female at birth and masculine nonbinary people who were assigned male at birth, right? It's not about gender stereotypes, it's the same internal knowledge of your gender like the one that's telling you you're cis and not trans or enby

[ugxrgbj]

“Your great granddaughter happens to be a cross dresser!” - Random Ancestor, Mulan