20 Things To NOT Say To Someone With ROCD (& What To Say Instead)

Has a partner, friend, family member or acquaintance said something about your ROCD experience that was hurtful?

Maybe they unknowingly said things that triggered you, which caused you to obsess and feel guilty and shameful.

I've definitely had this situation happen to me many times when I experienced ROCD!!

So, to make it easier for you:

Here are 20 things NOT to say to someone who experiences ROCD.
And on the flip side there are least 10 good, useful tips to say to someone INSTEAD.

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[DblCherryPie]

“Listen to your gut” is the most triggering for me. I can’t listen to my gut because it’s constantly making me feel like my life is falling apart at that moment

[thekadju]

the funny thing is, these people that don't understand that after honey moon phase ends and they don't get that dopamine rush anymore and they just keep leaving their partners, they will never find a life long partner, because love is not dopamine.

[trintrin]

My boyfriend asking what’s wrong is a bigger trigger because it makes me feel like I have to confess something

[alexistokarska]

"stop thinking that much" is actually a thing I need personally. I remember that while an OCD attack my older sister told me this. "stop thinking that much, you're even thinking about thinking and that's causing you even more anxiety" (she actually has anxiety herself), and that's when I realised that I'm in a great loop of overthinking, searching for answers in my own head and triggering my compulsions. Ofc I won't say it will work for everyone as well as won't work. I'd say I see it like 50/50 solution.

[eve]

I spoke with my boyfriend about my ROCD. He is there to support me and he knows what triggers me. I told him what intrusive thoughts I have, etc. I am so thankful that I have him in my life.

[frambuesasz]

I actually heard that “Listen to your gut” bullsh*t from someone with ROCD, that’s what triggered me the most.

[carolinadelaossa]

As an ROCD sufferer this video made me cry. I suffered from these kind of comments each time I wanted to talk about this with someone, and all of this, in combination with the huge anxiety it made me feel, just made me go through one of the most difficult moments in my life. Thank you for doing this.

[compagniaelvira]

Yesterday I was with her. I had so many things to blame to her… and none of them was actually real. I got drunk, and started to vent things out. She neutralised every bit of disappointment I might have had. It was so hard to admit how wrong I was… but then I did. I started to insult myself…and it felt good. Then I talked to her, I was looking at her… how lucky I felt! She is amazing, caring, smart and beautiful.
“And yet, to me, what is this quintessence of dust?” (Hamlet).

[selenefirme]

I wish my boyfriend saw this before. But oh well now I will show it to him!

[saleao]

I think I may have ocd and my girlfriend is by my side Always. It’s hard everyday but I and all of you have to fight cause things will get better.

[MissSarahGM]

This triggered me big time : my ex with ROCD and unaware, would ask reassure from his family and I'm pretty sure that's what they advised him, just dump her, she's not the one. I feel like everybody talked badly about me behind my back, instead of giving him real advice, go to therapy. Reflect why you never had a longer relationship than 2/3 months at 38yo for example...

[Vardagsvegan]

What a fantastic channel!! I have a group here in Sweden with pure o and we are starting to spread awareness.

[LaSpookyEXE]

I have bad rocd i always feel i’m not love enough i also have abandoment issues and bipoalr depression

[christinas.]

This list in and of itself is triggering 😩 lol. Some of my biggest obsessions were the doubts mean it’s wrong and “something being off”.I would ruminate over that one 24/7. Just repeating to myself “something is off, something feels off, if I’m feeling “off” then it must be because something isn’t right.” Since finding your channel I have become more educated and now realize that the “off” feeling was actually my rocd itself. I created my own “off”.

I have been struggling still with this of course, but the improvements as a result of simply having a word for my condition are unbelievable. Major, major shifting. Thank you as always.

I was wondering if you could do a video at some point about the physical symptoms/sufferings of rocd.. in terms of the cycling. For me my rocd was 24/7 but every 2-3weeks (I started keeping track) I would have a major breakdown with all of these weird symptoms and I would feel like I was mentally “shifting”... I would get light headed and my heart would pound and my perception would feel “different” like I had just unlocked something and I felt like a different person during and after each breakdown. After I’d recuperate I would start cycling again, going back to my normally anxious self. I don’t know if this makes any sense? But it was always incredibly intense and I would need a few days to physically and mentally recover from it. I have luckily not had one of these major episodes since finding this channel, miraculously, only mini ones

[ellacascone]

I was just watching your video on the 7 types of OCD and the comments were disabled so I wanted to comment it somewhere:) I have felt like i’ve had ocd for a while but it’s been getting worse. i’ve been obsessive over swallowing and have been cleaning my room continuously everyday. thank you for being a first resource💜

[sachellelewis]

I dont know if I have this or not still. I feel like I have it. I just wish I could talk to someone about it so I can understand more if I have it

[ivankirchev]

Hmm, I'm trying to figure out why "you are your feelings" is a negative/bad/not supportive thing to say and how is it different from "you can feel whatever you need to feel". The thing that comes to my mind with "you are your feelings" is that a person is so much more. Rational thoughts, past experiences, choices and many more are also part of someones identity. Is that the downside of the phrase "you are your feelings"? Is there more to it?

[avisekhagarwal]

I have religious ocd a thought always come to me that my energies positive luck will be given to someone other and each time this thought stuck me I go to God idol and keep on reassuring myself and tell God that please don't give my energies to anybody Im feeling helpless please help me please please I beg

[orianuda]

es horrible lo de la intuicion, porque siento que la voz de mi toc es la voz de mi instinto :(

[miazed]

I don't agree, you do have an intuition but you're just listening to the wrong one, an intuition doesn't always comes naturally to you, sometimes it's hidden under layers and layers of false beliefs, but it's there. It's telling you that you have to heal, that the answers are complex and that you have to start looking for them. Your intuition leads you towards enlightenment, evolution, this intuition is far beyond our day to day problems, it's what made us and makes us human. I just think that people really are confused with the concept of intuition.