If You're An Empath, WATCH THIS To Change Your Life In 11 MINUTES!

So everything is self or other. When you're focused on other, many of us, and I think this has happened at, do any of you have or even either felt like you had or had either a parent that was physically abandoning or emotionally abandoning?

Many of us. Now what happens in that phase of our life when we feel like we've been physically or emotionally abandoned, is we then make a choice and a decision that there's a level of shame there, there's something wrong with me.

So then what we end up doing is we end up trying to change ourself, we end up trying to change our own frame so that we can feel safe. So being an empath many times is a mechanism that we use in order to get our needs met.

And our needs being met may mean that we change ourself, that we can't say no when someone else wants us to do something, that we allow certain behaviors to happen. And that's rooted in this old pattern that we're used to playing in because we haven't found or recentered ourself back into ourself in a healthy way.

Narcissism is an unhealthy way of expressing the self. And being a people pleaser
in a way or an empath or somebody that can feel other people's energy, they lose or give away their own center of gravity in order to get their needs met.

Now, narcissists, what they do is they demand, they emotionally, they can emotionally manipulate. They have different tactics to get their needs met. Empaths and people pleasers have their own ways of getting their needs met, and it was a hard thing for me to look at because I had to become aware that my inability to say no and my desire to get other people to like me and to want other people's validation and approval was a way that I was going about trying to get my needs met.

So one of the things I had to realize, though, is that what I was trying to do in those moments is I was trying to get other people's approval and validation because I didn't get the approval and validation for my parents growing up.

And the reason I wanted that to really sink in, because it's a realization that sometimes these energy patterns we have is we're trying to find ourself in others. We've literally taken on other people's emotions, other people's actions, other people's ways of being, and we've internalized it.

We haven't found the difference between who am I and who are they? And that's why when it comes to boundaries, an important mantra to remember is that's your shit not mine, because as an empath, you don't know what the difference is.

Your friends, you wanna hang out and you don't wanna hang out, you don't have time for it? Yet can't say no because their unhappiness or their unapproval is your emotion. You end up feeling that. Now what this I believe is either narcissism or empaths is it's rooted in that abandonment from childhood.

The funny thing is that in order to get our needs met, we will go through that, to change ourself, to change our own energy, to get other people to like us or other people's approval,
we've already caused and had the first level of abandonment.

We've abandoned ourselves. And that's what causes us to then change our center of gravity and to be that way around other people. So if I had to learn to do and I had to go through a phase a couple years ago where I started to become aware of this, is I had to stop abandoning myself.

And that was very hard for me to do because I had to start looking and noticing the difference between what's their stuff, what's my stuff? And one of the most powerful techniques I've learned, I actually learned it from Doug, and that was the frame technique.

How many of you heard me talk about the frame technique? And we've kind of already
done it on the first day when we were doing the Om activation, but you literally feel
that, you feel in your body and you feel not just the connection, 'cause as empaths, we're
already all connected, we're all one consciousness.

At the same time, we're also separate. And as we start delineating and feeling the separation between us and other people, what we end up finding is we start noticing
that we can now take responsibility for our own stuff and realize that other people's stuff is not ours.

Does that make sense to you guys? So, yes, that's a great question. So she was asking about the balance of being able to assert boundaries and then having the initial response from people, or also asserting boundaries and feeling kind of fiery with it.

There is a phase you may go through as you do start setting boundaries where you almost feel guilty for setting boundaries and you almost resist and you don't want to be… People pleasers tend to have a challenge stepping into tension.

[antoniapana]

"We are training people to respond to us based on how we allow them to treat us."
That hit hard. All my life I was complaining and annoyed about mistreatment and disrespect by others. They just respond to my lack of boundaries.

[summersunriseyoga]

Meditating every day for the last 10 years has helped me so much in every aspect of my life. It's easier for me to see now that I am responsible for where I am in life and to respond as consciously as I can from now on.

