Female: “my life is going good I’m happy, good career, friends, fit and healthy.” La la la 🌸 🤸🏻♂️ 💃🏼
Male: “wow she looks happy..lemme go mess that up.”
KHKH-zpcq
I wasted no less than 7 years of my life with a guy just like that. It was the worst period of my life. Thank goodness I managed to get free onr day. Met a decent man, a good man who showed me what is like to treat a woman with respect. Am happily married and have 2 wonderful daughters.
anagaunt
"True love is predictable; there is no rollercoaster." That hits home. Thank you for this message, I needed to hear that.
michellemckinney
If he is hot and cold, he is not interested. Its the truth that is hard to face but nonetheless it is the truth. You deserve someone who wants to be with you and you will find that person!
AniWey
Blowing hot and cold is the oldest form of control, so if he shows you this, jog on, before he potentially ruins you.
I love all these videos, helping women to know their worth. The right guy being predictable is the key.
chrismclaughlin
This guy is really on our side, girls!
bell
Ladies if a man treats you in this way. It means one thing only and its this. HE DOESN'T WANT YOU! He is only still seeing you because he has no one else when he evenaully finds someone who he wants. It's bye bye but here's the thing he won't even be bothered to tell you bye you just won't see or hear from him again. Its as cold and as calculating as that. STOP ALLOWING YOUR SELFS TO BE USED!!! peace and love
charisse
This is honestly the best explanation of 'ghosting' or 'hot' and 'cold' behavior. Thank you.
AriaPringle
I was in this type of relationship for a year and it really was like I was addicted. I was so in love with him I put up with wishy-washy noncommittal behavior. When he texted me to make plans (because everything was on his terms) I would get this surge of happy positive feelings, but literally as our date wound to a close and we had to say goodbye I would feel depressed and deeply melancholic because I knew I had two weeks of spotty communication and excuses ahead of me. I started asking myself why I want to spend time with him when that feeling does not seem to be reciprocated. I ended up bumping into him while he was on a date - kissing and holding hands with another girl. That experience really broke me for a while and I am just now feeling confident and trusting again. That kind of "relationship" will mess with your sense of self worth, waste your time, and leave you asking why you were not good enough. I will never let myself be in that kind of situation again. This was such a great video and I wish I had seen it earlier!
sarahlacorte
I thought God made men to be strong...I came to realize us woman are the strong ones. We’ve gone and go through so much.
I do believe though for each whom finds their true-self through self love will find your life partner.
❤️ to you all. Thank you for this video.
pickeerose
What he's describing is intermittent reinforcement. A trait of Narcissists.
AuthorJanaeMarie
Wish I'd realised this 30 years ago, it's a form of trauma bonding not love.
ES-aussie
Always live as if you are single:
A man knows if you are "not" relying on him
A man knows if you are financially able to live without him
A man knows if you are able to walk away at anytime
A man knows if you value you as a the woman you are
When he knows the above, he will move the earth to keep you
Candeerose
"in reality, he knows very well what he wants; someone else!" This is SO true and hurts more like nothing else. I have been wasting my time and losing dignity for all these past months. The worst is that deep inside we do get what's going on we just don't want to assume it and keep fooling our own selves by remaining playing the game.
paredescax
I once dated a quality guy who was a bit indecisive after 2-3 months of dating me (was loving his bachelor life). I broke it off and didn't see him for a couple of weeks, told him that I wasn't about to waste my time again (I learned the hard way). That did it, he figured it out and well... Here we are about to celebrate 19 years married. And I concur, true love IS predictable, and you've nailed it in this video. We are still madly deeply in love. I really like your videos, if more women would listen to you there'd be less of us learning the hard way!
luingalls
What he is saying is exactly true..
When a guy loves you, there is no day that you will miss his message even if it is just a "good morning".
Love always finds a way to reach hearts no matter how busy a day could be. There is no busy day in "love". It just does not exist truly.
miranaluna
After watching this video I sent a message to my boyfriend and it says "I could love you forever but goodbye." I decided to let go than be addicted to him. I love myself and I know I deserve deserve better. But he just replied to me "I'll talk to you later."
I don't understand him anymore. But I had enough. No more waiting. Time to move on.
Meeb
It's best to always keep your options open and don't offer any guy commitment until HE has committed. When you have options the trash takes itself out. Don't give childish men your time and energy and do not beg for their attention. My favorite advice Brian has ever given is that if a mean disappears it's GOOD because you know he was not the one.
HeatherAnne
It's sad because, a lot of normal guys see that this kind of "hot/cold" behaviour works and start to act this way, even if they're intrested in a woman, long term. It's sad...
georgeioan
This is typical behavior for a dismissive-avoidant partner. If this happens to you constantly, believe me, you have to assess your own attachment style. It is not about "poor behavior", it goes deeper than that. And no, he does not want someone else, he doesn't want anyone basically since he is afraid of intimacy and commitment and cannot communicate his needs. He does not even want himself. Most ghosters today are dismissive-avoidant, just a tiny percentage is really a "mean person" or wants to do you harm intentionally. The biggest part in this is on you, and why you are attracted to unavailable people :-) Brian, can you go in depth regarding attachment styles? Bedankt!!!
