Why He COMES BACK After You Give Him DISTANCE!

When you give him distance, it completely repolarizes the magnetism, the dynamic. And in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly how to do that, how to repolarize the energy, how to pull your energy back, and how that will completely change the level of magnetism you are putting out.

Now, the thing to mention with this to understand is this is really just an energy game. That's all that is. And we don't wanna say necessarily a game, but it kind of is in a way, in the sense that the energy we put out, we are getting a reflection of, and people are playing according to the dynamics that we are kind of engaging with them with.

So when it comes to somebody that is feeling either repulsed or that is backing away their energy, the thing to remember is that if you would just let them do that, just let them back away, let them go into their own energy field, what you would end up finding out is that it actually does way more good and it allows them to process whatever they're going through and it allows them to be in their own space so that then they desire to actually come back into your energy.

And think about it in an analogy I've shared in many YouTube videos, but in comparing this to a dog, if you start chasing a dog, the dog plays with you, it's responding to the energy you're putting out.

Now, I'm not saying whoever you're dating is a dog, but what I'm saying is when that is, if you stop chasing a dog, the dog will just kind of turn around and be there. But if you chase, it's like, oh, oh, and it starts running away 'cause it thinks you're playing or she thinks you're playing.

And in the same way when it comes to dating, it's like people feel the energy that's being put out. And the challenge as well is that if it's a needy energy, if it's a needy energy, if it's an energy that's kind of codependent, that's almost like, "If you gave me validation or love or support, then I would feel better."

They feel that. It's an energetic thing and it's very off-putting. So sometimes in this dynamic, all you have to do is let go and trust that them being in their own field will then allow them to either appreciate you or to go on their way and then you don't continue to waste your time.

So what this is really about is this is an energy dynamic that has to do with being able to be receptive as to why he may be asking for space to begin with as well. And sometimes there's one of two options I can generally see here.

On one hand, he may be somebody that just wants somebody or whatever the dynamic is, but he/she, but it's somebody that wants to be in their own field because maybe they've
been feeling too enmeshed in the energy field.

Maybe they've lost a sense of who they are versus who somebody else is. This is actually something that recently has come up in my own relationship because my girlfriend and I, we realized, okay, I'm gonna share some of this.

Basically, what we realized is very early on in the relationship, we've been together for a year now, and very early on in the relationship, we kind of moved very quickly where we kind of in a way moved in.

She lived in California, I lived in Austin or lived in Texas and we go back and forth with each other. But what we noticed is that when I would go with her, I'd be with her for a week. She would come here, she'd normally come here for months.

And it was either all or nothing because we lived in different cities and when we visited each other, it was like we were around each other all day, every day. Now, after about a year, what we realized is that it was getting in the way of the relationship in the sense to where, I think part of it too is my frame and my reality.

I have a schedule, I have routines, I have retreats that I do. And my girlfriend is in a process of really moving into a new sector of her life where she does her own retreat, she does her own things.

And it was challenging for her to do her own things when around all of my stuff because all my stuff has such a big gravity because I've been doing it for a while and stuff like that.

So what we found out is what she's doing is she's moving to Austin, but she's getting her own place. And what we found for our relationship is we actually are able to really appreciate each other in a much deeper way.

She's able to do her things, I'm able to do my things and we're not living on top of each other. And it was feeling at a certain point that things are becoming too enmeshed. We were around each other all the time and she wants to do her.

She's an amazing musician. So she wants to do her music. She wants to focus on things, but it's challenging for her to do when there's so much of like, I have people that come over that are on my team and stuff like that.

[lightfromevan]

What we chase we repel.
Let go and let God, what’s meant to be will be.

[lovepositivity]

Aaron all other coaches are asking us to dream and visualise about our sp but I think we only end up obsessing over them I enjoy your videos of letting go because you really help us from stop obsessing over them

[angiemason]

a successful relationship is basically a game of repel and attract? That sounds exceedingly tiring.

[tash]

I really have to say I feel a lot better since I watched your videos and have taken back my energy. Before I‘ve put all my energy all day long to this person, tried to manifest them in my life and I got really obsessive. Thank you!

