Feeling Busy But Getting Nowhere? Let's Talk

Toxic productivity is a huge issue for those of us with ADHD. As an ADHD coach who's been there myself, I understand the constant pressure to be productive. I'll break down why we often feel busy but unproductive, and share practical tips to shift from toxic productivity to a more intentional, feel-good approach. You'll learn how to align your actions with your true goals and break free from the cycle of endless busyness. Whether you're struggling with burnout or feeling guilty for taking breaks, this video will give you the tools to create a healthier relationship with productivity that works for your ADHD brain.

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[Sevse-nhfi]

My biggest issue is that I can only do One Big Thing per day. Like maybe working on a project or going to the store. I dont know if Im doing something wrong or if these are my limits and I’ll just have to live with it

[ilovenycsomuch]

It’s so validating to hear you talk about this. I’ve been so overwhelmed & unproductive possibly in my life for the past months. I’ve had a growing to-do list that I can never keep up with & I’ve felt like a failure & incompetent of functioning as a normal person every single day. But, even more so than ever before these past months for some reason, I have been SO slow at everything +procrastinating & taking too long breaks but especially just taking forever to accomplish any tasks. Earlier this year my mental health was rock bottom so I tried truly prioritizing my health for the first time ever (meditating, daily walks, basic skincare routine, playing piano, workouts, eating relatively healthy, journaling, etc.) & it seemed to be a little better. But idk what happened, I got more & more incapable of getting things done that I rarely get to the point of earning such things & having time for them. I check off maybe 3 tasks on a good day & that’s not enough so I can’t prioritize those things over the time to get more done hopefully (but still procrastinating & taking too long of a break). I’ve gotten into a horrible slump of waking up very late & trying to work on stuff & I put off eating until I’ve felt I’ve done enough to earn it. Cuz I know when I take a meal break I’ll take too long to muster up the motivation to resume working so I must try to get the critical tasks or necessity amount of tasks completed before I can eat. Many does I don’t consume any thing until 5pm to as late as midnight, I’ve even gone 24 hours without eating. Right now that is regular for me to have one meal a day in the evening, & usually it begins too late that I eat & watch YouTube for a few hours & get nothing done after. I have Invisalign now so I don’t have the option to sip or snack throughout the day, I have to be intentional about when I have a meal. There was a specific period where I would do this & finally “earn” my much needed meal break at like 3am & go to sleep at 4-6am. This was all during unemployed job searching but I finally got a job so I’ve been trying to transition my schedule, it was starting to work but I fell back to my old late nighters & not able to get out of bed before noon. So I rarely walk, never meditate or journal, hardly do workouts, abandoned my attempt at a skincare routine, haven’t touched the piano in weeks, roughly one meal a day, and getting anywhere from 6-4 hours of sleep (with a few unintentional all-nighters). This chase for any sense of accomplishment has been killing me & I feel awful & hate myself every day. I feel extremely guilty when I spend time with friends or my bf cuz I have all these things I haven’t done & even my paper thin social life stresses me out. But I feel so guilty and ashamed when my bf asked what did I do today & I haven’t done anything… 🤦‍♀️

[Livv_it_is]

This video speaks directly to my heart! I struggle SO MUCH with toxic productivity and the need to be ALWAYS doing something which brings results and acknowledgement from others.

[julietteferrars]

I think for me, part of it is that I’m afraid if I stop, I will fall back into freeze mode where I languish and become nonfunctioning. Another part is that I enjoy the feeling of satisfaction from genuine productivity, so I try to force it and replicate that feeling, but end up running nowhere and burning myself out instead.

[whatthefifty]

Thank you for this video. I purchased Notion based on your recommendation, and now I’m sitting here looking at it, totally confused on how to use it or how to even learn how to use it! So I’m going to just be still, get super clear on what I really want, then try to execute in a way that makes sense for ME. I’ve been stuck in a hopeless cycle of toxic productivity, trying to perform at the level of all my neuro-typical peers, and it just doesn’t work. So thank you for not only this video, but for every single one of them. My life is changing because of them!

[LevendeStreg]

I so love your videos. Thank you for being so honest and for being you! 🙌

[mikegrowe]

I have no vision, no aha moment, no clear path of where to go. Everywhere I look, I see closed doors or a door that if I walk through, it will be detrimental to my family along with having adhd doesn’t help.

[didi-uiys]

Caren thank you for your video. They really help me understand myself better without theraupetists.❤

[lisab]

I needed to hear this. Thank you for helping so many people with the information you share 😊 you are a blessing ❤️ take care

[GilliMarieMoody]

I have time. I fall asleep after I eat so… I either skip eating till I do the task and/or fall asleep for at least 30 minutes then, do the task, but… late! I’m usually pleased about accomplishing the task, but… I also end up in bed later which is not good. Today, I will write down a WHY. I must.
Cheers.

[ADPX]

Funny I go from digital to paper taking notes and bought an IPAD thinking that would be the be all end all. Nope. I told myself I am not going to manufacture work for my day job to just stay busy. Nothing to do and my team is above metrics I am going to coast through the rest of the day. Don't be busy for the sake of being busy

[Seline]

"Doing for the Sake of Doing", the feeling of freedom ..but since my brain won 't shut up when im doing anything that requires focusing i feel like toxic productivity here works better :( as i don 't have time to think? idk

[WildpixFPV]

I trust you a lot Caren. Not all the things work right away, I have to take my time, step by step as a 50yo just diagnosed, self acceptance first, then look what's up.
I do not trust some other channels like "adhd vision" - that guy is almost a scammer to me.

[Dancestar]

It means you’re in constant burnout just from existing like all of us who are neurodivergent who don’t get the big breaks in life that we deserve

[whatthefifty]

Thank you for this video. I purchased Notion based on your recommendation, and now I’m sitting here looking at it, totally confused on how to use it or how to even learn how to use it! So I’m going to just be still, get super clear on what I really want, then try to execute in a way that makes sense for ME. I’ve been stuck in a hopeless cycle of toxic productivity, trying to perform at the level of all my neuro-typical peers, and it just doesn’t work. So thank you for not only this video, but for every single one of them. My life is changing because of them!