[njdzoz]

Rumi — 'The wound is the place where the Light enters you.'

[Rayon.Miller]

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.🖤👁💫

[lauriemayer]

I’ve always felt blessed to be a really good receiver, and I’ve always considered that a very positive thing… I think so many people struggle with self-worth, and I feel like I was naturally born with a very high sense of self-worth, which is actually how I think we are all meant to be. And I’m definitely an empath!

[gavinspeaks]

One of the biggest secrets I discovered in life is to figure out how to love life more than you love to sleep!
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction YouTuber💜

[jonathanjoestar]

The thing is, I am not afraid of not chasing. I am afraid if I do, would that mean me losing my ex forever.
I was in a long distance relationship for 7 months and because of me not being able to communicate the last month, she broke it off (there's more valid reasons that went into this but not communicating enough was a key reason).
And ever since the broke up happened, I was being needy and started pestering around her friends for advice. Which turned out to be a very bad decision. Yet rather than pushing me away completely she was just annoyed. She truly is my one true love, the only person who I see spending the rest of my life. She is just way too kind hearted, humble and all of our like, interests, values align so well.
I really don't know how to go about this. I need help 😭
I just want to be a better person and win her back over...

[sonyakc]

Boundaries are expectations of others and yourself. Aaron you are teaching the truth. There's sooo many people struggling from these very things. The truth will set you Free.
I have been sifting through many ideas of what I want to do on YouTube, and this is it. I feel it stronger than anything else. I'm still working on my own muck. How can I start with like I have said, heard you say also, equipment, device's, poor Internet.???

[LION-ongd]

Love ❤️ your way of explaining this ❣️ We are the Empath comunity❣️ Without exagerating ...Like Jésus wanted You to stand up for us..helping us..understanding us..listening to us..Thank You soo much❣️🕊God bless You. Amen.🕯🙏🕊

[Froggy_on_paws]

I'm such a magnet for emotions. When someone is stressed I really take all their emotions on, it makes me push people away and I can't seem to find a balance 😔

[ShreyafromIndia]

Thank you for all the light into the confusion, fear and darkness of our lives

[MP-fkem]

I have been watching you for 6+ years. I love being a witness to you becoming such a great person and doing what you are called to do. I appreciate you for ALL that you do!!

[WisdomWithin]

Dropping some wisdom, Aaron! Thank you. You're illuminating 💫💚💗

[modhish]

Amazing! Would love to see stuff on setting boundaries via confronting disrespect, specially when its in the grey, unclear..that disrespect that catches you off guard and you regret that you recognize “what you shouldve done” 10 min later when the thing is gone..& then obsession starts

[lainalee]

Wow. Right on. No matter what the reason one is an empath, this totally makes so much sense!

[ChannelJtotheD]

Brilliant video! Keeping boundaries and being in my power. Thank you

[SB-fvwf]

i utilise my empathetic skills to help and support people that have abandonment issues as i can relate better. i dont seek validation for myself but by helping narcissist im getting to know myself better and who i am and if anything i do it by seeking validation for others. after clearing my energy i find im more connected to myself and it makes me a super-empath and i then find i can bring in results for others who struggle to get over abandonment issues. it helps me to heal along the journey.

[faithn]

Hi Aaron doughty, I am grateful to have found your videos since 2 years ago. I realise my friends like to talk to me about their problems and I have been subconsciously absorbing people’s emotions, making me feel like I am experiencing their problems itself. Hence I learn to do meditations to make myself feel separated from those problems. I learn to set boundaries and make myself say no to what I do not like

[adriennemyles]

OMG thank you for explaining why I am what I am. You have helped me so much Aaron. HUGS!!! My mom is dying of cancer and I could not have found you at a better time. Thank you!

[mauribrewster]

Watching you grow has been amazing. Thank you so much for helping me see things so differently now for 2 and a half years. My go to guru lol.