[RRthee]

I appreciate this. Love the “energy cords” reference because it’s such an easy way to remember to and how to disconnect from the subconscious neediness. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[gabrielaraimondo]

I already distanced myself because he wasn't respecting our Love anymore... and I just couldn't take it anymore... we had a huge fight... and in 14 days... we only sent eachother a couple of msges to try to clear the air... but I sense he is still angry at me for putting my foot down... and he has a huge ago... bc I sent 2 or 3 msges and he just sent one... saying we would chat for now and gradually go back to what we were... and dissappeared... while I sent him music from Il Volo in a video... as we used to send eachother romantic music and things...❤ this was to put some Love even though we are apart now... but he did listen to the video and my nice words... but didn't even answer an emogy or whatever...
So now I'm pulling my energy totally back... if he wants to reach me... he knows where I am...
I love him but I'm not good chasing no one... and he knows I Love him even if things are like they are now...
I'm starting to Love myself!❤ I leave it to God!❤

[sunmoonstars]

You are really good at explaining the unseen realms of what is happening in relationships. Very few people are as good as you are at understanding and breakng it down, explaining to audiences. Your past and current experiences with females def helped you to become extremely intuitive and aware of what is happening. Im learning so much from you are very gifted.

[amandaj]

Aaron and his community would greatly benefit studying the psychodynamic theory and attachment styles. He teaches detachment which is great, but understanding the human condition and the different ways we attach to each other will give you more insight than just mere technique of playing it cool and giving distance.

[bellakim]

I think what makes a relationship thrive is Space, Confidence & Trust. I think, without Distance there is no Missing., and without Want, there is no feeling of Need. Making people Desire you is Necessary. Aaron, you're right on the mark with this theory! Happy 4th 🎉

[alien-oo-_-oo]

It sucks, from my experiences and your videos, basically we cant fully love or people start taking shit for granted..lol, if we’re too nice people get tired of it and all that bs, instead of people learning how to appreciate someone like that, we need to learn how to not be too good to someone and be more of a jerk or not care much. The shitty world we live in 🤣

[MindsetMom]

Yes the sleeping-in-separate-beds, is one of the practices in Judaism (I know other people do it too). It is during the time of the menstrual cycle the couple separates. Most Jews do it out of obedience to G-d (which is great, we don't always have to have an explanation). However, your video helped me connect the dots that that is probably why the Creator gave that particular commandment. We live in an energetic universe! That is helping me understand an aspect of my faith deeper, so thank you! And the "early phase of dating" stuff is great sharing. I really appreciate the teachings you do.

[dr.tapasyadiwakar]

His laugh is so different at the same type cute...i like it

[appledarling]

Man I wish I realized this years ago. A quote I heard a while back "Let go, or get dragged"

[donnawright]

Your videos have been LIFE changing for me . Thank you

[miryana]

Thank you Aaron 😘💙 you are fantastic 😊
I learned so much, to stay away from control freaks, who negatively influence me.
My ex, can find someone like him, a sociopath, cheating narcissist.
I moved away from negative environment too, .
💕m

Hope you are well, safe healthy.

[antoniaosborne]

Love Aaron but the thing that puts me off is he never writes comments and no one gets back to the support emails - i don’t mean to be ungrateful but it’s just nice to have that exchange of contract

[onurbole]

This never happens to me. I've never gone back to someone because they gave me distance. Sure, their obsession pushes me away from them, but only if I'm not romantically interested in the first place. If they give me space it's like hey I appreciate it. It's not like I don't care about them as person, so I may stop by and ask how they are doing, not because I've gone back. I can stay in touch with anyone as long as nobody is hurt, so if their romantic emotions are something of past I can be friends and show friendly care.

And that's exactly how people treat me too. I've never got someone back by giving them space. If they want space, chances are they don't want you like that anymore. They want space because they want to spend their energy elsewhere, and they'll have their romantic pursuits away from you. There is nothing you can do about it.

When two parties are interested there is no need for push/pull games. You're not bored, you're not suffocated, you just enjoy it. It can range from once-a-week genuine and deep interaction to excessive attention 24/7. The former doesn't feel aloof, the latter doesn't feel too much. The dynamics might change but the satisfaction is the same. When there is too much of an asymmetry between emotions, just let it go gracefully. There is no humiliation in it, no offense to be taken. You're just incompatible and that's okay.

[georgannkingsland]

I think I finally realized that this person is not for me and will not return is made up his mind but I did the parallel thing with you last night and I really feel that I'm going to meet someone that's right for me this time so thank you I'm hopeful

[kevini]

I am dealing with it now. Resisting all urges to contact. I know it will resolve one way or another eventually.

[Judith.]

Maybe there is another issue if you two need so much space to be able to appreciate each other. Just a thought... Namaste 💜⚕️