What A Woman Needs From Her Husband

Elder Glynis Sherard of Light of the World Family Worship Church, 2400 South Broad Street, Hamilton NJ 08610 teaching part 3 from the series "It's Not You, It's Me".

[jewishbride]

Praise God for the promise of mature marriages in Christ! In accordance with this word and psalm 51:17, 1 john 1:9, 2 chronicles 7:14, james 5:16, ephesians 4:15, ephesians 5:22-33, ephesians 4:32, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind myself and my god-ordained spouse to desire be repentant over evil behaviour that drives another away while binding to hell every lack of desire to be repentant over evil behaviour that drives another away, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with anyone lacking desire to be repentant over evil behaviour that drives another away, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!

[brightpage]

“She’s not asking for your right arm. She’s asking you to spend time with your family.” Lol! Yes!

[rashad]

I want my marriage and I want my wife!!! For almost 9yrs now, I kept a career, provide for my family, cooks, clean, does the grocery shopping and tends to the children just so the wife can focus on self and her business. I love her sooo much and I thought by me doing these things were enough, but I found out that I haven’t been there for her emotionally. The very area where she needs me to most. I grew up without a father and never had that example in my house. How do I be there for her emotionally when I don’t know how too. I need help, I want my wife.

[Msrussianbeauty]

What an amazing sermon!!!! Thank you so much dear sister!!!

[ggrace]

I listened to this twice but couldn’t get my husband to. So I tried telling him the 4 kinds of love and he shook his head immediately, saying, “I’m not Greek and I can’t figure out what you want so leave it be.” That’s how it’s gone for 40 years. 20 years ago or so he asked for a small notecard that he could slip into his wallet with 5 things I need. I put down only four—my top two being the most important: 1) say “I love you every week, or when I do something he loves about me. 2) show affection daily that he doesn’t try to turn into sex, like when he comes home from work, or when I’m cleaning up after dinner etc. I really miss that. 3) listen to me like you really hear me, making eye contact, and responding with sentences instead of, “uh-huh, hmmm, ” or a grunt. 4) keep my libido burning by treating me the way he did while we dated. I made the small card, printing two needs on each side and then laminating it. He didn’t do any of them even once. About 3 months later he said he forgot about it as soon as he put it in his wallet, but he’d do better from then on. But alas, he didn’t do any of them ever. Some years later I took the pristine card out and threw it away. He didn’t even notice. I’m not really sure why I go on praising him, thanking him, being playful and fun, and giving sex whenever he wants even though he kills my libido by yelling and being quick tempered—I give him my all so I can get it over with ASAP (I became really good at faking). But at least when I go before God I can say I tried to meet his needs. I love him as a partner and good friend. But I haven’t been in love for 35 years. That’s just what happens when needs aren’t met.

[lyvettemosley]

This was some great teaching that should be taught again and again. Thank you.

[brightpage]

“Your sexual needs are just as important as her emotional ones”. Preach, my sister! Thank you! Men want their phallus to be worshipped… but at the heart of that is connection and love and that comes through feeling emotionally safe for us.

A few years ago I could care less if my man worked late or hung out with friends. I encouraged him to go have fun. He needed that. But recently, it felt so threatening because in the management of our lives with so many young children now, we have lost that sense of fun with one another and I feel he is seeking it elsewhere and I’m jealous that I’m excluded from those plans of his because this time around he never makes them with me. I’ve invited him and gotten to the point of begging but months go by and still nothing but excuses… for me. But fun for them. Yeah. It is completely demoralizing and makes me want to run faster from this marriage than I would from the devil, himself.

Thank you, Pastors, for strengthening us. It’s easier to hear from a stranger on a YouTube sermon things I’. Defensive hearing from my husband because from him it feels like criticism but from you it feels like hopeful suggestions, not admonishment. It feels like focusing on a brighter future God has planned for us, not rehashing destructiveness of the past.

[brightpage]

Powerful speaker and so true! Thank you, Pastor!

[felixtaha]

It’s a wonderful message and I’m happy and learning so many things that are important in the relationship thank you mom God bless you very much.

[brightpage]

We want to be invited for your fun, not have to beg for it.